9 beautiful ways to remember your baby

Whether it’s through miscarriage, stillbirth, or a death in early infancy, the loss of a baby is an incredibly traumatic experience.

You can seek guidance and solace in friends and family, or professional support such as counselling, but there are also some steps you can take personally to help yourself process your grief and honour their memory.

Plant a tree or flowers


Watching a plant grow can be a beautiful reminder of the life you treasured, particularly if they have a sense of symbolism – many parents choose forget-me-nots, for instance. You could also press any flowers you received at the time.

Wear a locket

Whether you tuck in a lock of hair, small photograph or scan or any other keepsake, a locket is a lovely way to keep your baby with you as you go about your day-to-day life.

Create a keepsake box

Some NHS hospitals provide this service after a miscarriage, but it depends on your area. If you don’t get offered one, you can make your own; from a first outfit to a pregnancy test, what you include is up to you.

Name a star

Naming a star is a sweet way to remember anyone special who is no longer with you – and will bring their memory to mind any time you look at the night sky.

Light a candle


Every October, neonatal charity Sands holds the Wave of Light event, where participants light candles to mark Baby Loss Awareness Week. However, lighting a candle outside of this can still be a personal ceremony to help you through a difficult time.

Get a tattoo

Miscarriage tattoos are growing in popularity, and mums (and dads) find comfort in knowing that the artwork is on them permanently. Even if it wasn’t a miscarriage you suffered, similar designs and tributes could be used in other circumstances.

Write about (or to) them

For some, it’s a diary that they find soothing, others prefer to write a letter directly to their child. Either way, getting your thoughts out on paper can be very therapeutic.

Ask for a certificate

If you lost your baby before 24 weeks gestation, you may not automatically be offered a certificate, but there are campaigns encouraging hospitals to issue some kind of certification for loss at any stage. NHS trusts are advised to develop their own systems, so if you would like some kind of documentation, ask them what is available in your region.

Fundraise or donate


What better why to honour your baby that to raise money for an amazing cause in their name? There are loads of ways to drum up support for a charity you feel connected to. Not sure who you want to help? Sands, The Miscarriage Association, and Tommy’s are all organisations that provide support for people in the same situation, so could be the perfect place to start.

Everyone processes their experience differently, and you may not want to do some or any of these things. If you’ve lost a baby and feel you need additional support with your mental or physical health, seek advice from your healthcare professional.