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Am i over reacting? is there a problem??

Started on Wednesday November 4th 2009 at 10.32 AM

lillypad

Am i over reacting? is there a problem??

19 days ago

I have been in my relationship for almost ten years,married for almost five and have 2 super kids.My husband is a great man,wonderful father and works dam hard for us as he is in the forces. My problem is although i love him dearly, i am not sexually satisfied with him. Sex is twice a week,but i want it every night and when we do have sex i feel its more about him that me andhe doesnt last very long leaving me sexually unsatisfied. I have spoke to him about spicing things up as im very open minded and adventurous and would kill to try new things but hes not intrested and things there is nothing wrong with our sex life. I fantasise about other men and women,watch porn daily and tend to mastrubate once or twice a day....i dont feel i get enough attention from my husband and feel its me making all the effort?

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thatgirl88

Re: Am i over reacting? is there a problem??

19 days ago

hey, well first of all for people who have been together 10 years twice a week is quite lucky! but i am in the same boat as you, i feel i need sexual satisfaction at least once a day, and sometimes i feel resentful towards my boyfriend when he says hes too tierd or he not in the mood. however try showing him exactly the way you want to be touched, and sexily explaining your fantasies, encouraging him to do the same. then make a promise to act out his, if he can act out yours. maybe try online shopping for sex toys, or lingerie, hopefully a toy will help the sex last longer, leaving you more satisfied. but as you say he works hard, so some nights you just have to accept that he will be too tierd and sleep will be on his mind, rather than sex. hope this helps

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lillypad

Re: Am i over reacting? is there a problem??

14 days ago

Thanks for your reply,much appreciated. I have tried sex toys dressing up going away for the night etc.....but he tends to slip back into his old ways. I feel like im constantly hassling him for sex and have exhausted all options, i have mentioned to him that i want to try other stuff(3somes and girl on girl? but he just says no, and he wont take part. It so frustrating as i find my self fantasising everyday about more raunchy sex scenarios and then when we do have sex my expectations are so high i feel deflated afterwards and let down??? i thing i have bought most of the stuff from ann summers in a hope to save our sex life.... 2 twenty minute sessions a week just aint enough??