'I thought we'd conceive straightaway'

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When me and my boyfriend decided to start trying for a baby, I thought it would happen really quickly. But months passed and I kept getting my period.

After the fifth month, I started panicking. I went on the internet and it said the average couple took between six months and a year to conceive. That made me feel a bit better. It also said if you'd been taking the pill, it could take a while for it to get out of your system. I'd been on the pill for six years before I came off it so that might be a reason.

We've been trying for seven months now and still nothing's happened but at least I know I'm in the 'normal' range. I know getting stressed about it won't help so we're trying really hard to chill out about it. Sometimes that's easier said than done though!

My doctor says he won't refer me for any tests until we've been trying for at least a year. It's frustrating but hopefully we'll have conceived by then anyway. We've done those DIY kits you get from Boots to test our fertility and everything seems fine so I guess we just have to keep trying!
Sarah Connors, 24, Plymouth, Devon

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it took 2 years to concieve my 3rd child, as my 1st 2 were surprises, i was nieve when we started to try for another baby, we did all the usual things, we tried our very best, she just took her time! we are now trying for our 4th, and finding it increasingly difficult, its been 5 months, and although its no great length of time, it feels like double. we are both young, healthy, and very active (in the right way) i know we are lucky for the children we have, but nothing can fill the void of the baby you are trying for! its amazing how mentally hard it is trying for a baby, but when he or she arrives, that will be our reward for all our hard work! i just wish time and mother nature wern't so cruel in the process!


me and my husband have been trying for four years and four month now. i did have a misscarriaged three years ago i was only seven weeks pregnant since then we both have been trying but there is no hope yet. im really stressing out it seems like i have lost every hope and feel sorry for my husband too. he has been very supportive towards me is that normal im really scared dont know who to talk too


me and my husband have been trying for a baby for 2 and a half years, and yet no luck. im 25 he's 24. test have all ome back clear, so were still trying.


me and my girlfriend have been trying for a baby for a couple of years she got pregnant 2 years ago but miscarriaged after 7 weeks.we have been trying ever since with no luck could there be something wronge with me as my girlfriend has had tests and the results were fine i have a child from my previous marriage also.eny suggestions of what else we can do would be great.


we have been trying for 18 months we have had all out test which come back clear, we have been intouch with foresight to have a mineral check we where both deficient in zinc and selenium which is essential for conception. lifestyle issues play a huge part, i didnt realise until i started reading around. Gud luck

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