Gynaecology Visit

Gynaecology Visit

Hi Everyone.

I am 36 years old, female and single, living with Spina Bifida and Hydrocephalus, with an indwelling catheter for bladder issues. I am also still a virgin, but am having major menstrual issues... heavy bleeding and clotting

 I have to go and see a gynaecologist on the 15th of January, I am petrified as I've never been before, nor been examined internally especially by a man, as this person is/will be. Do you think I'll have to be?

I feel so naive and embarrassed writing this, but hope someonce can help...

 Take care.

Janet x

Re: Gynaecology Visit In reply to: Jan

Janet, poor you. It must be terrible to be suffering as you have been.

I know how you feel about internal examinations - I have 3 children and I didn't dread the pains of labour as much as I did the internal exam they give you during it! I also dread smear tests with a vengeance also and I'm sure we're not the only ones.

Unfortunately, this is something we all have to go through at some point - I'm sure you know that. Why don't you make enquiries as to whether you can have a female doctor examine you? A friend to go with you for support is a help, I find. But even if you have a male doctor, there will be a female in the room with you, It's something they always do for personal exams like that. Try to relax, I know that sounds glib but it does help.

I hope I've helped and that they can help you. You'll have to let me know how you get on and if they can help with your problems.

Re: Gynaecology Visit In reply to: Nina

Hi Nina.

 Thankyou so much for your lovely message, you have helped me more than you realise.

I have asked a female friend to go with me, as sadly I lost my own Mum almost 4 years ago (April), and she is the closest person I have to that.

 I will keep in touch with you.

 Thanks again for your support.

 Take care.

Janet. x

Re: Gynaecology Visit In reply to: Nina

Hi Nina.

 As you asked me to let you know about "the visit", I thought I would... I went yesterday, and was examined internally, he hurt me and wasn't pleased that I couldn't get in the position he needed me to be in, he has advised me to have a coil fitted, which he tried to do yesterday, but couldn't, so I've to go in for the day on the 13th of Feb, and have a general anaesthetic, with pre-op and ultra sound the week before, really scared.

 Take care.

Jan x

Re: Gynaecology Visit In reply to: Jan

hi sorry it didnt go as you hoped yesterday. when you go next take a friend with you for company and morel support. this will give you a chance to chat and relax while waiting. also the friend could help with question and to ask for more imformation if you dont understand

take care

from yvonne

Re: Gynaecology Visit In reply to: bon

Hi Yvonne.

 I did take a female friend with me for support when I went, but the consultant said because it was for such personal issues he wouldn't let her in with me.

 Take care.

Jan x

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Re: Gynaecology Visit In reply to: Jan

i cant see what the problem was with you wanting to take in your friend . after all you wanted her there for support . i would insist if i were you .

have you thought about going to a family planning clinic and having it fitted by a woman?