Could the reason you haven't got pregnant be down to your blood type? Scientists in the US at New York and Yale University have recently discovered that women with type O blood are twice as likely to have a lower egg count and poorer quality eggs.
If you haven't got pregnant as fast as you thought don't automatically assume that you're infertile. Here are 10 more reasons why you might be having trouble.
It might seem that for some people, especially ones who get pregnant without trying, that it's straightforward but having a baby depends on everything being just right, including your lifestyle.
That's why we've got a list of 10 reasons that could explain why you're not pregnant yet. Have a look through and see if any apply to you and your partner, we've then got tips, advice and support to help you if they do. Don't leave having a baby to chance, let us help you.
Your comments
Tiffany Wilson
My boyfriend &nd i have been tryin to have a baby for about 2 months now. We have sex daily &nd now im starting to get kind of worried i want to know if there is something wrong or have we just been un lucky. im very confused &nd i need help now!
robyn
hi i am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 wer scared that maybe he will get into trouble if we had one now coz i am under age will that happen? and we have tried soo much to have one but it has taken so long could u maybe give me some advice thanks.!!
carla
i was on the pill and came off it as i was putting a bit of weight on while taking it and i also wanted to try for a baby with my partner..from i stopped taking my pill in august 08 i have only had one period,and yet it wasnt like a real period..am i right to be worried?
John
Thanks for a very well written article. You are right about the reasons highlighted why most ladies don't get pregnant. I am particular about the "Making love at the wrong times". There are indeed the right time but most people dont know. Instead, they make love just about anytime, but that's wrong if you are serious about getting pregnant. Thanks a lot once again for a very well written one.
lisa craik
hi ive been on the pill since i was 15 i stoped taking it 10months ago to try for a baby with my partner and nothing has happen yet we really want a baby and its ow getting me down cause all my mates are pregnant and it never seems to be could you give me any advice on wat we can do thnaks lisa craik
polly
i can relate a lot to this.
dawn
I have been with my partner for 2yrs and been trying for 2yrs we have 7 kids between us so there is no problem with having kids until now. im 33 so is he, we had fertility tests and it shows he has a low sperm count im confused because his previous relationship he had 2 children with and the youngest is just over 2. Nothing has changed in his lifestyle prior to his relationship before me which gets me wondering it could be me to even though the tests come back as good, could it be some else that needs looking into.I get very depressed every month when i come on and feel no one understands i would like to see if there is anything to boost his sperm count!!
maxi
Hi im new to this so i dont know if anyone can help me. I have been trying for a baby with my husband for about 2 years. I came off the pill when i was 19 (im 21 now) and since then my periods have been up and down, i feel so down all the time and keep getting upset whenever i see a pregnant woman or a baby. Alot of my friends have babies too and they seem to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. I have been to the drs for blood tests but all has been fine. Im so worried i cant get pregnant :( i joined here hoping to relate to some other women who are going through the same things as me as i feel like im the only person going through this.
concerned father
i am a father of a 2 year old girl, she is my world along with her mom. we have been trying for another for 5 months and nothing. she has been having irregular periods and before we started trying she switched birthcontrols back to the pill now she is off birth control. what could be the problem and i have had a sperm count test and i am above regular and she has had a feertility test she is fine what is wrong??
daisy
Me and my partner have been trying for a baby for nearly a year now. I am in my 20's so i dont know why i cant fall pregnant as i have never had any health issues. Everytime my period comes i feel so deperesed! it seems every one around me is pregnant- 3 of my friends and a girl at work. I know i am still young and there is time and help available but its so frustrating with all my friends either pregnant or parents them selves, i cant help wondering why i cant get pregnant! :-(
Jolene goodtoknow Editor
Hi Dawn, sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. Keep strong and I hope you get some better news very soon.
penny
I am lucky really i already have to little boys but me and my patner have been tryin for 2 years and nothing,i had a missed period 3 times and nothing,i just cant understand why nothing has happened at all ,he now has to go for tests ,we both want another and try all the time but do not seem to be gettin any where and am gettn fed up
penny
you wouldnt get into trouble but your boyfriend would.your only 15 hunni i was 16 when i fell preg with my first and itsssssss so much hard work you wont be able to party and go to your mates all the time,am not having a go hun but think long and hard and will he always be there as i thought the same as you ,my xmy kids dad left us after 7 years for a very gd friend at the time,just make sure your not goin to be doin all the work and left holding the bby gd luck
penny
hey hun my sister had that and it took her over a year for her period to be come regular so it just may take u some time,as your body may stil be goin bck to normal but if you worried go get checked out xx
Dawn1256
Hi, My partner & I have ttc for nearly 2 years now. April last year 2010 I did fall pregnant but at my 12 week scan I was told that the sac was empty so the next day I had to have a D& C. We have an 8 yr old together & I have been tested to see if I'm ovulating & it shows that I am. I get very depressed every month when i come on and feel no one understands. I just wish it would happen soon. Next step for my is to get my parnters sperm count tested which he won't like.
