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Mum donates 100 pints of breast milk to help other mothers after son was stillborn

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A mum whose son was stillborn has used her breast milk to help others by continuing to lactate and donate it to families in need.

At 19 weeks Wendy Cruz-Chan tragically gave birth to her stillborn son Killian, due to Chorioamnionitis - an intra-amniotic infection which causes an inflammation of the fetal membranes due to a bacterial infection.

Wendy somehow managed to turn her devastating experience into something positive, and set out to begin donating her own breast milk to those in need. She describes her decision in one of her Instagram posts, 'Sometimes when life gives you sour lemons, you have to try your best to make lemonade out of it.'

3 months ago today, I embarked on a lactation journey 3 days after my stillbirth of my son Killian. I had pumped and donated 2,038 ounces of my breastmilk to 6 babies. I had finally reached my personal goal at over 2,000 oz in 3 months. Now it's time to end my lactation journey and concentrate on myself as I get my body ready for the next pregnancy. I have to be on a month long of penicillin therapy. I am so grateful for helping out all those babies with my milk and meeting their families. Pumping every 3-4 hours a day including nights was very tiring. But it was so worth it. Seeing those babies thriving from my milk, really helped me through my healing process. I know I'm going to miss lactating. I wanted to show that even after a tragic stillbirth, you can turn that into something positive and inspire those around you. Through my grief I evolved and learned to pull myself out of the darkness. I'm so blessed to have so many people, friends, family and most importantly my wonderful husband John and my daughter Ariya supporting me and able to share my journey. Now my next journey is to get a CuddleCot in NY Methodist Hospital and hopefully other hospitals in NYC in Killian's memory. All this for the unconditional love for my Killian in heaven. All this to break the silence of stillbirths. #RIPKillianChan #stillbirth #stillborn #bereavement #infantlost #grievingmother #donatedbreastmilk #sharingiscaring #pumping #liquidgold #breastpump #breastmilk #breastfeeding #pregnancyloss #pregnancylossawareness #pail #CuddleCot #giftoftime #mothersofstillbirths #medela #electricbreastpump #humanmilk #lactation #makingadifference #angelbaby #19weeksgestation #bornsleeping #amotherslove #humanbreastmilk

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Just three days after her son's birth, Wendy started lactating and instead of phasing out her breast milk she decided to encourage it so that she could donate her milk and help other mums.

Throughout her time donating her breast milk she has helped six mothers and pumped 100 pints of breast milk. Wendy has documented her experience on Instagram, explaining, 'I was 19 weeks gestation when I birth him sleeping due to Chorioamnionitis. I decided the best way to honor him is to help as many babies I can with his milk.'

This beautiful strong little girl right here is Makenzie. She's battling a rare skin condition called EB "Epidermolysis Bullosa." It causes her skin to break out random painful blisters in different parts of her body, since she can't produce collagen. She wears bandages to protect her fragile skin from too much friction. Her family are trying to find cure for her EB. Makenzie wears socks over her hands and feet to keep her bandages in place. Which is why her family created the "Rock Your Socks" fundraiser to find a cure for EB and raise awareness. In the past 3 months, she's been receiving my breastmilk after my stillbirth of my son Killian. I was 19 weeks gestation when I birth him sleeping due to Chorioamnionitis. I decided the best way to honor him is to help as many babies I can with his milk. And Makenzie are one of the few I got the pleasure and honor to donate too and help. Sometimes when life gives you sour lemons, you have to try your best to make lemonade out of it. #RIPKillianChan #stillbirth #stillborn #bereavement #epidermolysisbullosa #rockthesocks #rockyoursocks #lactation #Killiansmilk #sharingiscaring #liquidgold #donatedbreastmilk

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Pumping so much milk was gruelling for Wendy but worth it in the end to help other children grow healthily, 'pumping every 3-4 hours a day including nights was very tiring. But it was so worth it. Seeing those babies thriving from my milk, really helped me through my healing process. I know I'm going to miss lactating.'

After three months Wendy has decided to finish her journey and has shared her achievements on her Instagram page explaining, '3 months ago today, I embarked on a lactation journey 3 days after my stillbirth of my son Killian.
I had pumped and donated 2,038 ounces of my breastmilk to 6 babies.
I had finally reached my personal goal at over 2,000 oz in 3 months.'

The mother of two is now looking forward to becoming pregnant again, 'Now it's time to end my lactation journey and concentrate on myself as I get my body ready for the next pregnancy.

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'I have to be on a month long of penicillin therapy. I am so grateful for helping out all those babies with my milk and meeting their families.'

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