Im confused!

Im confused!

Hi all,

I was wondering if i could get some advice?

I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and although i really love him, i am starting to question our relationship.  I have been recently diagnosed with moderate depression and although i am starting to work myself out of it  (i didnt want to be put on pills and so decided to try other methods first, like exercise, positive thinking and am waiting to see a councellor), i am now thankfully starting to feel better, but as many may know will still have the odd day here or there where i can be down for no reason whatsoever.

Since all this has happened, the passion between myself and my boyfriend is pretty much non existent, we still hug and kiss and occasionally sleep together.  We have recently had to move back home so obviously that would kill any passion we once had!

What i am questionning is whether this is just a blip in our relationship or has anyone been through the same sort of thing?  I feel like we are more friends than anything else and it worries me because he is the nicest boyfriend ever and i dont want to lose him.  But im scared that because im not jumping on him every second that its not meant to be?  Does anyone know what i mean or can they relate to this?  I would be grateful for any advice or experience anyone has?

We have talked about this together and he believes the reason is because i can never relax and am always worrying about things, like work, friends etc...It would be great to get some non biased advice from someone who doesnt know me and the situation.

Thanks to All for taking time to read this.

Re: Im confused!

Hi K, 

I'm sorry you've been experiencing problems with your sex life. From what you've written, the depression might be causing it partly but I think all relationships go through a stage like this from time to time. You can't be 100% passionate and up for it all the time - when would you get anything else done?

 You sound like you have a loving relationship with your partner and just need to spend time working on the sexual side again. There are some good articles on this website under the Sex and Relationships section - try that for starters, maybe reading some articles with your partner?

Take it slowly and keep reassuring each other that you're wanted. And keep talking to each other like you have been doing.

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.

Re: Im confused!

Thanks for your advice Nina.

 I am hoping that this is the case - i just think we are stuck in a bit of a rut! But we are booking some time off work together soon to do something together which will help.  I am going to have a look on this website and get some ideas and hope for the best.

 I know i love him with all my heart, we just need to work on other things so we dont just end up 'friends'! 

 Thanks again!