sarah
me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for 5 months now and nothing has happened.... i had the contraceptive implant took out just over 5 months ago and wondering if that has anything to do with it?? its really getting me down now and worried that there might be something wrong does anyone have any advise for me thanks xxx
jazz
me and my fiancee have been trying for a baby for a year and nothing seems to be happing can somone give me any tip sxxxxx
donna
hi my name is donna and im 22 years old i have been trying for a baby for 3 years now and ever negative pregnancy test month after month is making me think thers somthing rong im sceard as my bf is starting to blame me for it i have been to the docs but i chikined out of the tests im so sceard that i cant hav kids as this will rip me apart all iv ever wanted to do in life is be a great mum and give all i can to make shure wen my time is up iv left somthing good in this world any 1 with any advice pleas help xxxx
Natasha
i have been trying to get pregnant for 6 months now, but nothing is happening :( i really want a baby, has anyone got any idea's on how i cud get pregnant? if i ever did get pregnant i really would be happy x x x x
J
My wife and myself have been trying for our first baby now for 15 months. We both went for tests she gave blood twice looking for ovulation and i was supposed to provide other body fluids for testing (I have not done it yet, due to the three day wait between ejaculations and the fact that we are still actively trying. Also i know it sounds a bit stupid but i am also a bit scared). She got her results back yesterday and there was no evidence of her ovulating at 21 days. She was inconsolable. To be fair I am aware that this is one of the early tests, and there will be further ones down the road. However the little family picture we had in our heads seems to be slowly being torn apart. I think I want a child not just for the family aspect but my dad has been diagnosed with cancer a few times, and although he is currently well, i appreciate the fact that Dr's never say we have cured the cancer they just say we have treated it effectivly. I do not really have any outlet for my fears, my partner has sworn me to secrecy about trying for a baby partley due to the expectations and the stigma that can come with being infertile. As things change i will update this
emma
hi me and my partner where trying for a baby but i had 2 miscarrages one being at 11wks 2days then i fell pregnant i had a lot of complicatitions with bleeding and thought i would lose this one but i never and had a healthy little girl. i had a very rough time and having to have a c-section i didnt want another baby but we decided we didnt want her to be an only child so have been trying for 2yrs to have another baby but i just cant get pregnant and im scared i cant have anymore can any one give me advice of what i could do please x x x
mina
I can sympathise with everyone who's having trouble conceiving. It took me over a year to conceive the first time. I was so happy, then when I went for my three month scan I was told that there wasn't a heartbeat and that my baby had died. I was totally devastated. We kept on trying and after a further 18 months I was sent to hospital for various tests. By the time I was undergoing the tests, I guess I became more relaxed, because I thought that once the results were back we'd know what the problem was. My period was due the day I went for the results. The results were good, there was no reason why I couldn't get pregnant. I was told to keep trying for a couple of months, then if nothing happened I'd put me on a fertility drug. The day after I got the results, I found out I was pregnant. I just couldn't stop worrying and 13 weeks into my pregnancy I started to bleed. This was just one of a couple of hiccups I had but eventually I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. It had taken us nearly 4 years but we got there. The second time I fell pregnant straight away, and now we've also got a little girl. I never thought I'd get to be a mum but I've been so lucky. I just hope that this inspires you with some hope.
lauren
My partner and I have been ttc for 15 LONG months. Eveyone tells you to relax and stop worrying/stressing and it will happen - if only it was that easy! Everyone who has been ttc will know that no matter how much you try not to stress out about getting pregnant, the more you stress out. I feel so down all the time, especially when lots of work colleagues and friends are now pregnant but Jordan just makes me mad. 3 months and she's starting fertility treatment - how it must be amazing to be in that position. My hospital specialist tells me that I can't get more tests done until I have been ttc for 18 months!! Maybe Jordan should keep her mouth shut for a second and think about other women who have been trying for a lot longer than she has. That was some rant - but it felt good to get it out. Who'd have thought that geting pregnant would be so stressful??
nat
me and my husband have been trying for a baby for 9 months now,and nothing has happened,my periods have been all over the place always a week early or a week late and a glimmer of hope each month which is putting imense strain on us.....we have done all the things that have been suggested to us,but with no result!
