worried about orgasm with new partner

I have been single for a year and before that was in a relationship for 4 years. until now i have rarely had an orgasm during sex. My last partner didn't seem to notice and i didn't even fake it very much now my new partner has been with more people than me and i am embarrased as i don't know if i am expected to reach orgasm every time or to fake it or what to do realy as i don't want him to feel inadiquate. Any advice would be such a great help.

Re: worried about orgasm with new partner In reply to: em24

i would just be honest with him and tell him you find it really hard to orgasm! turn it into a sex game so that he has to try and make you orgasm. I find it hard to orgasm and my hubby finds it a challenge each time we have sex lol! fingering me (sorry to put that so bluntly :( ) he can make me orgasm every time as he hits the G spot but pentration doesnt do much for me most of the time but he tries and enjoys trying lol! Just turn it into a game! Hope that helps hun! xXx

Tell those closest to you that you love them as you never know when they might be gone!

Re: worried about orgasm with new partner In reply to: Nykita

please hun, just be honest. if you read my post i've been with my fella for nearly 2 years and cos i faked it from the start now I cant tell him, even though he would be a sweetheart if i would have just been honest from the start.

 You have the advantage cause you can just say how you've always found it hard and you can work through it together.

 but please, just be honest with him!!! you will benefit from it in the long run, trust me!!!

 good luck hun x x x x x

Re: worried about orgasm with new partner In reply to: shuga

I totally agree with shuga!!! Its so important to be honest at the start or you wont ever be able to go back. it will also become a problem eventually and he will always wonder why you couldnt be up front. Good luck and let us know what you do!!! xx