Affair

Affair

I had an affair about 3 months ago and I was found out straight away by my husband.  He was (and still is) very very hurt and I feel so awful. 

 I know I was stupid but this other chap had been showing me so much attention and I'd always liked him.  It took me a few months to decide that I wanted to have sex with this other man as I've been married over 20 years and have never strayed before. 

I still miss this other man as I have not seen him since.  It was me who suggested we don't see each other but I would love to see how he is.  I have no intentions of sleeping with this man again but I would just love to chat with him again. 

Please don't judge me as this was totally out of character for me. 

I would really like some friendly advice about what to do.  My marriage may end up in divorce as my husband doesn't feel he can trust me any more although I've tried to reassure him I won't do this again.

My husband wants it to work but he still has off days which I know are to be expected.  We have had sex since but he says it's not the same anymore. 

Me  xx

Re: Affair

I was in the situation your husband was in 2 years ago. We had been married nearly 28 years with no problems. My husband had an affair but couldnt and still cant say why. Like you it was out of character. Please do not see this guy again, it wont be just for a chat believe me (my husband said he was still talking to her just as a friend but again slept with her). If you have any respect for your husband and his feelings try hard. We are still together because I beleive my husband was manipulated into an affair as surley he would have strayed before 28 years but even now after 2 years I have really bad times so give your husband a lot longer before talking divorce.

Re: Affair

 I know exatly what you mean, i've cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years with his best mate but his best friend is also my best friend, i've known him alot longer than my partner does but my fella doesn't know i've done this. the worst thing is my so-called best friend wont answer my calls or text's and i feel so used, i want to tell my fella but i just cant, if im honest i dont regret it but i feel so used and i've obviously lost my friendship with the other guy. some1 help please.

And i wouldn't worry about divorce or anything yet love, he just needs time to get his head around it all, it obviously came as a shock to him, just give him time and don't give him a reason not to trust you and it will be back to normal. I wouldn't advise going to see the other fella because if your seen your husband will automatically assume your still sleeping with this other guy xx