im 17 and need help

im 17 and need help

hey im laura i need help. im 17 and will be 18 in a few days *22nd november*.

i have a boy friends and hes 29  we have been going out sence august. he is really over protevive, we hardly get to see each other because i go to tech and he lives a few miles away. when im not with him hes texting alot or ringing and if i miss a call he goes mad and thinks im cheating or doing something i shuldnt be doing. but im not. i love him to bits and i dont think he knows. i have told him loadz of times that i love him and i hope this works out but he just laughs n says im jokin. he has 3 kids with his ex that he dosnt talk to he only gets to see the kids some times. i would love to have children but its to early yet becuase i want to finish my course on child care at tech. but if i was to get preganant by mistake i wouldnt mind. i live with my sister as my mum kicked me out for always drinking and never going in when im meant to. but i have changed now i only drink and week ends and i do wat i want in my sisters. i can get aggresive and find it hard to controll my temper i have had to walk out on my sister a few times as she has annoyed me and i didnt want to hurt her. i dont have sence and i find it hard to listen to people but its help i need and so does he but he thinks theres nothing wrong with the relation ship.

ok back to the point, i need help on what to do with my boy as he dosnt trust me and i trust him with my life. if we fall out he says i can go fu*k sum 1 else instead. i have only ever had sex 2 times and that was with him. if you can help me and give me advise that would be great.

thanx

xxx

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Re: im 17 and need help

Hi Laura,

It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend have issues that you need to resolve before you even think about taking your relationship further or having kids.

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is trying to control you. You need to make it clear to him that you are a person in your own right and you don't have to answer to him whenever he feels like texting you or ringing you - blimey, I've been married nearly 12 years and my husband has never pestered me like that!

Reassure him that you love him but tell him he needs to talk to you properly and not verbally assault you or you will leave him. If he doesn't stop, I'm sorry, but it sounds like you'd be better off without him anyway. I'm sorry to say this but it really doesn't impress me that he hardly ever sees his kids. No matter what his relationship is like with his ex-wife, he should still be taking responsibility for his kids seriously. What makes you think he'd look after you and yours if you ever fell pregnant?

With regards to your own life, you are right to concentrate on your course and get qualifications but there's no rule saying that you have to have kids straight away. You are still very young and if you don't enjoy your life now, you WILL regret it when you're older. You have the rest of your life to settle down and have kids. Make today count, go see your other friends and have a social life and career first.

 I'm sorry if I sound blunt, but I don't want you to make mistakes you'll regret. You're a young, pretty intelligent girl. The world is at your feet if you take opportunities now.

Don't sweat the small stuff. It will make you stinky.