What to do if your child is being bullied
Finding out your son or daughter is the target of bullying is never nice, but what can you actually do to help?
Sue Ormersher, Senior Press Officer from Parentline Plus gives her tips on how to beat the bullies
Helping your child
- Keep calm: your first reaction may anger, but you can't let your child see this. They need to be reassured and may be less likely to trust you again, if you get irate.
- Talk to your child and let them know you're there for them and that you love them and don't pressurise them into talking to you.
- Suggest someone else they can talk to: not all kids want to talk to parents, so think of someone else they trust, such as a grandparent, other relative or close friend.
- Reassure them: tell your child that it's not their fault and they shouldn't feel ashamed that they're being targeted.
- Raise their self-esteem: bullying hits a child's self-confidence, so praise and encourage them at every possible opportunity.
Dealing with the source of the problem
- Have a quiet chat to your child's teacher: either have a quick word on the phone or go in before school.
- Many schools are very good when it comes to bullying and they'll do a special assembly about it to highlight the problem.
- If you don't get anywhere with the school, ask to see a copy of their anti-bullying policy. All schools are legally required to have one.
- Then ask to see the headteacher and keep a record of any meetings you have.
- If you're still not happy, try contacting the Chairman of Governors or your Local Educational Authority
- Make a list of all the questions you want to ask and take someone along with you, so you don't miss anything that they may say.
More on bullying
- How to get your kids to open up
- How to spot the signs of bullying
- How one mum stopped her son being bullied
- Have your kids been bullied? Have you been a victim? Share your experiences
- For more practical help, check out the Parentline Plus website or call 0808 800 2222
By Sue Ormersher
