Myleene Klass: 'I want my children to receive yo-yos, not Kindles. Being happy is not about stuff.'

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Myleene Klass and daughters Hero and Ava
It was war at the school gates for Myleene Klass after she shared private emails about a collection for presents for a birthday party - but despite dividing opinions with her no-nonsense approach, she says she stands by her decision to post the messages online.

In a recent interview with Fabulous magazine, Myleene explained: 'I want my children to receive yo-yos and give yo-yos, not Kindles. Being happy is not about stuff. 'I know it doesn't make me popular but this is what I stand for. I wasn't raised like that.'

'This is why I keep getting myself in trouble. I can't keep my mouth shut. But that's who I am.'

Myleene's outspoken tirade caused quite the scandal when it first emerged, with even the headteacher of the £5,000-a-term private institution in North London getting involved.

In a newsletter issued to parents, the head wrote: 'How I wish I could focus on your daughters' education and not on responding to media trivia. How many times this week have I been asked to comment/act/intervene/reprimand/ … do something! Mutual respect and tolerance. FBV [fundamental British values]. We actively promote them – do you? I needed to get that off my chest. Now, on with the week's round up of news. No more parking on zig zags. No more blocking in the neighbours. No more unicorns. And as my granny would've said, if you can't tweet anything nice, don't tweet anything at all.'

Mum-of-two Myleene, 36, posted the messages from the mums on her Twitter and Instagram accounts, along with her sarcastic response:

The parents involved have since spoken out against her actions, deeming her public posts to be a 'cheap shot' and a publicity stunt, and accusing her of using the emails to get media attention.

One parent said: "She has betrayed our confidences and belittled us so publicly. Lots of people have complained."

Another mother agreed: "It is so out of order. She isn't going to have any friends left."

Reportedly, when one member of the ground spoke to Myleene directly, calling "why did you do it, Myleene?", she simply replied "if you've got a problem with it, talk to me in private."

Outside of the playground, however, Myleene received hundreds of retweets and messages in support of her no-nonsense approach, with one responder saying: 'It's the sad face of society today, pure greed I'm afraid. They should feel ashamed.' Despite the fury of the mothers who were part of the original email chain, Myleene stands by her tongue-in-cheek email. 'At this age, all I wanted was a yo-yo that lit up!' she exclaimed in a further tweet.

Myleene with daughters Ava and Hero


What's your take on the great present debate? Should parents be allowed to dictate what their child is given (and indeed, collect the money for the gift directly!), or should it be, as Myleene says, a case of "you get what you're given?"

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I'm with Myleen. You want expensive gifts for your kids, buy them your bloody self! Cheeky gits. When my kids were young enough to have parties, (if we could afford one) they were grateful for whatever their friends gave them.


Wowzas, so you lot think that the Mums asking for an OPTIONAL donation towards a big gift is the worst thing in the world, but Myleene Klass passive aggressively humiliating these people online rather than just speaking to them directly is just brilliant? Baffling!


Right behind Myleen, let the parents buy the kindle and desk for their daughters


It's called a recession.


Don't know what the world is coming to when parents are now asking for money towards birthday presents or sending a bill if children don't turn up at birthday parties for god sake what happened to inviting children to your childs birthday party because of friendship not because they will receive better presents ,and if they don't turn up at the party get over it and stop making things awkward at school for your children by complaining ,I am with you Myleene most children are happy whatever presents they receive, seems its the parents who are the ones that are disappointed


Since when is it up to Myleene Klass to teach anyone a lesson? And by humiliating them publicly rather than speaking to them privately? *slow clap* well done, you support a bully.


Doubt away. Just because the kids go to a good school first mean they're rolling in it.


So? That doesn't mean they're rolling in it, we have no idea do we? It's also not really the point. It was optional and little miss Klassless decided to use her position to humiliate rather than just opt out.


I can't see any pressure in those emails, it's optional. Myleene using her status and plastering it all over social media is low. if she had such a problem with it she could have just spoken to the parents in question, but no! Humiliate them instead, much better. Bully tactics there.

Zoe Elia

Mylee! You rock! To send an email like that is the epitomy of rudeness and greed. Where are these people's manners? And they are bring up the next generation? Shame on them!