emma wells
Thank you Angela M never would have thought to look at an app just got it..really has so much info and I like the fact they just dont just focus on medical but have a holistic program in assoc which is what iv being looking for..Will pass it on it will save a lot of money on questions you normally have to pay a lot of money for
Angela M
What a great article & comments for people to read and understand how infertility can effect peoples lives- like it has mine!!!! Did you guys know it's The National Infertility Awareness Week? I also want to share with you all an app that I've been recommended by a friend (yes the apps on your iPhone) - Search for Lifeforce fertility. Jules on the app helps to clear your emotional blocks & includes a 60 day program to help you on your way to optimum fertility. I wish all hopeful parents the best of luck. xx
Isla
i have the same problem as *Lu* im 23 and had my 3rd miscarriage july 2009. it seemed all i had to do was look at my partner and i became pregnant. but after the hospital mucked up the d&c my body has never been the same. i have no pre menstural symptoms anymore and i just cant seem to get pregnant. im terrified i'll never get pregnant again
johanne
i think this is shocking cause she has got children and she going to take a place that someone without kids and wanting the chance to have one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
louise stroud
hi me n my partener have been trying for a baby for 2years now i have a baby which was from a past relationship but i cant seem to get pregnant and its really getting me and my partner down now. can you help?
Reef Steele
I am a fully qualified Reflexologist. My aim is to help women who have trouble becoming pregnant. I have had amazing results from offering a free online trial, and also carrying out treatments on clients. I use metaphysics to alter the persons thoughts and todate I have had 34 women become pregnant, all with diagnosed problems from their GP. I feel it is such a privilege to be able to help these couples achieve their dreams. I am in the process of approaching magazines / newspapers to include this as an editorial as it could be beneficial to many people and comes nowhere near the price tag of ivf, making it more affordable to all.
princess
me and my partner have been trying for about 4 years now to have a healthy pregnancy and baby but during this time we have lost 4 my last miscarriage being in august 2009 at 7 weeks 5 days. we were absolutly gutted. i was diagnosed with having a genetic condition 1 month ago and have been told that we can still have children but it breaks my heart going for scans and them telling me that my babies dont have heartbeats. i can relate to everyone who is going through this.
lu
hi i am a 24 year old girl and all i have ever done is longed for a baby, i fell pregnant on september the 2nd 2009 but sadly my baby died when i was 10 and a half weeks pregnant this is now my third misscarrage i have been trying since this but happened to have a lot of problems when i had this misscarrage, when i went in hospital and had dnc they mucked it up and had to do it twice i was bleeding so bad up untill christmas eve but it had really put a worry on me that i can not have kids or carry them as this seems to keep happening to me what do i do shall i see someone about how i feel???
Rita Riz
Hello, I already have kids but want to get pregnant with my new partner. However, I have tried for almost 2years but isnt working. He told me once, that his ex was pregnant but had a miscarriage. I am now 39yrs old and dnt know what could be the problem. I dnt use any contraceptive and also been to the GP for check up. They told me, I have a 0.5cm fibroid but shouldnt be a problem of me getting pregnant again.
tanya williams
I have been married two years now i am 25 and my husband is35 we have been trying snice july 2010 it feels like all hope is gone. my family memeber got pregnant in three months and i have been married longer . Any advice would be helpful its just hard and sad for me.
brandy winters
Hey. Im 21 and my husbands 26 we've been together since I was 16 and we have been having unprotected sex the entire time. And as ive been reading up on it I feel as if my hope to get pregnant is almost over for me. There's been way to much heartache to even try anymore. and ive gone to doctors and the only thing their telling me is my uterus is on an angle. now I don't know if that means I cant get pregnant because I ask and 2 outta 3 doctors told me im to young and not to worry about it. I just don't know what to do anymore.
bellas
kindly tell me some one how can i check i get pregnent or not? and what should precautions should i take in case of pregnancy bcz we dnt want a baby now. i dnt get my visa
bellas
me nd my hsband do sex a weak before my periods date. but we dont want a baby now. i dnt know normaly my periods start on 25. but it 26 now and no bleading i hve.
Sandra S
THANK YOU!! xxx
Rachel Billingham
i have the same problem i went for tests for 2 years before they found out what was wrong with me i have polycystic ovary syndrome it dont mean you cat have kids but means its very hard i have been trying 2 years and still no joy but i wont give up hope and you shouldnt i have 2 family members with the same problem and they both have 3 kids so ask ur doctor about that it will be ok dont worry
Rachel Billingham
me and my other half have been trying for some time and still no joy its killing knowing that my friends and family are all having kids and im not i have polycystic ovary syndrome so its even harder for me can any one give me a light at the end of the road because im getting to the point where i dont think ill ever have one
Divya Sharma
Hey Michelle, sorry to hear that. Have you tried Pregnancy Miracle? There have been some amazing success stories, maybe it can help you to? Here's the link: www.TryTheMiracle.com
Web Makers
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Sian Davies
well done
Sian Davies
hi me and my partner have been tryn for 4 years and have yet to have no luck, we have both been checked and theres nothing wrong, all i want more than anything is a baby but i just dnt know what to do anymore any help or advice
Katie goodtoknow Money
Congratulations Abby!
