Are they growing up too fast?
Like it or not, our children are growing up in a far more sophisticated and complex world than we did. This has its advantages. They will have more opportunities and choices than you ever had. However, it can create problems too.
Here's what to do if yours seems too 'old' for their age:
1. Set a good example
You and your partner will be your child's first role models, the people they admire the most. If your main interests are lipstick and mini skirts, don't be surprised if your daughter's are too. If you're a smokers or drinker your child will see that as normal.
Tip: Girly conversations about make up and clothes are fine. But make sure they aren't all you talk about. They need to know that other, more important things, interest you too.
2. Be realistic
Kids have always wanted to dress and look older. So don't fret if your child is pestering you for trendy 'teenage' clothes when they're only nine. But use your common sense. There's a world of difference between looking fashionable and looking like a Bratz doll or a gangster rapper with loads of bling. They may not understand the subtleties, but you do, so be firm.
Tip: Don't wait until your daughter's found the micro mini and matching crop top of her dreams and is beggjng you to buy it. This will only lead to tears and tantrums. Instead, plan the shopping expedition in advance. Look at catalogues and fashion magazines together and make sure your child understands and accepts your rules.
More help and advice
- Talking to your child about puberty and sex
- 'My kids' hormones kicked in earlier than expected'
- 'I used Corrie to help with sex education' - read one mum's story of how she coped with the change
By Kate Corr
