whats up with me??????

whats up with me??????

i have been with my partner 14months now and we have been living together for nearly 10months. everything else in our relationship is great apart from sex. Im 19 and he is 22. We are lucky to have sex twice a month because of are jobs. im work as a care assistant and mainly doing split shifts and he does 12hr days as a sercuity guard. my job leaves me completely tired and as soon as i get in at 8pm and have my dinner im ready for bed to get up 7am again for work. I also moved 300mies away from my family and friends to be with him. please tell me whats up with me becuase its mainly me that doesn't want to make love.
also my little brother who is 8 doesnt understand why he cant see me when he wants to which as upset me.A few of my best friends have had babies which i aint seen coz of me moving and now my ex fiancee who is one of my mates is now engaged and im really jelaous about which i dont know why because i dont want him back but i find myself flirting with him over texts because i know if i say jump he will. which is wrong of me to do because its not fair on him and he nows we will not be getting back together.
what is wrong with me can someone please help me.

Edited about 1 year ago

Re: whats up with me?????? In reply to: nad

U no what mate theres nothing wrong with you belive me u just feel lonly uv moved away from every thing u no and not getting what u bargand for which is no ones fault its just the way life is u have to work to live but in the mean time everything eles can suffer, uv somehow got to find time to do things together both sit down and look at calender and book a day or night in and no matter what keep to it and only after a while doing this u will feel the benifit coz then when u feel down u will think of the things u do have or things u do together and it will make up for it or it should and if it doesnt well maybe u need to rethink your life style where u live ur job etc, u chose to move away and leave ur family and friends behind, why? remember that reason, and as for missing ur friends child and ur ex when a woman is feeling lonely for what ever reason a baby can seem like a good idea u may be missing the child in a way of thinking u want one especaily being on ur own far from home and flirting with ur ex is a way of occuping ur mind while ur on ur own like u said u dont want him back so why r u doing it ? Because ur board, but thats not fair on u, him or his girlfriend, leave them be to get on with there lives together and u look after urs make that date with ur boyfriend and keep to it one of the the worst things is to break promisse be excited about the next thing ur gona do and dont forget it doesnt have to cost the earth u could eat chineess off the floor on cusions recreat ur fav restrant theams, or go 4 picnick with food uv both done as a surprice though dont tel the other one what uv done c if u do the same things u know make it fun if u can laugh ur half way there, dont rush into things ur only 19 u have lots of time one thing though all this working ur both doing make sure u put some money away for kids etc (if ur planning to have them by the way) and have some good holls before u have kids u prob wont be able to when u do have them, kids are great i love mine to bits and although im doing ok now i just wish i did some planning 4 my future before i had mine the secret to a good life is plan and organize coz if u do that everything else has just got to fall into place doesnt it well u no what yep most of the time it does, again making plans and keeping them should help with the sex bit to coz when we women hav got things on our heads sex is the last thing on our minds so sort ur surounding and u will feel better, oh well hope this helped and u take care lx.

Edited about 1 year ago

Re: whats up with me?????? In reply to: nad

I don't think that there is anything wrong with you. I moved 200miles away a few months ago to be with my boyfriend. I left all my friends and family behind (and my little dog!!) so i know what it feels like. Its hard to take in, its something you dont get used to you just learn to live with it. You have to accept that you're going to miss out on things because you arent able to see them all the time like you used to.
Like the lady said above, you need to make time for each other. Otherwise you'll just end up living together and it wont feel like you're in a relationship! You're probably just feeling abit down and left out at the minute and still adjusting to life far away from home.
As for your ex fiance, its probably because you still want all his attention and you dont want to share him with anyone else or want him to move on from you. Maybe its also because you dont feel like you get enough attention with your boyfriend because you dont see each other often which is why its important you both make time for each other.

Re: whats up with me?????? In reply to: *Vicky*

thank you i just needed someone to tell it me straight i have a good relationship wit my partner but its starting to feel like we r just livin together and no having a relationship. thats mainly because at the moment we r paying a holiday off and we r planning to more for next yr, but i really want to thank you for your comment.