'It was a nightmare when my daughter got pregnant at 15'

Kelly, 28 days

You girls need interests and goals beyond boyfriends. Stop being so needy. Be confident, be in control of your lives. Looks like many of you disregarded every single bit of wise advice that came your way. Boyfriends will come and go. Don't sacrifice or risk your goals and dreams for a guy. They're not worth it. You are going to have major life regrets on missing out on your teenage years. They're supposed to be the best. Don't let a guy or sexual urges ruin those years for you.

leanne, about 1 month

hi my 14 yr old daughter has just told me shes pregnant weve been to the docs and she has got a scan in a couple of days to c how far she is im gutted as i was a teen mum myself (15)so i know how hard it is going to be for her and i really didnt want this my husband says he will suppport her which ever way she wants to go but we are trying for another baby ourselves i have tried to explain to her how hard it will be for either way she said at first she didnt want the baby but now she doent no what she wants shes not sure who the father is as she has slept with 2 boys i dont think we could cope if i got preg too i dont no wat to do for the best

Nicola, about 1 month

My little girl is preganant and she is so sad!! She is 18 today!!! I guess after reading all these messages i feel she is older and maybe more able to deal with it but i was 18 and it was really really hard. I just want to take the worry and pain away from her. I dont know how we will cope but i know we will. Every life is a blessing and it all happens for a reason. We could have all taken the 8 minute option to have it removed but that is a huge decision and one which will stay with you forever. Good luck to you all. Every day brings new dreams and every day is a blesing.

emma , 3 months

my sister found out she was pregnant at 15 and she had her little boy at 15 aswell. ever yone looked down there nose at my sister but she had the support from me and her mum and dad we could never be with out him now. it was had supporting her sometimes as shes my little sister but shes a good mum and loves her boy very much

natalie 8 weeks, 4 months

i 15 but 14 wen i found i was pregnant i soo happy in a away but scared at the same time cause i have no one cause ma bf done a runner and i havent told ma mum or dad and i know theywill be mad but i think u shuld just go with wat u want and dont let people do wat u dont want to xxx

Andrea Iggleden, 6 months

I found out I was pregnant when I was 15. I had been with my boyfriend for 14months before I got pregnant, he said he would stand by me and luckily for me he did. The hardest part was telling my mum, but she was so supportive after she had recovered from the shock of it. We had a healthy baby girl who weighed 7lb 1oz. My boyfriend is now my husband and we have been together for 17 years, we married when I was 18 and he was 23 and have been married 12years. It hasn't always been easy but we worked at our relationship and are more in love today than when we first met. We had our second daughter when I was 19. We had more grief from other people with me only being 15, than we did our own families and no it wasn't easy my husband worked full time and took care of us we had no help from the state we supported ourselves. Getting pregnant at an early age changed my life completly, but our children have not suffered they haven't always had what they wanted but they have never gone without and most of all they have parents that love them. Our eldest daughter is doinf her GCSE's at the moment and is set to get A's and B's. our youngest is going to start grammar school in September. And as for me i'm back at college getting my health diploma and will be going onto university to study midwifery. It was aperfect situation but we made the best of what we had and have turned our lives around. Life doesn't end just because your a teenage mum, its the begining of a fantastic life time journey. Sometimes the hardest route can be the most rewarding xxx

Brooke, 6 months

i found out i was pregnant about 3 weeks ago and i was so excited and happy thinking that everything would be hunky dorey. but wen my mum and dad found out they were not impressed they werent angry with me but they were upset bcoz i was keeping it, im 17 in my last term of L6th (2nd to last year of school). my boyfriend is 21 and doesnt have the best job and i certainly dont. and all my life i have been given everything i wanted n the thought of having a baby n scraping money to buy it sum food and living in a council house n living off benefits wasnt nice bcoz my parents wudnt of supported me. but i spoke to my mum and she made me think... did i reli want to throw my life away at sucha young age im nearly 18, and as they say life stars at 18 i was so close to having freedom n doing wot i want, did i reli want a baby to hold me down wen my friends were out having fun.?? my boyfriend sed he wud support me and hes not from england hes from cyprus... and his family were pleased for me. but i had my abortion yesterday and altho i had chosen baby names and i was excited im so glad i listened to my mum and remembered how amtious i was before this happened. and now iv booked a holiday with my bf and a few friends for 6 weeks this summer :) u can have a baby anytime, dotn have one at so young, especially u 14 - 16 year olds sorry to be patronising but ur stil kids urself. just think carefully about this. its not fair on the baby if ur scraping money together and cant give it everything its wants. good luck girls x

Giselle, 7 months

Im not sure if im pregnant or not I had unprotected sex twice that day. Than a week later we did it again but I was so drunk I couldn't remember ; my bestfriend was the one to tell me I had sex that night. A week has passed than I got my period. But I feel as though I could be pregnant but im not sure. Someone please help me.

