Bride slammed for telling mums to breastfeed in the toilets at her wedding

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A bride is facing backlash after she sent a note with her wedding invitations requesting that all breastfeeding mums feed their baby in the toilets.

We can understand that brides may not want kids at their wedding and requesting an adults only affair is widely accepted nowadays, but asking your guests who are nursing mothers to feed their babies outside toiled stalls is not.

A snap of the invite and the request was posted on the Breastfeeding Mama Talk Facebook page and has not only caused outrage but has also gone viral.

'To all our mommies who are breastfeeding,' the note reads. 'We are sensitive to the fact that you may have to breastfeed during our event, therefore we have designated an appropriate place for you to feed your baby so you do not have to so in public in front of our family and friends.'

The bride goes on to write: 'For your convenience we are accommodating you with a comfortable and private area with chairs and baby blankets in the ladies room. We request that you use this area when you are breastfeeding. Thank you.'

The anonymous poster of the request - who herself is a mum of a two-year-old and a three-month-old - was asking for advice from fellow mums on how to approach the situation before she attended the big day.

She explained that she is the wife of the best man but how this isn't the first time the family has had a difference of opinion over her feeding her baby.

'We have had several arguments over "my" breastfeeding ways and they have multiple times voiced that I need to go elsewhere to do that in "private!"'

She goes on to say that her and her husband were going to leave the two children with a friend and treat the whole thing as a 'date night'.

But apparently that wasn't okay either, the mum continued: 'So, I said would just bring my littlest baby to the wedding then, but no way in hell I will leave and nurse her in the bathroom (no matter how "nice" they make it!).'

'I don't eat in the bathroom I'm not feeding my child in there!... I want to be "nice" as possible but what should I do!?'

The post had over 500 comments with some supportive suggestions. 'I don't understand who could be THAT uncomfortable with breastfeeding to actually send this out with wedding invites. I would bring my baby and nurse during the ceremony just to spite them. 🤷🏼♀️' said one Facebook follower.

Another made a very valid observation: 'I would never nurse in those chairs! Not even arm rests... obviously these people don't know what comfort is...' whilst a third commented: 'I would just stay home. If they can't respect your choice as a parent (and your right) then they don't deserve to be graced by your presence.'

'This is so sad. They try and make themselves feel like the good guys by making an "accommodation" but it's still forcing someone to eat while others are relieving themselves only feet away,' another agreed.

One mother following the thread admitted that while she doesn't nurse in public through 'personal choice' she would this time just to make a point: 'I usually don't nurse In public by personal choice but if I received this I would just for principle. This made me mad just reading it. No one should tell you what to do with YOUR child. If it was me I would probably go just to make a point. Lol'

According to updates in the comments section, the woman ended up leaving her kids with a friend and a grandparent to attend the wedding.

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That is totally and utterly shocking. If this had been me my husband and I would not be attending and they would have to have found a new best man. To be honest, to stick you in a toilet area with what looks like totally useless chairs for breastfeeding shows to be honest that they really don't want you there. Had they even had an ounce of empathy for breast feeding mothers they would have worked with the hotel to make sure you had a warm comfortable place to breastfeed your babies in private and comfort with as many facilities as the hotel could offer. Two crappy fold up chairs and a half table in the middle of a toilet queue in the ladies comes nowhere near that.


If this was me i would have not gone to the wedding and left them without a best man. These people are supposed to be your friends and they want to stick you in a toilet to feed your baby. Its bad enough they want to hide you away, they could at least have a proper room thats comfortable and not having people walk all over you to have a pee. Disgusting. All this has done is make you feel awkward about the situation and not know whether to go and leave your children at home or comply with what she wants. Why not just ban kids all together and stop making people feel uncomfortable.

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