am i wrong here?
Started on Thursday May 15th 2008 at 3.42 PM
travinda
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am i wrong here?about 1 year agoive been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years, lots of ups and downs but last august he asked me to marry him and we got engaged. 2 months later he was being rather distant and off with me. he sold a bike to an older woman in october and they became quite friendly, he told me it was just friends with a comon interest. he s told me that she texts and calls him a lot, and after a while she told him she had feelings for him, which he says he told her there was no chance. he said that as she is a respected and highly quailified nurse and councilor he had told her all about us and our relationship ups and downs and how he trusted her. i wasnt happy with this as she seemed to be giving him wrong advice, i did tell him how i felt and that i thought she had ulterior motives. they fell out for a short while after xmas when he told me he had realised this! they are very friendly again now and it is causing so many problems. ive sugested i meet his new friend but he was adament that she didnt want to as she already didnt like me for the things he had told her, |
Nina
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agoI'm going to sound blunt here, but it does sound like something's going on. Why doesn't your bloke want you to meet this woman and why won't she meet you? Also, I wouldn't be very happy if my hubby had been telling all our marriage secrets and troubles to someone I'd never met - if you're having relationship troubles, you should both be seeing someone. If she's a friend then they should have no problem with you meeting her! |
travinda
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agothanks nina |
Princess23
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agoHi i really think you know what people will say, and thats to get rid of him. Sorry to be so forward but he can obviously see this is hurting you and should end the friendship, What relationship is better off saving? The one he has with you or a person who hes just " friends " with. |
Take care.
tim
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agoWell sorry to say but I think you are right to have serious reservations and that your gut feeling is normally the one you should go with. From a blokes point of view unless your sex life was rubbish or he just cant keep it in his pants then its bang out of order what he has done if you accept it and let him carry on as he has done so far it's gonna lower your own sense of self worth. Seems to me he aint got the back bone to come an talk to you to see if his issues can be sorted whatever they may be, an he just expects you to put up with it please dont be a doormat for any bloke there really is someone for everyone out there. It also makes me wonder if he proposed through guilt for something he knew he was doing was wrong whether he admits it or not. |
tim
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agoWell sorry to say but I think you are right to have serious reservations and that your gut feeling is normally the one you should go with. From a blokes point of view unless your sex life was rubbish or he just cant keep it in his pants then its bang out of order what he has done if you accept it and let him carry on as he has done so far it's gonna lower your own sense of self worth. Seems to me he aint got the back bone to come an talk to you to see if his issues can be sorted whatever they may be, an he just expects you to put up with it please dont be a doormat for any bloke there really is someone for everyone out there. It also makes me wonder if he proposed through guilt for something he knew he was doing was wrong whether he admits it or not. |
*Vicky*
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agoIve been in a similar situation and if it was me i would say to him that unless you can all meet up as friends then he shouldnt see her at all. If he says that he wont do it then ask him what means more to him, a friend who hes only met recently or a 5years relationship with someone he intends to marry. I mean letting you meet her is the least he can do after hes lied to you to reaasure you nothing is going on!! If he wont let you meet her and still refuses to stop seeing her then he obviously doesnt respect you or think that much of you and quite frankly you're better off without him. You cant marry someone you dont trust. You'll always be having doubts about whether hes seeing someone or cheating on you or lying about where hes been etc. |
mish
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Re: am i wrong here?about 1 year agoFinish it. Sorry but thats the bottom line. I was with someone for 10 years and i believed lie after lie after lie until i one day caught him in bed with someone. That opened my eyes and i left. Looking back, i realised just how many times he had told me he had "lady" friends that were just mates and i wasnt allowed to meet. It is clear why !!!!????? Trust is the biggest thing in a relationship. My partner Nick, is completely trustworthy and i have never been able to say that before. Im so glad he is the father of my daughter. If you cant say that about a man, get out why you can ... sorry to be so harsh |
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