'She's 6 months old - BIG DEAL' Cruel letter to new mum sharing her daughter's milestones on Facebook goes viral

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Jade Ruthven Facebook letter
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For most mums, sharing pictures of kids' cute or funny milestones is a daily occurence. In the GoodtoKnow offices, we document everything from first smiles to funny reactions, and love seeing similar updates from other parents too - but it seems not every group of friends likes seeing these kinds of posts in their newsfeed.

A scathing letter written to a mum-of-one has gone viral after it was sent to comedienne Em Rusciano, who wrote an article about it which she then shared on her Facebook page.

The cruel rant mocked the mum's frequent posts about her young daughter, claiming that she was 'ramming it down everyone else's neck', and saying:

'She crawls off the mat - we DON''T CARE!!!!! She's 6 months old - BIG DEAL!!!! Stop and think - if every mother posted all of that crap about their kid - I'm sure you'd get over it pretty quickly'.

Em defended the mum in her article, writing:

'It's not like she busted into their houses armed with life-size portraits of her child dressed as a tiny adorable pumpkin and demand that they be hung on every wall. Obviously in some people's opinion she's been overdoing it on the proud mother moments. Annoying, yes. Worthy of an anonymous poison pen situation, no.'

The letter, in full below, also included a jibe about the mother's maternity leave:

'We can't wait for you to get back to work - maybe you won't have time to be on Facebook quite so much.'

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Since Em shared the letter, which was sent anonymously, she's had hundreds of comments supporting the mum in question, with one exclaiming:

'I would rather be baby spammed on Facebook 100 times over and know that there is another really proud and loving parent in the world than see all the posts about child abuse and cruelty. Show me a happy baby in fluffy pink anytime.'

However, the group of 'friends' end their letter by maintaining that 'we are doing this to let you know what people really think' - and so, we want to know, is this what YOU think too?

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Is there such a thing as 'baby-spamming'? Or do you love seeing pictures of your friends' kids just as much as we do? Let us know your thoughts in the comment section below!

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Jan Creighton

I think her so called friends are a shower. Why did one have to speak for them all? I doubt they all had the same thoughts on her posts. I would carry on the good work and post more. The people who don't want to see them can either not read them or delete her from their page. If I were her I would delete the "friend" who wrote the nasty letter. .


MOST mothers, talk non-stop about their first baby. It's exciting & you can't help talking about it. Yes, it can be a little bit annoying at times but I think most of us have done it if we're honest with ourselves. I'm pretty sure I was probably like it when I had my first baby, but for her 'friends' to send an anonymous letter basically ripping into her is pretty spiteful, especially since it was 'anonymous'. I get it, you're cheesed off with her going on about it, but at least have the guts to tell her to her face, in a nicer manner than that.

Caroline Higson

I think its time that Jade got some really good 'True' friends, the ones that posted this can't be. I ope she doesn't take these comments of the letter too seriously; because they are just nasty people who need to get over themselves.


Yes it is bloody tedious to have to hear how someone's child has done something unremarkable. That's one of the reasons I can't be arsed with social media - I don't give a crap. But it is not necessary to be rude.

Charlotte @ Educating Elsa

This is completely out of order really. If you don't like something you see in your Facebook feed then delete the person or block the content, don't send a nasty letter to the person! You're allowed to be proud of your kids and you have the right to post it on your own social media as much as you want.

M Donovan

Our family could beat this were not even allowed to see or hear from ours its sickening we dont even have an address cos they moved and didn't tell us where to our grandchildren don't know us and we dont know why we now have another grandchild and its going the same way do we have any rights ? Please let us know

Tamalyn Roberts

someone sounds a little jealous!! how awful who would want a friend like that, shame facebook wasnt around when my kids were small, i would have been posting stuff every 5 mins ha ha i love seeing my friends babies and children its a way of keeping in touch when they live so far away.


Facebook is free speech and everyone is entitled to post whatever they wish to share with friends. However, I also have a right to what I don't want to see on my newsfeed. I would NEVER write something so horrible or even mention it, instead I go to MY newsfeed settings and hide the posts I don't want to see - it doesn't offend anyone and I don't have to see all the baby spam.

Kathleen brown

Obviously, not a great friend....and pretending to be a SPOKESPERSON for a group is ridiculous. I post whatever I want on Facebook. Read it or don't, your choice. Censorship from a supposed friend is just petty. I am genuinely interested in my friends children, as I hope they are in mine. Time to get some new friends, dear!

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