feeling deppresed

feeling deppresed

a couple of years ago, when i was 14/15 yrs... my brother in law sexualy abused me. arter keeping it to my self for about a year because i felt ashamed and it happend a couple of times. anyway i came out with wen i was drunk 3 weeks before lst lst xmas... no one in my family beleaved me.. and my sister hate me.. a few months l8r, my mum finally sed she beleved me.. even though she still speaks highly of him and lets him into her home were i also live. anyway, i just feel lyk such an outcast and even though, they seem to have forgotton it... they wernt there alll those nys.. and i feel i can never let it go.. it really breaks my heart wen they speak of him... iv spoken to a few counsellers, but wenever i finally feel comfortably with them... they leave and i never haer from them again...... anyway i just wanted to get that out.

Re: feeling deppresed In reply to: fays.com

Hello Fays.com, this is a terrible situation to be in. I can sort of understand your sister's reaction because it was her husband but I don't understand why your mum's not doing anything about this if she says she believes you.

Why hasn't anyone in your family suggested going to the police? This man could do the same thing to someone else - he's just getting away with it. And I don't think much of your counsellors if they are leaving you. How did you get them? Was it through your GP? I think you should persist and insist on speaking to someone regularly because you do need help - anyone would in this situation.

I don't know what else to suggest - has anyone else got any ideas? But please remember, babe, that we are here for you. I come on this site most days so if you want to chat, just leave a message.

Take care of yourself X

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: feeling deppresed In reply to: Nina

Hello, I am new on here but I had to write to you xxxxx I agree with Nina 100%. You should go back to your GP and explain to him that you feel that you are getting nowhere as you keep getting different counsellors. I think then if you see the same person you will feel more at ease and that you might get some closure, although, I know from experience luv that you may never get total closure from this. I too had similar experiance although, it wasn't with a family member, I only told my best friend two weeks ago, the same as you when I had, had a few drinks. I felt better telling her, although wish I hadn't when I was drunk as I don't think I got it all out. I really too don't understand your mum's reaction, OK she has your sister to consider but surely she sees what having him under her roof while you are there could do to you. I dont know if I have helped much, but the same as Nina please feel free to talk to me too. hugs to you xxxxxxxxxxx

Re: feeling deppresed In reply to: fays.com

You have nothing at all to feel ashamed of, it doesn't matter who it is, he shouldn't have done that, and I agree with Nina, You should let the Police know about it. I feel awful that your Mum isn't there for you, her motherly insincts should have kicked in, and confront the man, I know I would if it was my Daughter. Maybe your Mum and Sister feel bad, and can't admit it?...it's still not right, you need there support and your mum shouldn't be allowing him back into the house, at all. Do you think they didn't believe you, because wen you told them, you had been drinking?....maybe you could have a sober talk to them, and let them know it did happen and you need her to believe you?...Is your mum easy to talk to?....If you went and told the Doctor you are depressed they could get you some help, like anti-depressants?...We are here if you ever want to chat, good luck X