Judy Hall

Well done Myleene, how arrogant of the other parents, what ever happened to a simple party and lots of fun and games. Too lazy to organise it all I expect, we regularly had 20 something round to our, small, house for the childrens birthdays. Mayhem ensued and everyone always said we had great parties. Never went to play-parks, ski slopes, bowling etc etc and we enjoyed it as much as the kids, happy, happy memories xx


well done Myleene., if they want those presents for the child get family to buy them. What a cheek.

gabby evans

sorry coultnafford? i doubt it very much

gabby evans

tell the school? it has nothing to do with them-if they dont like her response they shouldnt be asking for cash in the firs tplace


Bearing in mind that their children go to the same school as Myleene's i.e public school. I doubt very much that they have money issues with regards to buying a present for their children.

Indrani Pudaruth

It is not about wanting to give your child an expensive gift. We all want to give our child the best. But when you throw parties, it is you (parents of the birthday child) who fund everything. If you can't afford it let your child know. I am sure he/she will understand. You just can't go and demand gifts from invitees. Haven't your parents taught you that it is rude to ask? I remember as a child I had attended a marriage. Everybody proudly walked in with gift boxes. One old man came in empty handed. When he approached the bride, he took out a box of sugar from his pocket and fed the bride a spoonful of sugar and blessed her. That was his gift. Some women sitting around in expensive dresses and showing off gold and diamond jewelries smirked and made fun of that man. I was surprised too and looked at my elder sister and mother. My mother told me what the old man did was to symbolically sweeten her mouth and blessed her with a 'sweet' future. She told me the blessing was worth more than any gift that the bride has received till now.


Yes but eviljobob it's the point they were so forthcoming, putting pressure on the ones who usually spend less than £10! I find that really rude! Be grateful for what they receive!!


I have to say that I am totally behind Myleene in this; someone needs to stand up to the mums who cannot refuse their kids anything - what they have done is tantamount to blackmail. I'd like to see children's birthday party presents outlawed and children encouraged to donate the money to a childrens' charity - it might teach them 1. to be grateful for what they get and 2. that there are those who are much worse off than themselves.


if yourchild wants a kindle etc then you buy it not expect there class mate to pay for it , children want fun at there parties specialy when the parents of said child will buy a cheaper gift when it comes to other kids party


So, these parents wanted to buy expensive presents that they couldn't afford for their kids - a kindle and a desk, both useful items - and they ASKED, not demanded or dictated, that people donate towards that rather than spend £10 on some crappy little toy that'd break after 2 minutes. I really don't see the problem. Myleene Klassless should try looking at this from other people's point of view. It's all very easy to mock people who have less than you from a well funded ivory tower.


Do you hope to shout everyone down and answer every comment personally - that's what I meant about protesting too much, so now you know? BTW I was not suggesting you either have, or do not have, children, its not my business and I could not care one way or the other, but you didn't answer my question - would YOU make such a request yourself? Also, would you give in and pay up if you got such a request? I'm just curious to see why you take this stance when it is obvious that almost everyone else sees it as the bare faced cheek that it is. I've raised two children, and now have two grandchildren and four great grand children, all of whom would have been/would be mortified if I or their parents had resorted to this kind of thing.


Excuse me? Protest about what? I'm not sure what you're implying tbh. Oh you're one of those are you... I suppose if I don't have children then I "don't understand". I certainly wouldn't teach my children that it's ok to use status to bully and humiliate people - Maybe that's just me! Don't worry folks, I'm sure Myleene will be best friends with each and every one of you for defending her horrible behaviour. Be sure not to do something she decides is wrong though!


Methinks thou dost protest just a little too much eviljobob. Would YOU do this to your child's classmates (always supposing you have a child at all)? Would you be surprised if the parents all hoisted their middle fingers? The world is mad enough now without all this claptrap going on.


This is rated right up there with the mother who sent a child a voucher for the amount that she figured she spent on his share of the party (which he didn't attend.) If parents want to get their kids expensive gifts that they themselves cannot afford, then they should ask family members if they'd like to contribute (or if CLOSE friends ask what can they give/do) but, by no means should they solicit the childs' classmates.


Personally my view is that by "requesting" donations is Begging, I also thinks it wrong that parents have the nerve to actually expect others to donate to their kids presents at ANY time. What's wrong with cheap, fun gifts - there is too much "owt for nowt" attitude around these days. Hooray for Myleene, I think she has her head on the right way and as far as I can see the email was rather funny and did not appear to be vindictive (Honest but not vindictive)


Bad breeding?! Oh I see! Yes... They're probably terribly common and not as well off as Myleene. Maybe even scholarship students *shudder* can you imagine?!


Sorry, but I think you're projecting.


