cheating husband?

i need help. i have a five year old son and i am 25 weeks pregnant. my husband is working away and  not at home for 2 nights. i rang him earlier on his mobile and somehow it connected and i listened to him for 3/4 hour in a car with a woman and then she was in his hotel room. he isn't answering his phone now surprise surprise and i don't know what to do. i know something is wrong because if it was innocent surely he would have told me but he said he was going for a walk when he left work and that was it

Re: cheating husband?

I'm sorry to hear you've discovered this, Lorraine, but don't forget there could be an innocent explanation. I know it sounds unlikely but don't jump to the worse conclusion straight away.

If you do think he's up to no good, try to get some other proof and look for other signs he's cheating. There's something on this site about it somewhere so have a look.

Then you need to think about what you'd do if he really is cheating. What are your feelings? Do you want to stay with him? Can you forgive him? If you can't what would you do and where would you go? It's horrible to think about but sometimes you have to be practical.

good luck!

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hi lorrain that must be awful for you, what you need to do is get hold of ure mans phone there will be something in there, when i loose trust in my boyfriend i check his phone but find nothing and dont know how you must feel but try and get his phone. good luck

j.parkinson

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 Hi lorraine ! This is a tough one , i suspected my husband of cheating on me when my children were 10 months and 3yrs. He worked away 3 days a week, i loved him to bits and i'm sure he loved me too , but once i got suspicious i had to find out and when i did it broke my heart, i couldn't forgive him i kicked him out and divorced him. it is something i have always regretted. but you have to follow your instincts they are not normally wrong, but you also have to think what are you going to do if you are right. are you going to forgive and forget then maybe he will think he can keep doing it.or are you going to kick him out and bring up 2 children on your own which believe me is very very hard, don't let other people influence you this is your life so do what you need to do hun .........

Re: cheating husband?

Hi Lorraine

If I was in your situation I would arrange a time when you and your husband can have a sit down and a good chat.  If you want to get to the truth then he needs to have confidence that you are not going to go mad at him, as he probably would not be able to handle the guilt.

 Explain to him that it is fine for him to tell you the truth and that the situation needs to be resolved, otherwise, who knows what the stress may do to you and your health.

If your husband admits having an affair then you need to stay as calm as possible to find out the reasons why he found it neccessary to look outside the marriage.  You need to be as calm as possible to get the whole truth, as soon as you start to shout and cry, he will not open up anymore.

 Good Luck, xxxx

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really sorry to hear that hun to be honest if it was the womans voice u heard just in the car i would say theres probably an explanation 4 it he cud b giving a friend or work mate a lift but in his hotel room ? it sounds 2 me like theres something going on but you have 2 make up your own mind beacouse he may b the type to come home and tell you nothing happend give u some poor excuse and u may want 2 bealeave him and maybe hed b telling the truth u have 2 go on ur own insinct u know him best but he may come home and tell you somethings going on whatever u decide u have 2 stick 2 otherwise if u stay and dont belave him ul hate him and urself so do what ur going 2 b able 2 live with good luck though my bf works away a lot and i know its like ur worst nightmare so i hope its all just a big misunderstanding.