tantrums @3yrs old

tantrums @3yrs old

my daughter turned 3 in november07, about a month ago we got rid of her dummy, she is also dry day and night and has been for awhile. but once we got rid of the dummy she has been haveing terrible tantrums  all hours of the day and night, she goes to nursery 4 afternoons a week and is a very good girl there and  very bright, but when we have to get ready to go its a nightmare she screams she kicks and recently she has starting spitting on the floor. once shes there shes an angel, but then she starts again when its time to come home. even now shes drawing in a book but she cant find a blank page and is screaming  in a very high pitched voice. she wakes in the early hours of the night just screaming and we cant get her to say what she wants,anything we say she just screams no at us, we have 3 other children who the little one wakes up constantly with her screaming. the other 3 never had tantrums so we are at our wits end, please any advice would be appreciated, im going mad.

Re: tantrums @3yrs old In reply to: martina

Hang in there Martina....My Daughter (age 9) was the same when she was ages 2, 3, 4...and everyone said it's a phase....which did not help !.  she calmed down when she started school, I think it was the frustration at being at home with me and she only had one little brother then...as hurtful as that sounds...she was and still is a people person...and was sooo well behaved for everyone else...except me !.  She may not understand why you hav taken her dummy off her...that was her comfort...she must hav been attatched to it.  Also, have you considered your daughter seeing a cranial osteopath ?....look up alternative health clinics in your area...if all else fails...try and get a break from the little madam ! good luck 

Re: tantrums @3yrs old In reply to: Hannah

my eldest daughter (now 2 and a half) does exactly the same thing, thak god my husband is a farmer and works at home cos he has to come in and hold her while i try get her dressed for nursery while she is kicking and screaming and spitting! She really makes me want to scream some times but i know that isnt the answer. People do keep telling me "its a phase that all kids go through" and the other one is "well i managed with you and your sister on my own" none of this helps me out at all! have you tried to replace your daughters dummy with a teddy or a small blanket for comfort?

Nykita x~X~x

Re: tantrums @3yrs old In reply to: Nykita

My middle daughter was fantastic at tantrums - to the point where a man asked me in Tesco "Can't you control your child". I just replied "no, do you want to have a go?"

Hard as it sounds, it probably is a phase but some of the advice I've read is sound and is worth looking into, if only so you feel you're doing something!

Have you tried thinking about her diet? Does she have a lot of additives? I've heard that can help. With my middle girl, it was frustration that she couldn't always gets us to understand what she was saying or wanted and she would have a tantrum.

What I used to do was ignore her when she was having a tantrum, Not easy when you're in the supermarket, but it really works. Children are very bright and soon learn their behaviour isn't getting them results. I always make a point of telling my kids they're behaving nicely when (or if!) they do. It makes them feel good about themselves. Like, if we're out and they want sweets, I'll say "Yes, because you've been really good for me today".

Hope this helps. It's not helpful when everyone keeps saying "oh yes, I had the same" or "it's just a phase and s/he'll grow out of it" but we're just trying to help!

Keep Smiling and Eat Well :o)

Re: tantrums @3yrs old In reply to: Nina

lol well i always tell Hope when she is being good but it doesnt help her behaviour any lol. She is very bright and i think that is why she is getting so frustrated as i dont have the time to spend 4/5 hours a day giving her the mental stimulation she needs, hence the reason she is at nursery but even then she doesnt get the stimulation she is looking for.