How I stopped my son being bullied
We informed his teachers so they were aware of the problem and could take steps to stop it. Then we encouraged Michael to talk to us about it, but on his own terms and when he was ready. We also looked on the internet at www.antibullying.net and www.bullying.co.uk.
Then we told neighbours and friends so they could keep an eye out for after-school bullying too. If parents think their son or daughter is a bully, they should make them aware of the consequences of their actions and get them to see what it's like from the victim's point of view.
Susan, 29, mum to Michael, 9
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By Susan
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How to complain to the school
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How to tackle bad behaviour in class
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What to do if your child gets a bad school report
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debbie kent, about 1 year
i am a single parent of 2 boys aged 12 and 14, and up until about 2 years they were both severly bullied by children and youths around were we live. it even got so bad at one stage that one youth (who has now got an asbo due to what he done to my son) chased my eldest son with a stick that was set alight, and had i not stopped him he would have set light to my son. i thought for 4 long years with the police and my housing association to get it stopped, in the end i even got my local MP involved , and he sent a letter to my housing association, and thats when they took it seriously, and they sent letters to all the parents of the children who were bullying my kids, and they were told that they would be evicted if their children didnt leave my kids alone, and also as a result the bullies have all got asbos on them, and believe me they do work. i went through hell with my children as well, as my eldest son used to come in and say to me that he wished he was dead, and my youngest son went through a phrase of refusing to eat, as the bullying stressed him out so much.what else i done was to send my children to karate so that they could defend themselves should they ever get bullied again, and as a result they have now earned respect from their peers. so my message is dont let bullies win, as they always get their commeuppance in the end.
Report this commentdebbie, about 1 year
my daughter was friends with a little girl at preschool who had also just moved into the same town we all got on at first then i was accused of saying certain things by the nursery who then found out it was this childs mother i decided to distance myself from her as she was not someone i could trust by the september the two girls were starting reception in the same class everything seemed to be going ok until my daughter came home very upset she told me what this little girl had said and was quite horrified i spoke to the teacher who confirmed what had gone on but said i must realise the little girl had problems to which i replyed that i didnt care what her problems were as long as my child was not affected ,everything calmed down until year 1 .,My daughter was given a very popular teacher who on one particular parents evening told me my daughter was being bullied by what he called this child as being the worst school bully he had ever seen at the age of 5 years old my world just exploded , i started to keep an eye on things more closely talking to the teacher more and being consulted on what was going on then my little girl started to feel ill and then perk up after phoning her in sick at school a couple of times this happened she would not sleep at night had nightmares she was punched in the face by this child in the toilets as she knew the teacher would not let her get away with it she was doing the bullying elsewere .my son was then thrown to the ground and kicked 15 times by the bullys brother at this point i screamed at this mother of these two awful children and told her straight but the situation worsened still she brought her family up to the school who tryed to intimidate by swearing at me and calling me and my children rude names they looked what they were bullies the whole lot no wonder these kids were going to be the same my little girl has been through every emotion even resulting in sticking her fingers down her throat to make herself sick so she didnt have another day of bullying by now i had spoken to the headmistress i was on the verge of going to the doctor with my little girl i was going down every avenue even talking to her now year 2 teacher about pulling her out of the school but i must say i did give this mother what for all the lies she had told about me and my children what she had done to my little girl because she cant control her children and thankfully it did the trick she keeps out of my way she dosent bring family up the school and her child has been placed under the care of a physchiatrist she still bullys but not my child now its up to the school to listen to all the other raging parents that go in ever day
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Bec, 12 months
What is happening to all of these children is completely un acceptable! But sadly a lot of children who are bullies have grown with this kind of terrible behaviour and they do not know any different!! We must also remember that there are many different kinds of bullying for example "Stealing something that doesn't belong to you" (This I have been a victim of and it is the most terrible feeling in the world) Some people's point in life is purely to make life a misery for somebody else. And I don't know about you but I think that schools should take more action against bullying for example give bullies maybe one or two warnings before taking proper action instead of four warnings or more (a friend of mine was severly bullied and the girls that were doing this to her got loads of warnings but they never actually did much else to stop it they just dished out another warning and another one AND THIS IS WRONG WE NEED TO TAKE SOME SERIOUS ACTION!!!!!!!!!! i hope that this has been of interest!
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