trust or not????

trust or not????

we've been 2getha for three years, but he txts other women talking about sex, how he wants to see them, he talks about other women on purpose just to make me jealous...... he says that he just talks to the people he texts, nothing more, that he's never met up with them or anything... and that he just talks about women bcos it annoys me and its so easy to wind me up.... is it just me being overly jealous or wat???/

Edited about 1 year ago

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: matilda

This is going to sound very blunt (I'm famous for it) but your bloke sounds like a complete plonka! i don't think you're wrong to not like him talking to other women about sex or let him wind you up. If you've asked him to stop and he's carrying on, then you need to ask yourself how much he respects you and values you as his girlfriend.

He's probably making you jealous and talking to all these women because he is insecure and needs lots of attention. I would tell him straight that he needs to stop or your relationship is in trouble.

How would he feel if it was YOU talking to men about sex etc etc?

What does everyone else think? I've had my say :o)

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: Nina

Dont trust him hun! any man that does that doesnt deserve a good relationship! you need to tell him he either stops it or your relationship stops! wot an idiot! i'd kill my man if he did that and pretty dam sure i wouldnt still be with him! there are men out there that will give you the respect you deserve! make him see that other men do want you and you will leave him as he only does it because he knows you wont go anywhere! instead of telling him if it doesnt stop for the 10th time (am i right?) actually do it! make him sit up and think about his stupid games! your worth far more than he gives you credit for! xXx

Tell those closest to you that you love them as you never know when they might be gone!

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: Nina

i do understand what both of ye are saying but in ways he does respect me, we started in a long distance relationship and he moved miles away from his friends etc just to be with me, lik he barely even knew his way around my town when he moved, he does practically anything i ask of him, he even helps out my parents in financial problems etc,,,,,, so see the textin other women is all i have a problem with,,, i asked him to stop n he has calmed down with it but not stopped completely

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: matilda

Matilda, I sympathise with what you're saying, but you say this is the "only" problem - well, it's a pretty big problem isn't it?

I would keep on at him until he stops - please remember that you're better than this and you don't have to put up with it.

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: Nina

hey matilda well all i can say is listen to nykita an nina they are normally spot on with their outlook on life. also where is your self respect or has he destroyed that bit by bit? it doesnt matter how good you think he is in all other aspects if he don't respect you and he clearly doesnt you are just letting yourself in for a life of torment. Ok we may all be biologically programmed to fancy the opposite sex when i'm with someone it don't stop me fancying the pants off other women but do anything about it even if it is just text is well out of order an men like him give the rest of us a bad rep. it doesnt matter how you try an justify it with he helps your folks its your life and your self esteem that matter be happy be proud and dont let anyone trick you into thinking they are gods gift, we all have our faults each an every one of us but to disrespect you in such a way in not acceptable and whether you can see it or not it is degrading you dont you deserve better? my advice ditch the prat now!! he sounds like a right wally 

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: tim

you do deserve better hun and i agree with Nina, it's not just a little problem, it's a HUGE one! If you did that to him even though you helped out with everyone, what would he say to you?! hun you really need to stop making excuses and realise that its not going to stop! and it's hurting you otherwise you wouldnt have asked us for advice. Ditch him and find a man that treats you like youre the only woman on the plannet he is interested in! You should be his only focus not other women! it's not even like he is texting some stupid company off the back of a mag, it's real life women that he knows! Think it through hun and be serious about it cos if you make the wrong decision, youl regret it! x

Tell those closest to you that you love them as you never know when they might be gone!

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: Nykita

he's stopped, i told him he has to stop or im gone n i left for work, he met me afterwards and was alll apologies, lik dont leave etc, dat was over 5 days ago n he's completely stopped with all de chat stuff,,, so happy!!!!!!!! thanks guys, n tim, it'd be great if all guys were lik u

Re: trust or not???? In reply to: matilda

Hey Matilda, Im really glad hes stopped but you must make sure he doesnt go back to his old ways. hes obviously had a scare and now hes being a great boyfriend. i really hope he stays like that because everyone deserves honesty and respect in there relationships. take care!!! xx

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