How dare these mothers ask for a particular amount from people. How have they possibly got the front to show their faces at the school gates clutching their grubby little envelopes. I wonder if their daughters were asked what they really wanted if they'd say a desk, hmm. Sounds more like what mummy wants for them. Good on you Myleene.


Here, here,Myleene. Good for you. i don't know what this world is coming to!


I read this with interest and was amazed at how much controversy this has stirred up. I'm not particularly a Myleene fan but I have to agree with what she wrote. Children should be taught that any present giving/receiving should be because they like the child, not because their parents wish to be part of one upmanship. My children were happy to get almost anything when they were children as it meant their birthday was remembered for the right reasons, how sad that mothers now see their children's parties as getting the bigger present that was once their responsibility to buy.


How can it be said they couldn't afford the present, they send there child to private school. I would never bluntly ask for money for my child but when my children were growing up, if they wanted certain things, we encouraged them to save up & if someone asked, is there anything they would like for a present, we would explain they were saving up, so if they didn't mind, money would help them along the way, but it was there choice & present was always welcomed, put like that is politer than directly asking parents to give money.

Debbie Campbell

I absolutely agree with Myleene and have nothing but praise for her response.You should be grateful for any gift that someone has bought your child instead of puting an order in for what YOU would like for your child.Some folks expect too much.When we were kids,we only got a card,not like some of the spoilt i want i want brats of today.


Sorry, but i think you are the one supporting the bullies taking money from the kids at the school gate! Reminds me of those collecting my dinner money :((


Myleene is the most sensible mother among that lot. What cheek they have. No wonder todays children are so greedy .. good on you Myleene

Claire Bradley

I agree with her speaking out, I think it's appauling to make it public fodder.


I think it is time to stop the presents altogether and the party bags full of stuff that is not needed. Let's face if, a gift will cost at lease £5, a party bag costs about the same. We all struggle to find anything at that price anyway and the party bags are usually full of more sweet stuff we don't want them to eat. Let's go back to the joy of having "a Birthday Party" just for fun. Simple food is what most children like followed by Cake and anything sweet. They do not need more sweet stuff or cheap toys to take home, they already have enough. Party games or disco is suitable most ages. The birthday child has all her friends to play with and If it was agreed to start at the begining of a school year it would be the same for all. Do we not all complain about the toys in their bedrooms, why add to it.


I agree whole heartedly with Myleene. The idea of asking for money is both rude and embarrassing. Some parents are unable to afford that amount of money for their own childs present let alone someone elses child. Glad Myleene had the guts to speak out. Well done girl!.


This mumsy disagreement is hilairious. However, I do think the request for money was in very bad taste, it's fine to ask your nearest and dearest for a cash present , but not virtual strangers. When my kids were little, part of the party fun was choosing a present, wrapping it up and presenting it. Anyway, what sort of child asks for a DESK ???

Melanie H-Vallance

What I want to know now is: "Is her daughter going to show up at the party?"... Whilst I agree with Mylene's point of view, I do not think the original email was that rude. Although it is something I would suggest our close family did (get together to buy a bigger present) rather than strangers. She could have replied to the emails in the same way without going to Twitter. I hope all the children involved won't be too tough with each other.


Yes, because I am using my celebrity status to belittle her. I have thousands of followers and media outlets publishing my insult, so that people can all jump on the bandwagon and help me call her a name. Oh, no, wait that's not true is it? *rolls eyes*


I think the point is that it's a child's school friends birthday, not a family member or a family friend... a class member... Shows bad breeding to ask... or is she begging?????? Not nice... maybe it is in bad taste for Myleene to have done this in this way, but on the other hand maybe it will stop other mothers from begging from people they barely Know for things that they should really be buying their child themselves. It's not about the money, it's about the cheek of it.

chic 2006

Go girl, i think it's damn right cheeky of the mothers. Good on Mylene for speaking up.


And you calling her a Miss Klassless is not bullying, no? I'm not particularly a fan of hers, but what you are doing is exactly what you are accusing her of doing.


Well done, Myleene, for standing up to the school-mum gang. Whilst it's nice of them to want to contribute to the children's presents I think children need to be brought down to earth with their wish lists. These parents need to start behaving like adults - how do they teach their children moral values when they ostracise someone for being different. I've seen these sorts around - they cluster together and kill with their gossip. When one of their members is shown up to be utterly silly, they descend on the detractor with their claws unsheathed.


Yes, actually.

