weed

weed

i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, hes 10 years older than me and im 21. he has smoked weed all through our relationship, he knows i hate it, but just carries on and does as he pleases, eventhough we have a toddler. i feel like this is fueling his ever increasing distrust in me ( i would never ever cheat on him!). he does not trust me to have friends, or to go on a night out, even with him, he has now informed me that we will never be going out again, and he will be attending his works do without me. this is all because when we last went out, someone i knew (my brothers boss, and friends boyfriend) saw me at the bar, and casually put his drunken arm round my shoulder, nothing more, and my BF saw this, and since then he thinks its ok to constantly call me a slag, slut, whore, filthy. and no matter how much i explain it was nothing, he still persists in saying that i showed him up, that i am a pathetic excuse for a GF, and he bets id drop my knickers for anyone blah blah blah.

the insults are constant, and i feel im loosing control of the situation, and nothing i do or say makes it better. i feel hurt that he apparently thinks so little of me. and has recently started bringing up my past (which i have always been 100% honest with him about, i had a difficult childhood, and rebelled at 16 and slept around, but that changed the day i met my BF), saying that i am discusting, and a discrace, threatening to call up my mum and dad and tell them what iv done in the past. when he finally reduces me to tears after verbally tearing me down, he gets angry and says that i am pathetic for crying-but i do not know what else to do, theres no talking to him, ive explained that hes the only one i want, that i would never stray etc, but he will not see sense.

he smokes about 5 joints a night, and is just a bit lazy afterwards, but its not those effects that worry me, it the increasing parranoia, and the way he is speaking to me. he has never treated me like this before, and this has all started in the last 4 months. iv tried so hard to get our relationship back on track, but feel like im the only one putting effort in. i have given him ultimatums before about his weed, but he just laughs and tells me that i knew he smoked it when i met him, so i should have gotten used to it now. help!!!