Abby Stone
yaay..im so happy, me and my husband have been trying for a few weeks and im pregnant. :D
kellycambridge
Hi, My husband & I have been trying for a baby for 4 years now with no success. We already have a son who's nearly 5 so dont quite understand why we cant conceive again?! We've both had tests done that show we're both healthy, but still nothing..... Dr. said Im ovulating normally so clomid isnt the way forward and we would have to pay thousands for IVF seeing as we already have 1 child. At the moment Im 6 days late but test shows negative :( This is really starting to get us down! Any advice is welcome! Kelly
susan1981
I see a lot of comments here which show just how difficult it is to become pregnant. My husband and I have tried for over a year without success. We tried all the various methods and even considered IVF but our doctor insisted we continue to adopt the 'right' approach, through dieting and religiously following the ovulation calender. It wasn't until I read the story associated to this book (http://www.ouropinionis.com/stories/our-pregnancy-story.php) that we begun to better understand why I wasn't getting pregnant. You often here that when you relax, forget abou the problem (its not that easy is it?!) that things start to happen. In our case this was true and I put it all down to the knowledge I gained through reading this. It may not work for everyone but after a year of trying I was ready to give anything a shot and we are glad I did.
jens
hi there, im new to the site,hoping to give/receive some support.i m 25 and my husband is 30, and we have had similar problems to many on the board.happily married for two years and was on the dianette pill for acne from 15-24.so far its been 9 months actively ttc with no success.tried ovulation sticks which sometimes tell me im ovulating then il be late for my period. then i think im pregnant,do a pregnancy test which is negative-so gutting as im sure many agree,you get you and your partners hopes up just for them to be crushed.friends at work are getting pregnant and family/friends all expect it but it just isnt happening.ive never been pregnant before, and havent had any tests to check my fertility.my periods are sometimes late by a few days which makes it difficult to work out my dates for ovulation.one thing i know for sure is il never ever go on dianette again!!
Beenu
Hey! I and my husband r trying for a baby from 14 months I never have been on pills nor I had any Abortion,I had several blood tests for ovulation and it says that I'm not ovulating ... I had a smear test which came back negative and had CBC which is completely fine but still I'm not conceiving... Does any1 knows or any 1 has the same problem over here :'( I'm really loosing hope now ...
Kirst
Hi I'm new to the site, so many people in the same boat as us, my husband I have been trying for a baby for 2 years now. At first I thought it was because i was a bit over weight had a stressful job etc... but I changed my bad habits and now i feel a lot healither, we went for tests and everything came back fine. I feel so sad at the moment we are so keen to start a family and nothing seems to go right my periods are now about two weeks late from when they should be so you always have the false hope that you might be pregnant. Any advice would be appreciated xx
Michelle Coventry
Hello all ive only just joined today,iam getting upset as i type this, me and my fiance have been together for 5 years,we have been trying for 4years for a baby but nuthin seems to be happening, i used to be ontime with my period but now iam not iam always late since ive been with him but ive been for pregnancy tests and nothing is showin, the last time i was on my period was april 2011 and still havent come on but been for tests and nuthin, we are both very upset and we really want to make a family together,we are getting married on june 24th 2012. Any advice please would be greatful Thanks Michelle
Deb5477
Hi, my husband and I have been trying for our second child for 19 months, starting to feel really down and really need to talk to people who are in the same position. Any advice appreciated.
ab11
hiya all, me and my husband have been tryin for a baby for 3 years now, im 22 and hes 24. i'd really like someone to talk to whos in the same boat as me as other people dont understand how i feel. everyone else seems to get pregnant, no trouble. i'd really like some to talk to, hope to hear back soon :) xxxx
amy1911
hi im new to this. im 23 and my partner is 28 we been together to 6 yrs, i was on the pill since i was 15 i got pregnant at 18 and i was 4 and a half month gone and i had that aborted, i came off the pill 2 yrs ago, we started trying a year and a half ago, still coming on as normal also done a couple of ovulation test but the tests are telling me im not ovlating. now im getting really down and dont no what to think is it my abortion did it go wrong and they havent told me or was it the pill has it messed up my system but then i come on every month for 4 days as normal with heavy and painfull pains, any one got advice or has any one gone though this and what you did.
lids
hi there, im in the same bout as you, wel im 30 and been tryin for almost 2 n half hours, ive had al the test and all come back clear but cnt understand y i cant get preg, i want it so bad and every1 around me is avin babys.. i feel like its easy 4 every1 else but nt me.
racheljane
i am very sorry you are in this position i know exactly how you feel its horrible, i have a 10yr old and an 8yr old but partner and i have been tryin for a baby for a year next month, i fell pregnant last june but lost it in september, since then i have had every test all fine and the next stage is gettin my partners sperm tested he said he would make appointment 2 months ago and still has not, i feel depressed and down every month when i come on its horrible i hate myself.