How to make sure your child isn't bullied

Charlotte, about 1 year

Hi, I'm 16 and when i was 14 every body in my year had chests apart from me. One day i came out of the shower for P.e and my towel was gone. I looked under my cubicle and it was on the other side of the Changing rooms. I couldn't see any body in the room as it was the end of school. When i walked out a girl who teased me about my chest in P.e jumped out of a cubicle with her 4 friends and took pictures of me naked. I tried to grab my towel but they pinned me down. They opened my legs and took pictures there too. The girl put the pictures on her web site. After that my chest wasn't the only thing i got teased about. I didn't want to tell a teacher incase they went on the website and saw me naked. I told my older brother instead who sorted them out. And the girl got rid of the pictures.Luckily though my dad got a new job so we had to move. It was embrassing, but telling somebody helped. Good luck X Charlii

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sophie, about 1 year

im 14 and when i was 13, i was bullied really really badly. part of it was because the bullies kept falling out with my sister - we used to all be really good friends. i stuck up for my sister and when she decided to move schools, i said id stay at the school i was currently at for a while longer. It wasnt a wise decision as i was the next victim. A boy in my year was told by the bullies to throw a stone at my face so he did and my so called friend started laughing so i threw water over her, went to my head of year and then he had the cheek to blame me! I was very pissed off. I had councilling but nothing helped, i was beaten up and nothing was done, pushed into a metal thing that you put chairs on to move around the rooms in school. I was pushedd into the balcony and nearly fell over it and still nothing was done. i started cutting my self, convinced it was my fault. i died my hair dark brown and they ran after me grabbing it and saying it was disgusting. I spoke to a police officer that said he'd help me. So i was stood in a hallway at lunch one time and they had been following me for ages. so i went to him and he spoke to them on a numerous occasions then he got fed up and said if it happened one more time then he would arrest them for harrasment. which never happened. When i used to walk down the hallway they used to shout abuse at me, and my boyfriend used to tell them to leave me alone and stuff. Soon, after i had told loads of teachers, nothing still happened. I finally gave up and mum found the cuts and scars on my arms. She told me i was moving schools. I went in in the morning of my last day to collect some of my work and give things back to the school. One of the teachers i told about the bullying said that i didnt tell noone. i just walked out crying. Then i went home and never went back to that school. But when my friends came home the day i left, they said there had been an assembly and my head of year had said ''someone in this year group has left today as some of you may know, she was getting bullied by some people in another year group and didnt tell noone. If she would have told someone, we could have helped''. I was fuming. I told everyone i could and still i was ignored. Schools need to act harder on bullying, i came so close to ending my life because of them. Now thats a big part of the reason i suffer from depression and have a serious anger problem. Tell your kids they need to talk to you about bullying. They will need alot of encouragement, tell them if they dont want to talkface to face then they can write a letter. i did. its so much easier. or just print out this comment and show them. If you do, i just want to say to all the kids being bullied out there, You need to tell your parents before its to late. let them help you! good luck x

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floss, about 1 year

i'm 14 and ive been bullied for the past year, on and off, by the same bullies. i didnt tell my parents, but school found out. eventually my pqarents found out too, and they were worried. the bullying got really bad. one girl was excluded. they had been posting blogs on myspace about me and how i am ugly and worthless and i deserve a brick in my face. this brought down my confidence a lot. i had done nothing wrong to them ever, and i never retaliated to any of their comments. they all clearly had their own problems with family and ADHD etc, but i was angry as my school tried to use this as an excuse for it. my parents really tried to help me throughout everything. when they found out they sat me down and asked me everything i had gone through. they went to my school and asked for something to be done immediately. my school then tried, but nothing really changed. it kept coming back, and i had so much anger and stress inside me that eventually i let it all out one day after school when they were giving me grief. i shouted at the top of my voice that i hated them and for them to leave me alone. a lot has happened but it has now calmed down, and the two main bullies have been expelled. i want everyone to know that any type of bullying is unnaccepptable, and MUST be brought to the attention of an adult. no one deserves to be bullied.

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kerry, about 1 year

hi, my daughter is being bullied at school. I have brought it to the schools attention by talking to her class teacher she then had words with both my daughter and the 2 bullies. the problem is that their mums work at the school and have now complained to the head about their children being pulled up by the class teacher about the problem. the head has now told my daughter off and i have been sent a letter by her saying that my daughter is now causing upset in school and that she is obviosly only telling me her side off the story.She has also said to my daughter that she should always inform a member of staff and that by coming home and telling me she has done the wrong thing, but we have always told our daughters that they can confide in us about anything.she has said also in the letter that she can not follow up incidents unless my daughter informs her of incidents that happen when they happen. im at a lose end do you have any advice you can give me thanks kerry.

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