Why is it not happening?

My husband and I have been married for 4 and a half years now, and stopped using contraception a couple of weeks after we got married. Since then, absolutely nothing has happened. I'm finding this hard to deal with, partly because I find it really hard to talk to anyone about my emotions & problems, including my husband & family. I know my parents had fertility problems and would probably understand, but I'd still feel awkward approaching them about it.

I have spoken to my doctor about this an several occasions, but they have done nothing to help, other than putting me on iron tablets. Can a low iron count affect fertility? (They didn't explain anything to me, just gave me the pills!) I've been on these for just over a year now.

I have been looking into other options such as IVF and adoption, but I don't know what to do. I really want to talk to my husband about this, but I just can't open up about it. I feel like I am failing him by not being able to give him the child we both desperately want.

Re: Why is it not happening?

I'm so sorry to hear about this. If you've really been trying for that long, then I'd definitely think about getting professional help.

If your normal doctor isn't doing aynthing, then get a second opinion. Most experts say you should seek help after two years, do youve done your time.

And you do need to talk to your husband because if you go and get tests and other things he'll need to be involved. just because you haven't managed it yet doesnt mean either of are you infertile though. sometimes its a case of making sure you have sex at the ight time of the month.

there's lots of good advice on this site about doing the right things and making sure you know when you ovulate and stuff. it's horrid when you really want kids but cant seem to get pregnant.

goodluck

Re: Why is it not happening?

the stress, anxiety, worry etc your putting yourself under wont help the situation, i no its easier said than done but try & relax take a step back, dont think bout it & just enjoy makin love to your partner and enjoying being together. Dont think everytime you make love that you might be pregnant. (done it myself when i was trying!!!) eventually it happened when i wasnt thinking bout it or trying for it. If you still dont fall pregnant then see another doctor or find a doctor or some1 you can talk to just now bout your feelings concerns, keeping them to yourself wont help you either, goodluck, enjoy making love because you want to fingers crossed for you. xx