my 16 year old girl is off the rails

my 16 year old girl is off the rails

my daughter is off the rails shes in with a boy whos 16 and is trouble and controlling hes abusive she drinks smokes cheeky steals lies and started bunkin school and to top it all off shes walked out and not came back and are hell on bent getn pregnant shes lied about bein pregnant shes got the implant in and shes only had it in for lees than two month wants it out shes got no job and is losin interest in school and her self the stuff shes done is unforgivable she was goin around sayn shes homeless when thats never been the case her dad is disabled we have a 3 year old and to teenager boys who are fine our twins died 18 year ago before she was born she was sexually assulted 2 year ago and the guy got off he had adhd and mentall health problems she was getn therapy was bunkin it she lost her voluntry job because of the lies its got way out of hand and all we get is shes 16 and shes needin to get it out of her system the other family are at there wits end shes stayn with them his mum has 10 kids in a 4 bedroom house and my daughter and they have found her out we are at the end of the road and dont knw what to do hes gt adhd and dyslexia and he is violent hes been removed fromhis mums by police at somepoint and wer need help no one seems to be bothered we are stressed to say the least

Re: my 16 year old girl is off the rails In reply to: piggy

Oh my goodness, you have a hell of a lot to deal with, Could your Daughter still come under some sort of social care as she is under 18 yrs old?...Can she take anything for her ADHD condition?..I think its awful that no-one has intervened already to help you cope with her, its all well and good saying that she has to get it out of her system, but what about the people she hurts along the way, you certainly dont want her getting pregnant either, not in her messed up state. Does she talk to you at all?, or is she out to shock you to get a negative reaction?...you could always try being really nice to her, I always think it's more difficult for people to be nasty to you, if your being sooo nice to them, she may not get the shocked reactions from you that she wants?...I feel sorry about her incident 2 yrs ago, she has had no closure as the maniac got away with it, Your Daughter possibly has built up anger at how unjust she has been violated, I hope she gets help as she needs it, or she could end up being totally selfdistructive with her life, Good luck to you x

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Re: my 16 year old girl is off the rails

 Hello,

I'm 16 years old too; and I had a rebellious  time aswell.

My mom ended up sorting me out, but she also started being a bit more lenient about things too.

Ok, so she smokes. Forgive her for that. As for her boyfriend, all you can do is advise her; she's gotta learn her own way to go for the right guy.

Drinking and stuff like that is ok I guess; just as long as they don't do it TOO much, you know what I mean? But hard drugs are a no-no.

My mom ended up kickin me out to go live with my dad in the end [they're divorced], and that really did end up helping; but I guess if you're still together this isn't an option?

Have you ever looked at more extreme ways of sorting her out; if she doesn't listen to you, then why don't you look at things like camps?

Seriously, give it a go. If she doesn't end up sorting her act out then there's nothing else you can really do. We've all gotta learn.

Good luck

xx