Mummy N

I have heard of joint gifts being done before, but not at the parents bequest, sometimes a few parents decide to get together and buy a bigger gift. I do think, (personal opinion...which I am entitled to, as not name calling!) that it is an awfully crass thing to not only ASK for money, but also suggest an amount; and I DO agree with Myleene, although I would not have commented publically or "outed" the private messages. I would have just ignored them. I well remember my children struggling manfully to look thrilled as they opened their 6th pack of felt pens and colouring book, saying with a smile, "look, Mummy, MORE pens, aren't I lucky, I won't run out for ages!" and I also remember my son asking on his Santa list for his own roll of selotape so Mummy wouldn't run out because he had been borrowing it! Trouble is, many children are becoming more selfish, and because parents over indulge them, they learn to EXPECT bigger and better each year. My daughter (now aged 25) uses her birthday/christmas money to put into an account she has for sponsoring children in difficult situations....


So by that logic it is perfectly acceptable to bully someone in private but not when there are others around to witness it? Glad we've found your level...


You can tell I didnt go to private school.


I feel this has got blown way out there, everyone is entitled to there opinion, but asking, begging, its wrong, there are ways of saying things but sending emails to parents NO, ask your close friends & family but stop there, let then learn the value of money & save up, my children had to & now they thank us for making them realise you dont always get what you want in life, you save if you really want it


Just so you know, eviljobob, I agree with you.


Eviljobob I've read the comments and you have basically said that Myleene is a 'bully' because she 'humiliated' the mums that asked for her to contribute to their own children's presents. If they have done nothing wrong which you clearly believe judging by your comments, (please note that comments is plural) then why would they feel humiliated by it and feel its wrong and embarrassing?? Perhaps they realize how (in my opinion of course) stupid their requests are and are now embarrassed? If they truly believed that what they did was right they wouldn't mind about all of Myleenes followers and fans knowing. I believe in LGBT rights, if Myleene posted that to all her followers and fans I wouldn't mind at all, in fact I would be grateful that she got the message out and helped spread my views. If these mothers truly believe what they did is fair and useful surely wouldn't they want other women or men in their position to know?? if you agree with them eviljobob why aren't you applauding Myleene for telling so many people about this 'greatness'? oh is it because she said that she didn't agree with it?? WELL THATS HER OPINION and YOU HAVE YOURS and don't say she was rude because you have been very patronising and rude towards many people on here whilst stating your opinion which you would call 'passionate' well Myleene should be able to be 'passionate' too. You probably just hate Myleene and are using this as an excuse to hate on her. That's what a bully would do.

Grandma to 3

Myleene I give you 10 out of 10 for responding to these Mums and their OPTIONAL donation, I wonder how many other parents wanted to do the same but didn't feel they could. Your response to the ladies in question was spot on. These Mums were completely out of order. If other mothers ask what the child would like then yes put your question to the individual but to do it in writing was appalling. To dictate or even imply what someone should give is unacceptable. It is a learning curve for the children for the delight of giving and receiving not how much someone can afford. My grandchildren love to choose what they will get their friends and enjoy helping to wrap the present and then enjoy taking it along to the party, all that is being stripped away. Very sad, very, very sad! It is good to know there are still some values out there.


You are quite clearly one of these embarrassing mums begging for money off other parents too. Why else would you feel the need to comment on literally everyone elses posts?

Steve Harris

So Jo (give me money) dictates what you give eh? She should be lucky any kids would want to go to such a party. Stop with the status crap get off your high horse and give out friendship and party games instead. Personally girl, if you stood there at the gate and demanded £10 off me for your brat I'd knock your teeth out for the sheer damned cheek of yourself. Get your head out your butt and respect other people


I'm not behind Myleene. She went public to slate a fellow mum and then told them to See her in private if they wanted to discuss it. Double standards.


It's 'their children' not 'there children'


and calling her Myleen KLASSLESS isn't pathetic name calling is it EJB,? No, of course notit isn't! Greenhouses and stones here I think.


They do have money, otherwise they wouldnt be sending there children to private school, them schools dont come cheap, if they cannot afford the present brand new, do what other less fortunate people do, buy second hand.............personally I wouldnt have done what them parents did but each to there own, obviously there children expect expensive presents, my children were always grateful for what they got, even if it was just a colouring book & crayons.


You obviously remember what it's like to be a child with your pathetic name calling. I hope you don't teach your children that behaviour. I DISAGREE. Obviously that's not allowed on this website though.


