What to do???

What to do???

What to do??? I met this amasing guy online two years ago. we beacme really good freinds and i felt like i could tell him anything. i told him some major stuff about my past and it took him a wile but he eventually got round it all. i really deeply care about this guy only thing is weve never actually met as he lives 4 hours away. our realtionship has always been via mobile or email. hundreds of times he promised too meet me and i promised to meet him but it nevr happend. i chicken out loads of times because i lied about my age i told him there was only two years between us but theres actually five an was afriad he would find out. i only lied beacuse he said he didnt approve of big ages gaps and wanted someone near his own age. i know i should tell him the truth but i dont no if he could get over something else. ive told him so much and hes been so understanding and to be honest i probably drive him mad. I have no patience wat so ever and very low self esteem as i was bullied up until a few years ago. just recently ive been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and i told him and he seemd to have been ok with it or so i though but all of a suden he stopped talking to me. i care about him so much and i really want to be boyfriend and girlfreind but i dunno wat to do from here??? i am going to be in home town the weekend and i rang him and left messages asking if he wanted to meet me but got no reply.wat do i do??? plz help!!!

Re: What to do??? In reply to: Katie L

Hi Katie - OK, here are your options, as I can see them. Anyone, please feel free to correct me or add to these:

You could go to where he lives and confront him, forcing him to meet you

You could get on with your life and not contact him again

You could Ring/ email him and say that if he doesn't contact you by x time/day then you understand the relationship to be over.

If you want my honest opinion, I think he's lost interest and if that's because of your past troubles or your bipolar disorder, then he's a bit of a sh1t, isn't he? If he never contacts you again, try to think of it as a lucky escape.

Also, please bear in mind that if your relationship does carry on, then you need to be truthful about your age. If he can't accept you for who you are, then that's his problem.

You sound like a lovely girl and he should feel lucky to have you. Actually, I've just thought - maybe HE'S not been honest with YOU? Ever thought of that? Might be the reason for no contact and that he never wanted to meet up.

But I do hope it works out for you, babe. I wish you well XXX

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: What to do??? In reply to: Nina

it really doesnt sound like he is interested! but it could also be that he might be worried that you are not who you say you are?! he may fear for his life! might sound stupid to you but to him it could be a real possibility! and you should be thinking the same! and if you ever do meet anyone from the net, take a group of friends! not just one cos you dunno who you are meeting!

Ive had a few online "relationships" and they dont work! they are crap lol sorry to be so blunt! but i think you should say bye bye and forget about him hun and find a nice man who lives closer to you! you deserve better hun xXx

Tell those closest to you that you love them as you never know when they might be gone!

Re: What to do??? In reply to: Nina

hey tanx for ur advice. yer i think ur both right he has lots interest and after 2 years im not really surprised. im not the most exciting person in the world and the fact we nevr met really had put a downer on the relationship we had. Nina, ur right maybe he hasnt been honest with me because yesterday while i was in his home town i went to the place where he told me he worked and asked for him but they told me he left that job a few months back. I rang him and gang him an ultimatum that he had 48 hours to decide if he wanted contact with me or not. Nykita, maybe u r right that he could be scared of me and im not realy surprised with the things ive told him he prob thinks im insane. and yes i agree with u online relationships are crap and they dont work. so if i dont here from him in d nxt 48 hours thats it. im going to move on and forget about him because ive wasted enough time and engery on him and im sure prince charming is out there just waiting 4 me i hope!!!

Re: What to do??? In reply to: Katie L

I dont think you should put yourself down by saying hes right to have lost interest and that you are not interesting. Remember that you are not going to find love if you dont love yourself! You need to get some confidence and meet someone in the real world. I know its not easy but mobile/ internet relationships are rarely real and just give men the perfect oppurtunity to mess you around. Dont waste any more time on him!

Re: What to do??? In reply to: sunflower

I agree, don't put yourself down. Why do you think you're not the most exciting person in the world? I don't even know what an "exciting" person would be like!

It sounds like you have quite a low self esteem. Get yourself out there and make new friends :o) Try your local library or community centre for events happening in your area or take up a new hobby. Sometimes the person you are destined to be with is in the most unlikely place - you never know!

I hope this helps you. Take care X

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: What to do??? In reply to: Nina

u know wat yes you are right. why should i put myself down?? im just as good as any1 and i shud stand up for myself and belive in myself. ive always had very low self esteem and that prob comes from evrything that has happened and people putting me down. ive put up with it all my life and i shouldnt have to should i?? im going to end all contact with this man and move on, u nevr know whos around the corner and im going to enroll in sum local dance classes and get myself out into the world. thanks for ur kind words of insperation xxx

Re: What to do??? In reply to: Katie L

Well done, Katie, you get yourself out there!

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

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hey, tanx 4 all d advice and i did what u said nina i gave him 48 hours 2 decide if he wanted a relationship or not and i heard nothing. i was ok with that, i was disapointed but i had figured that he wanted nothing more 2 do with me as i hadnt heard 4m him in so long. i was trying 2 put him 2 d back of my mind and 4get about him until last sunday. i was sittin in d front room watchin d tv when there was a knock at the door, i opend it and who stood there but my man. he had a huge bunch of roses in 1 hand and chocolates in the other and stood on d doorstep in d rain trying 2 beg 4 forgivness. i let him in and we talkd for about 4 hours, a very emotional 4 hours 4 both of us but in the end we decided that we were gna give it 1 last shot. i like him he likes me so why not. weve got nothing 2 loose but now a week on so far so gud and im really happy and he is 2. so tanx 4 d advice and i jst wanted 2 say that it turned out a happy ending 4 me after all. :D xxx

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That's really good news, Katie - I love a happy ending :o)

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.