help

help

basically im 17 yrs old and so is my boyfriend. We're studying for our a-levels at the moment and have been in a relationship for about 9 months now. We've been having quite a lot of arguments lately... mainly because of me, well he says so. Firstly, in the month march... he gave his phone to his dad as he got himself into some big trouble. So due to that reason we're always communicating by email. He lives 25 miles away from me but we see each other atleast once a week. Things havent been going too well these psat couple of months because we seem to argue alot. I got pregnant with his baby and had to have an abortion. I had it a week and half ago but he does not like talking about it because he says its th past now so lets forget it and move on. I didnt want to keep the baby but i still have this thought at the back of my head. Also before the abortion, he told me he still had feelings about his ex. He said he didnt want us to get serious and commit.  I mean that really hurt when he told me seen as we have been together for quite a while. Before he always used to tell me that he loves me and such and now he doesnt. After the abortion, i asked him whether he loved me more than his ex.. and he wouldnt answer me.. so i got quite mad. Then he mailed me saying that he really likes me and he still wants there to be an us. He says we're young and havin fun and who's complaining.  I really dont understand because he says he doesnt love me but he still wants us to be together? When we meet, he doesnt hold my hand or anything so i confronted him about it and he said his heart is still with his ex. I mean i dont understand why he is still with me if he still lvoes her. He said if she came back then he wouldnt go to her. I jus dont understand. I mean when he told me all this, i got really emotional... I mean it made me cry and everything. Also when we have arguemnts, i say sorry to him but after he says its alright, he still has a cold shoulder on me? I dont know how to make him happy? Can someone help me? I lvoe him so much

Re: help

Hi Anzy,

Hope you're OK! Sorry to hear you've been having trouble with your man. 

I know you're not going to like this, but your man's being greedy. He likes the security of having you there, but he's still in love with his ex. It's so unfair for him to treat you like this.

I know it's hard as you say you love him so much, but I think you need to make a decision and stop letting him treat you in this way. When you're in a relationship it should be all or nothing. I don't want to give you the wrong advice but maybe it's time to let him go hun, you're soo young. Enjoy yourself and find someone amazing who will love you too - he's out there somewhere. Maybe he'll find out what he missed out on with you.

x

Never say never and never say always

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your bf is a very complicated guy i understand you love him but not everything is your fault its wrong for him to blame you all the time.  he's a confused little boy who doesnt know what he wants and youre paying the price i say move on and find some one who deserves a smart woman like yourself