looby

looby

I'v been seeing a guy for almost four years now. We have broken up a few times along the way but always end up back together. We planned to get married next year and hope to get a house together. Our ten year plan was to move to spain. He has his own flat and i have my own house, he basically moved in although he kept his flat going. about a week ago we had a big fight and i told him to leave again. I always seem to do this when im upset or angry. He left and went back to flat. He says its over this time and theres no second chances, he doesnt love me and he doesn't want me and i should accept that. Is he just hurting and protecting him self from further hurt or do you thing it is over this time and he doesnt love me. Could there still be a chance does love die so quickly.

Re: looby In reply to: looby

You are obviously in the very early days of the breakdown of this relationship and love him very much !I would give him time and spend lots of time looking after your own emotions.No one other than him can say whether he loves you or not and to be honest i don't think you are doing yourself any long term favours by analysing what he has already told you!You should not spend time pondering the well maybe options !

You have to focus on what you know however hard that seems right now.You have to keep your confidence and self-esteem high for your future whether it is with him, on your own or with someone else!!

Re: looby In reply to: leigh

hi thanks for your advice i'll take it on board. he still phones or texts me every day or calls round for daft reasons. He won't come in the house though. just had a text this morning telling me he's just bought a new dvd player. Why would i want to know that. I've just ignored him i think thats best thing to do right now.

Re: looby In reply to: looby

Hi Looby...that sounds tough for you...hope you can move on from this....I think we all say things we don't mean in anger...but I wouldn't be with anyone who said he does'nt love me...show him you are moving on by going out with friends or family...keep yourself busy...even a new image can make you feel special again like dying your hair etc....sounds a bit superficial, I know but do whatever gives you back that spring in your step, or smile on your face, and don't have such a long term plan on things, go with the flow babe  X