Evil Jo Bob you're a complete evil idiot. If your children are invited to a party at their ages the parents shouldn't state what to get them and that they will hang around the school gates hoping to personally shame you into giving money (more than you'd want to give). Think of the kids for a second, I'm sure they'd rather open lots of presents, no matter what they are, than just one that has come from everyone. You explain why there are, say, 20 children and just one parcel. Try and remember your own child hood, did you open loads of prezzies and think, "that wont last" or were you excited at loads rather than one.


Ooh, now now dear. Best calm yourself! You're the one ranting at me and spitting your dummy out... If you think I'm bullying anyone, rather than trying to reason with a brick wall, you need to look up the meaning of the word, maybe that's what the problem is... Also look up hypocrisy while you're at it.


I agree with her you don't ask people to donate money to get there chrildren a kindle and desk ask family they should be happy with what they buy even if it's a card not everyone is rolling in money


But the thing is, you're not letting anyone have their own opinion. You're doing a damn good job at bullying everyone on here for thinking the article is remotely funny! They are utterly bewildering to you, because maybe you don't have a funny side to your personality? And you think that some Z list celebrity is a bully because she made a pretty fair comment back to a stupid email that was sent round (again MY opinion...) But I'm sure you're going to give it all day long on here and I haven't got the time... I only commented on this because if your hypocritical comments... I'm done talking to you now. I don't waste my time with arrogant, pathetic bullies.


Yes, because that's the only reason why someone would have a different opinion to you. I'm commenting because I keep getting email notifications with utterly bewildering responses from various people. Saying I'm not in my right mind just because you think bullying and humiliating people is good, isn't a very nice thing to do, but then I guess I shouldn't expect anything different based on that fact.


I actually believe you are one of the Mums involved in this as no-body in their right mind would be this passionate and comment on a load of posts about a fantastic response to an e-mail that quite frankly is terrible! Yes it is optional. But still has a damn right nerve to ask for donations for a childs birthday present which should be about picking something crappy out of a shop.... I think that is what made it so exiting when I was younger...!


I actually believe you are one of the Mums involved in this as no-body in their right mind would be this passionate and comment on a load of posts about a fantastic response to an e-mail that quite frankly is terrible! Yes it is optional. But still has a damn right nerve to ask for donations for a childs birthday present which should be about picking something crappy out of a shop.... I think that is what made it so exiting when I was younger...!!


Take what you get with regards to presents like we used to when we were younger. Anyway it teaches the kids that they just can't get everything they want, a little disappointment never hurt anyone.


I'm behind Mylene here. Think it is totally wrong to dictate things like this, to practically demand money for expensive presents. My only concern is whether the daughters of these women might turn on Ava at school.

Susan Collins

I really think at the end of the day that Myleene was right to bring this out into the open, When my kids were young I used to limit presents to a cost no more than a fiver, by the time you added a card on top it was obviously more. Not everyone can afford a tenner even in these times but to be asked up front for the money is pure greed. People want to out do others re-parties but to be fair what ever happened to jelly and ice-cream and balloons with pass the parcel as a game?? How many parents would struggle to spare that kind of money??? But moreover, how many kids would be penalised and indeed not invited if their parents couldn't afford it?It is supposed to be a celebration of their new year not an auction for getting the kids big presents. That is for the parents to do not their school chums! What is this world coming to when you get presented with a request for money to buy what is essentially a 'Mum and Dad' present????? Get a grip ladies and treat your kids and their friends as just! Don't teach them such greedy values ...........allow them to be kids they grow up soon enough............let them enjoy the simple things life has to offer,kindles/androids/phones etc can come later!!!!!


Oh, well... If everyone else thinks that then it must be true. How foolish of me to have differing opinion! I'm shouting at no-one, I'm replying to responses. I'm not the one demanding answers now am I? As it goes, if I had that letter I'd contribute. It makes things easier all round frankly. There are few decent presents you can buy for £10, and this is going towards useful things - Kindle for reading and a desk. It's not like the money is going towards something frivolous like a pony! Would I send that letter? Now? Probably not after the general overreaction given in response. But if I was low on money and wanted to get my child something that they really wanted/needed? (Want: Kindle/Need: Desk) I don't see why not. If the other option is 20-30 £10 gifts that break, get lost or cast aside after a few weeks? I genuinely do not see the problem, the mother isn't demanding money, it's merely an option. Clearly I'm in the minority in thinking that MK is a rude, attention seeking bully. Do I care? Only that the majority (of posters here at least) seem blind to the nastiness behind her actions. I find that quite sad.

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