Giving your child up for adoption (Part 2)
These are more frequently asked questions about giving your child up for adoption.
Do I need to get the father's permission?
If you're not married and his name isn't on the birth certificate, then you don't need his permission. The social worker will need to contact him though, if possible, as they will want his medical history and some basic information as well. They will want to let him know about the adoption because he might want to bring up the child himself. However, you won't ever be forced to tell them who the father is if you don't want to.
If you are married, and your husband is the father of the child or if you're not married but his name is on the birth certificate you will need to get him to agree to the adoption.
If you are married but your husband's not the father, the law still considers him to be the legal father, unless he has signed a declaration otherwise. In this case your husband will have to give permission for the adoption. The social worker will also want, if possible, some information on the actual father so they can pass it on to the adopters and the child.
What happens if he doesn't give permission?
If he doesn't give permission because he wants to bring the baby up himself, and you don't want him to, then you will need to take it to the courts. They will then decide whether adoption or a life with the father is likely to be best for the child in the long term.
Will I be able to choose the family my child is placed with?
You can say what sort of family you would like your child to be placed with. For example, you can ask that your child be placed with a family where there are other children. You can also ask that your child is brought up in a certain religion or culture. The best interests of the child are always put first, but your wishes will be taken into account.
What sort of family will my child be placed in?
Families that adopt children go through very thorough checks to make sure that they're the right sort of people to look after your child. Agencies working with the family build up a full profile of what they're like and what kind of upbringing they can offer. Before any child is placed with a family, social services have to be certain that they can meet your child's needs and they will try to match your child with a family that suits them best. Find out more about the adoption process.
Get advice if your worried about your grandchild, or relative, being given up for adoption
Where next?
- Pregnancy and health
Sources and other help:
- www.adoptionuk.com
- After Adoption support group
- Department for children, schools and families
- British Association for Adoption and Fostering
By Vicky Woollaston
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