need advice and possibly a slap!...

need advice and possibly a slap!...

 Well here goes,i haven't talkedabout this to any one but its getting too much for me to bare on my own,so i hope some one can tell me what on earth i am doing!

Bit of background first,i have had a male best friend since i was 12(so 14years)we dated for about 3 weeks,lol,when we were 14 he had LOADS of gfriends after this but spent many many hours sucking face with me behind all of their backs.I lost my virginity to him when i was 16 and desperately wanted to become a couple,he didnt want this he just wanted a f*** buddy.Despite this we were genuinely good,close friends and had no secrets and had the most fun times together...until he went home to the latest gf.We didnt have sex often and by the age of 17 i had cottoned on that we would never be together so stopped the sex entirely and surprisingly we stayed super super close.About a year later he introduced me to a man he knew and 'fred' and i hit it off imideately,so much so we went on to have children and get married and have been together for almost 9 years.

During this time i have stayed close with best friend and he is considered one of our family.But heres the thing-best friend and i kissed about three weeks ago and he told me he had never stopped loving me and would love us to be together.But if i cant be with him, he understands and would be happy to play things by ear.

We have since passionately kissed on two more occasions and all i can think of is him.my poor husband is so lovely and does not deserve this!

I have never strayed or thought of any other man in a passionate way since we were together.

I feel so sad and want to stop meeting up with my friend...but at the same time i dont want to stop...im so very confused...

xxxx

Re: need advice and possibly a slap!...

It can be very confusing when someone you felt so strongly for so many years ago tells you that they love you.  The fact that you have been with your husband for 9 years could mean that you want to try something new? Having been with your husband for so long it could just be that deep down you want to see what things could have been like had your BF told you all those years ago how he felt about you.  I say that you shouldn't feel too bad abou tit but should stop it, if you love your husband then need is say anymore? I think you just wanted to try something different.  I dont see the point in telling your hubby anything if you are going to stop it there.  The best advice i could give to you is that you should stop seing your BF for a while and be with your husband and kids.  If after a few months you still cannot stop thinking about your BF then maybe things need to change? Im not telling you how to feel but perhaps the time away from you BF will help you realise what exactly you have already? I hope I have been a help and not just confused you even more.

Nykita x

Re: need advice and possibly a slap!...

 Thank oyu Nykita!

You have made very good sense and help to straighten out my thinking some what.

I will take your advice!

Thankyou!!xxx

Re: need advice and possibly a slap!...

I think it sounds like your best friend probably sees what you have with your family and wants that. Perhaps he's got to an age when he's thinking of settling down and is trying to leap forward and take what two other people (ie you and your husband) have worked so hard towards. 

Please don't ruin what sounds like a lovely family life. You need to get this friend out of your life as it sounds like the tempatation may be too strong otherwise. 

Be careful and good luck!