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Started on Monday July 7th 2008 at 8.08 PM

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about 1 year ago

Can someone give a little insight ?

I meet this guy 5 years ago, intentions with him none ,just sex, I got pregnant not told him nothing about it and had an abortion. A friend in common told him, he never asked why or how come,I just disappeared without saying nothing, last time i heard about him he was going out with a girl that worked with me.2 years late we met again and of course started to have sex again until I found out he was getting married, once again I disappeared as I didnt intended to be the other. Another 2 years later I searched for him on a website and found him, we got talking and he got divorced, guess what we started to have sex again, unfortunatly I had planned to move 235 miles away for a new job, which I love, however I hate the people around me as I find them too racists. I keep in touch with him, we talk at least once a week and yes I m moving back as I dont like it here but not just yet. I m not sure what to do about him, I finnaly realized that I like him, but not sure how he feels and what he wants. I even thought to get pregnant but made the right decision and decided that, that is not the right choice. However if things dont work out up here I made another choice which I know is 10 times worst than the last one. Anyway our conversations are always about sex every so often he talks about feelings and I brush him off, he is always asking when I moving back and how much he misses having sex with me and since I left he never had sex with nobody else. I go back there every month and we try to see each other!

What does this mean?

He is Asian what sould I do?

I know this is very similar to what other people asks,but can you please give some light as I cant understand or do next!

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Nina

303 posts

Re: men

about 1 year ago

I found this very confusing! How do you actually feel about this man? Are you using him as an excuse to leave your job because you are unhappy there?

I think you need to have a big think about your life and what you want out from it (don't think about this man yet). Do you want to stay in your job and report these racist people or do you want to leave and start afresh somewhere else?

Then you need to talk frankly to this man about what you both want. You have a history together and need to air stuff before you can move on if you are ever to have a relationship that is not just sex. You may find that neither of you wants this or one does and one doesn't. Only you two can decide.

Also, I don't mean to preach but it sounds to me like you've been having unprotected sex. You should be using condoms each time, even if you are on the pill. sexually transmitted diseases can leave you infertile in some cases.

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.