dont know what to do!

dont know what to do!

bascially i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 18 months, were about to move in together, but a few months ago he told me that he wanted to try a 3sum with me and another guy, because i knew how much he wanted to try it i agreed to it, but then when we did it we both mutually stopped it as we thought it wasnt as good as what we thought and wasnt really enjoying it anymore than usual, he then mentioned that maybe we stopped it too soon but i told him i didnt really enjoy it as i didnt really like the fact there was another guy there, i just want it to be me and my bf, and he said that was fair enough.  Thinking that was the end of it, but then few days ago he said that actually hes thought about it and realised it is something he definatly wants to try again and knowing i dont want to what could we do, meaning we mite have to break up! i cant understand how he is willing to break up over this, as far as im concerned this is an experience that yes he wants to try but its not going to change his life or make it any better, its purely an experience that will last an hour of his life, how can he be willing to give me up for that? ive said that if were me, anything i wanted to do i wouldnt give up our relationship for it as that means the most to me, but he says he loves me and wants to be with me but its something he wants to try and why shouldnt he be able to! i have said that maybe id consider doing it, i dont really want to but then im not williing to lose him over this either! i just dont know what to do, i feel hurt and upset that he obviously feels like this one experience is more important to him than me.

Re: dont know what to do!

dont u think u answered ur question there

break up with him he just wants u 2 please himself thinkin ur tha thing that he can use 2 satisfy his sexual pleasures

hes probably braggin 2 his mates as well bout it all ?? tha fact hes ready 2 drop u ova this says that hes not a man worth keepin

a man worth keepin will try 2 make u comfortable, only want u 2 b his nobody else's, he wont drop u over his displeasures, he'll work on the lows with u

so y dont u think bout it ?? is he really worth ur time, u exploitin urself 2 something u dont even think is right 4 u ?

Re: dont know what to do!

you need to call his bluff on this something doesnt sit right with this at all what sort of person if they really love you would break up over not fulfilling a sexual fantasy?

i would be concerned that if you go ahead he may dump you anyway and then how will you feel.

if i were you just stick to your guns and tell him fine if he feels so strongly about it that you should break up. be strong on this as i guarantee (well95%) that when he sees you are willing to walk away he will do a u turn and if he doesnt then your well off out of it!

if you do go through with it what next groups, extra girls? this sort of thing is fine if you are both 100% comfortable with it but your clearly not