Should I keep trying or let go?

Should I keep trying or let go?

I would welcome opinions on my troubled, stressful relationship...

Met my man 4 1/2 years ago and the relationship has been far from smooth. We break up and get back together again, the longest we have been apart is one year. We get on really well, gets on with my daughters too and have a great time together but......

He wanted to move in together, we were making arrangements to do this and all of a sudden after 6 months of talking he decided he didnt want to, no reason or explaination given, he just "changed his mind, alright!". OK so I got upset for a few weeks but I love this man, try again afterall he might change his mind eventually.  3 months down the line and things have really changed completly he used to see me every weekend and at least 3 nights a week, now he hardly see's me, makes arrangements to see me and cancels at the last minute.  He does this regularly at least twice a week.  He doesnt see me, text or ring me at weekends, there is always a reason, the car broke down, he got his daughters, he going for a drink, he round his sisters, mates, brothers the list goes on...

After having arrangements cancelled an hour before he was due to come over on Wednesday I joked and said "Begining to think you are seeing someone else ha ha" his reply, "you are joking right! Im not seeing anyone FACT". 

I dont know what to think or beleive anymore. I try and talk and get nowhere, he insists if things dont go my way then I dont like it.  He says he loves me and does want to be with me. How can we be in a relationship if he doesnt even want to see me. So confused.

Should I keep trying or let go?

Pringle x

Edited 5 months ago by UNKNOWN USER

Re: Should I keep trying or let go?

 Hi Pringle,

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Normally I think I'd say "this isn't working, it's time to let go."

But the thing is, in over 4 years of being together, you've split up before. So you actually know what it's like to split up with him. Was he seeing someone before? Was it the same behaviour before?

Maybe try and compare this with last time to see what's different and if this is something to work with or not.

Hope it all goes okay.