Hanna,16, 8 months

heyya, i just writing a comment because im rele worried.. i had sex with my long term boyfriend 2 months ago n just b4 i came of the pill because it was making me sick.. n i asked my mam how long do the pill stay in ur system after you cum off it n she sed a fortnight but i then read the leaflet n it only takes a week which meens it wood have been well outa my system when we did it.. we did it without a condom becuz im allergic to latex n we didn have ene sheep skin condoms.. ive taken 2 tests n both are negative.. last month after i came off the pill i had spotting but nothing else.. my boyfriends going in the army in august so he wont be around to support a baby n he dusnt treat me very good but i rele do luv him..n i knnow my mam will go mad at me if i tell her.. im going to make an appointment with the docs n just go from there.. have anyone gt ene advice on what i should do about my boyfriend if im pregnant? how do i go about telling my mam? plz get back to me, i rele need ur help.. i feel so isolated cuz i dnt want ppl thinking bad of me.. :( Hanna xx

Christy, 9 months

umm . ii told my mom ! and next week she's takin me to get an abortion . =/

Jordan, 11 months

i know some one of u might not want to hear this and u might report this comment, but i think wha i am sayin is common sense, but why post stuff about how u have been violently sick n have missed a period and think your pregnant. if you think your pregnant go and buy a bloody test instead of postin silly little messages. when i thought i was pregnant i did a test straight away, not tell everyone and hope for a bit of sympathy. i mean what are we ment to do .... tell u if ur pregnant or not.

Jessie, about 1 year

heyya everyone .. ermm just wonered if any i had told there dad n seein what there dad says cause my dad always says if i ever get pregnant he would kill them (im only 14 by the way ) and when he says it he sounds like he means it has anyone else ever been in this situation ?? cause i think i could be preganant with my boyfriend iv been with for 6months and he says if i ever didi get preganant he would stand by me his the best thing dats ever happend 2 me plz someone write bk 2 me xxxxxx

x, about 1 year

The Sooner you tell your parents i think the better,the earlier you tell them the easiest it's going to be.It'll only ever get harder.There are hostals you can stay at. You have to get intouch with someone though i think. It's your decision at the end of the day , no one can stop you from doing what you want to do.

abbie, about 1 year

im 17 and 30weeks pregnant i just left college and after reading that has made me feel better i now feel strong enough to go back to college afte a year my baby wasnt planed but as she kicks me the more exciting i become i cant wait to have her i do get upset with the looks i get but stuff them im not with the babys dad anymore but he is standin by me and my little girl and his family are really gd im lucky i had my mum and dad stand by me they have been gr8 they have got me all the things i have needed and im payin them bk with babysittin x

Beth, about 1 year

Im 16 and 18 weeks pregnant! I think Its one of the worst fears, when it comes to telling your parents as you just don't know how they will react, I was totally wrong to what I imagined. As they both were very suportive and made me feel safe and secure, It was like a big weight been lifted off my shoulders. As for the dad he says he's going to be there but thats just words tbh, And he's abit of a player so from now on i aint going to waste my time on following him, because its a bout me and the baby and thats all the matetrs to me at the moment. For anyone who is pregnant and scared on telling there parents, I can esure you that it will be abit up and down for the first week but afer that you will be suprised on how helpfull they'll be towards the situation. Also if you'v got pregnant to a lad who is making you feel unsure on the situation, dont waste your time on him he will come when he's got round it and feel sready if not it goes to prove he's a waste of space anyway =] Just try to think abotu yoursel fand the baby more then anything, as that baby needs you to live hope this has helped some of you

leanne, about 1 year

hi guys. im 14 years old and have vbeen having sex with an older boy for about 4 months now. we are not toegther. i think im preganant but im noit sure if he is the dad because i selpt with 2 other boys recently whilst drunk. i no u probs fink im a slut but im not.!! ive recently been violently sick in the mornings, have missed a period and am bloated. i am looking for a place to stay as i know my mum would kill me but i want to keep it. ive any1 knows of a place i could stay please get in touch. fankss..xxxxxxxxx

Hannah 15, about 1 year

well.... i slept with a boy the same age as me 2 weeks ago... i am due on my period on the 9th july and worried that if i dont come on i might be pregnant because he said he did it inside of me and i didnt take the mornign after pill or anything...ive slept with him before but also been sleeping with another boy:| i am not a slag like everyone says...i was stupid and no one knows not even my best friend....i wouldnt know what to say to my mum she would go absolutly mental she would kill me...she said if i ever got pregnant at my age she would kick me out...although she might not kick me out i wouldnt want her to think that her daughter is sleeping round because im not:( i have had a pregnancy scare before when in was with my boyfriend and he said that he "came" inside of me aswell because we didnt use protecting...i just dont know what i would do if i got pregnant, i am totally against abortion so...please can i have some advise pleaseeeeeeee:( thanks -hannah x

