Keeping the romance going

Keeping the romance going

Hello! No-one's posted here yet, so I'm going to be the first.

I also want to ask what mums do out there to keep their relationships going. We've found ti tough since the birth of A, because we don't have any family nearby to babysit.

Any suggestions?

You had me at 'hello!'

Re: Keeping the romance going In reply to: jaqb

hiya - i'll be second! Yeah, we found it tough to get someone to look after the twins when they were younger. it was silly really because i started to think... how did my parents do it? well you asked one of the neighbours kids didnt you? people dont really do that anymore because everyones so hung up on not being able to trust anyone. bring back the trust i say and ask one of the neighbours kids. its that bit of pocket money they need isnt it? good luck x

Re: Keeping the romance going In reply to: funkymum

Maybe in an ideal world it would be lovely to trust...don't forget there were dodgy people when we were young kids...it was just covered up....everyone had a touchy feely "uncle"...we have to protect our most precious things...our children...fine, let the neighbours kids wash the car, but not babysit.  We have three kiddies....youngest is 11 months old....it is good to take them out with you, I have just gotten used to having no-one to mind them...And as far as keeping the romance going...what's wrong with booze, and watching a dvd with the hubby when kids are in bed...I know i'm a cheap date !

Re: Keeping the romance going In reply to: Hannah

hi everyone! me and my hubby find it really hard to be romantic after having our 2 little girls (youngest is almost 11 months). The only person who i know i can trust to babysit is my mum and even then she wont have them both at the same time so we always have at least 1 of the girls with us! i think the romance thing is my fault, after having 2 kiddies and havin no sleep for 3 years litteraly! (my eldest is 2 and a half and has never slept through! my pregnancy with her was bad too lots of problems! i have been up between 2 and 8 times every night for the last 3 years!) I feel like my body is no longer a sexual thing, but its now a thing that produces babies, these things that dont sleep and cry all day! Romance just doesnt come into any more, id love to be romantic but we either dont get the time to ourselves or by the time we get the kids to sleep and tidied up a little its about 10pm and im nackered! all i wanna do is sleep! we do go out for a meal sort of once every 2 or 3 months when my mum watches the girls for 2/3 hours.

Any way! if anyone has any ideas how i can get the sexyness back lol let me know PLEAAASSSEE! i need to do something!

Luv Nykita xXx

Re: Keeping the romance going In reply to: Nykita

Give yourself a break...your youngest is only 11 months (like my youngest !)...I don't feel guilty for being shattered anymore...it is a part of life....it gets easier as they get older....they become a little more independant...My Daughter is nearly ten years and eldest Son is nearly 8 yrs and they will go on bike rides with her Dad....and I relax with the Baby and I know they are getting worn out, so they will sleep better...You are wise to trust your instincts over who minds them as it is peace of mind for you...Once they start school at 4 or 5, I found I missed them more, and my hubby would take the odd day off, so it was just us two together.  Good luck Nykita 

Re: Keeping the romance going In reply to: Hannah

lol thanks for that hannah! xXx

Re: Keeping the romance going In reply to: Nykita

i find the best way to keeping the romance going is to feel good in yourself, i know bein a mum is bloody hard work and tiring but makin 5 minutes to put some slap on, doin your hair and wearing something that makes you feel good about yourself, including the underwear! is a start when your husband or partner notice the effort usually they cant keep their hands off you! sneak into the kitchen "to make a cuppa" and have an old school proper snog with them even that small thing will spark up summit. when you go to bed give each other a massage thats my favourite - just make sure you do your partners first then you can relax if your to tired when you go to bed set your alarm half hour earlier than normal in the morning that will definately give your partner summit to smile about when they go to work. and for foreplay picture messages are great when your apart just make sure no one else see's you takin them and they're not standing up in a meeting when they recieve them!lol thing is you both need to put in the effort otherwise you'll go no where fast. im extremely lucky in the fact i have a mum and dad who are excellent grandparents and love havin there grandaughter (i struggle to get her back off them!) and finding that someone you trust to look after your kids is so important cos you all need a night off once in a while!