Am i just sex?

Am i just sex?

I met a man 9 months ago after moving to my new home, he had to do some work here for the council and after a few visits we got chatting and he told me that he lives with a woman in his house, and have been together for 8 years, they are not married or have children together, but they dont have any kind of relationship! they sleep in seperate bedrooms, but when i asked why dosn't she move out, he said that she's useful for cleaning and cooking! well we starting seeing each other, and he's a really great guy to me and my son, he has helped us no end, with things for the house, money etc! we have a good sex life, but that's it. i cant phone him or txt him incase he's with her, i cant visit him either, i just wait till he can phone me or come over! i love this man and he knows it, he said he loves me also but this is how it has to be for now! all my friends say he is using me, and they bet he is sleeping with her! i have asked him but he says he isn't and hasn't slept with her since he's been with me, am i just sex to him? please help.

Edited about 1 year ago

Re: Am i just sex? In reply to: angelbyday

I'm going to be blunt here and say that I think this man is using you. From what you say in your message, he sees you whenever it's convenient for him and then goes back to his partner. This isn't a relationship at all.

YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS. You deserve someone who will treat you right, who you can call or see whenever you want or need to, someone who will be there for you, not just you waiting for him.

 Be honest with yourself - do you think he will ever leave his partner? No! He has two women on the go and life couldn't be sweeter for him. Are you staying with him because you're lonely? If so, get yourself out there. You don't have to go pubbing or clubbing, get yourself down to the local library, see what's on. Make new friends.

But most important of all, dump this loser and MOVE ON. He gives men a bad name. XXX

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: Am i just sex? In reply to: Nina

Thank you for replying to my msg, i know what you said is right cos i've been told this many times by my friends, but i guess i am lonely, but also he's so good to me in other ways, we have lots in common and have fun together, but yes he has his bread buttered both sides! it is difficult for me to get out as i have a young son to look after and being a single parent it's not always easy. but being used is not nice, i know he will never leave her, he said he wont throw her out and she'll leave when she's ready! i just need the courage to end this now.