Tiffney., about 1 year

I am 15 and I have a little boy called Jake who's 6 weeks old. =D Telling my mam was the hardest thing I had to do. I knew she would go mad 1. because of my age and 2. because i wasn't with the baby's dad. I was drunk and we just had casual sex, I know you'll probably think 'yeah slag' as most people do but I wouldn't change Jake for the world. She was really upset and shocked at first but after we talked I felt she had understood me for the first time. We went out shopping and became so much closer. When Jake was born and the midwife handed him to me I was so happy. I couldn't belive he was the little baby I'd carried around for 9 month, the little baby that had hiccups every night, that mooved my belly when he kicked. Even though I was tired that night in hospital I just sat up and watched him sleep. I notice a change in him everyday. I love watching him sleep and how he settles when I put him on my chest because he hears my heartbeat. I say to all teenagers out there that find theirselves in the difficult situation of getting pregnant then talk to your mam. I know I didn't and I wish I had. I wouldn't of got through this if my mam haden't been there. Tiff. xx

Lindsay,15, about 1 year

Hey jade... I feel for you... I am going through tha same thing except I'm 15 years old... Not fun... we are stuck between a rock and a hard place... I actually didin't have sex but ahv done other things that could result in a pregnancy... Just know that I'm here and if you want ta talk at any time Just e-mail me.... I will give you advice...or better yet you me.=] -Lindsay

diana, about 1 year

hey jade just read ur artical and i feel for u am a mother of 9 wonderful children u must think life is hard at moment but dont be if u have a loving family all will be ok,many young girls get pregnant at an early age and i do not think ur a slag because u r so young things does happen after drink. if u ever want to chat i will be around for any support u need.,and i would love to talk to u about pregnancy and any advice u would like to know about thinking off u

joan brown, 28, about 1 year

hello jade ur just a normal teenager fiona's right, but pregnancy can be a beautiful thing too ur not a slag u do need to tell ur mom though. MY mom was very suportive of me when I got pregnant at 14 she helped me throw every thing I don't know where I would have been with out her, thats how I was very understanding of naomi when she became pregnant at 14

joan brown, about 1 year

I know what u mean my daughter fell pregnant when she was 14 I new she was seeing somebody but didn't know who, when daughter naomi came to me at told me I shock & angry at her I shouted at her but then next day I had talk with naomi & told her that I was going to suport her in every way poss we tlaked about her options she wanted to keep it we talked about how far gone she was 3 months & her boy friend thats when I found out he was a lot older than her by 20 yrs I asked nomi if he would suport her she said that he was going to I asked to meet him & he was a very nice gentleman always looking out for her so I gave them my blessing. He now cames around & sleeps with naomi here at our house & naomi goes to his house, he was there all though her pregnancy & when alex their baby was 1yr old they mooved in together with our blessing love & support.

Joan Brown, about 1 year

Hello Jade What sort of help are you looking for ? I can & would be willing to give you any help u are looking for so just let me know, if u need a place to stay or ?

fiona,14, about 1 year

jade if you think your pregnant then buy a clearblue pregnancy test talk to your friend about this but if you are then its up to you what you do i couldnt get an abortion but at your age i think you should and dont worry noone thinks your a slag it was a mistake i get drunk all the time its just one of those things but next time when you have sex use a condom dont go round telling everyone because your teachers will sone hear about it and thats when the trouble starts

fiona,14, about 1 year

i have a 20yr old boyfriend and he was the one i lost my virginity to i got pregnant just last christmas and i went to the doctors because i was bleedind and they told me to go to a&e so i did hey gave me appointments at the early pregnancy unit and i went for my scan and the midwife said she couldnt see anything i just looked at my boyfriend i couldnt believe it. the midwife said to me you might be to early or you could have misscarride or your having an ectopic pregnancy i told my mum and she didnt go mad she surported me all the way later that day i went for a blood test its like pregnancy test but for blood the nurse told me that i have had a misscaridge because my numbers were dropping i am still deppresed but i am slowly getting through it now i have child protection agency on my back telling me i cant see my own boyfriend never get into this mess i am in and jusyt wear a condom i always said to my boyfriend if you wear one i am not having sex with you but i wanted to get pregnant and now i realise how stressful pregnancy is.

Jade, about 1 year

Hey, i feel really ill at the moment.. on new years eve i got drunk and had sex with this boy we didnt use a condom i can't even remember it. It was my first time aswell. I think im pregnant im 13 some of you probly are thinking what a slag! But whatever ok? think what you want.. Can anyone help please? :( x