Miscarriage

jaycee, 4 months

I would just like to say, that to have a D & C, can be a life saving procedure, many think it is such a bad thing, but the further along you are and if you have a missed miscarriage, you can hemorrhage. This is what happened to me, and if wasnt for a D & C I would be dead today.'I know its hard to go through a miscarriage, just remember that if you need one, there is a reason for it, whether it be the chance of hemorrhage or the fact that tissue remaining can cause infection also. It is a fairly quick procedure, and to be honest I came out of it feeling they had cleaned me out well. Also of course, the fact that it saved my life.

Lisa, 4 months

Hi, I suffered a missed miscarriage about 3 weeks ago. This was our 1st pregnancy and I am 38. Went for our 1st scan and should have been 11 weeks + 5 days but baby only measured 8 weeks + 5 days. Apparently our baby had died 3 weeks prior to the scan and I had no symptoms that anything was wrong...i still felt pregnant!! Decided to let nature take it's course, bad decision!! 3 days later massive blood loss, clots the size of my fists, emergency ambulance to hospital, no d&c as they could not give general anaesthetic due to blood loss, however got bleeding stopped by removing clots (painful). Blood transfusion followed. Terrifying experience for us both, no idea if we have the strength to attempt this again. Has this happened to anyone else here and how did you get through it? Thanks, Lisa x

julie, 8 months

my daughter miscarried her 2nd baby the other day.im wondering if because im rhesus neg that she could have same blood group as me and thats why its happening.we need to find out her blood group and her b/f as well can anyone give me any advce

Lesley, 11 months

On 10th March 2009 I found out that my 6th attempt at IVF had worked and my three year old daughter (from our 5th IVF attempt) would be getting a little brother or sister that she so dearly would love. For just 10 days life was perfect. On 20th March at just five and a half weeks pregnant I began to bleed, by next morning I was losing lots of clots. A scan the following Tuesday confirmed it was a miscarriage. The tears lasted 5 days and I know the pain will ease as it already has a little. Of course we will try again, but we cannot fund IVF for ever and just wish our last cycle had not worked if it was not meant to be, being so close to completing our family and having it taken away again seems so cruel. I feel for every mother who has lost her baby at any stage of pregnancy, they are all so precious. Good luck to all in achieveing the dream x

KATY, about 1 year

HI During 2005/06 I suffered 3 miscarriages and to my joy in Oct 2007 at the age of 41 I had a very big healthy 9lb boy! Have discovered to my suprise I am pregant again had a scan at 7 weeks next day started to bleed at 7 weeks 5 days had another scan all looking good strong heartbeat and good thickness of the sac. Doc told me that EVEN with my history of miscarriage and my age my chances of miscarrying are 2-3% then today Im 8 weeks+1 have had a brownish discharge, so finding it hard to relax with the whole thing! has anyone had a similar experience?

susan, about 1 year

I have a daughter that is 11 and at 42 I want another one. I was trying to get pregnant first try i was, and then 3 weeks into it I had a miscarrige. It's been 2 months and I'm ready to try again. Women the most important thing is for you to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. All i can say is at first it doesn't succeed try again. My mother had 3 miscarriage and had 5 kids so you never know. My doctor told me to wait 3 months but, i decided at 2 months with 2 periods I'm ready to go again. I would like to hear from women over 40 that experienced a miscarrige and then had a child. I would also like to know how long it took you to get pregnant again.

Aine, about 1 year

im sorry to hear about everyones lose but it helps knowing other people are going throw this to and that it wasnt my fault, i was 12 weeks and started to bleed and i paniced straight away as i miscarried just a year before i currently have no children but so want to but im so afraid it will happen again i was gald to see the lady that said she was so jealous of her sister in law and she cant help it i know how she feels my brothers girlfriend was due around the same date as me.when the doctors told me that they couldnt find the baby that was it.. my heart stopped she said the baby had stopped growing very early and the baby sac grow too large it was my world came crashing down again as it took us year to get pregnant in the first place.. This has been two miscarriages in 3 years and im only 19. why is this is it me i know i can get pregnant but can i carry. how can i find this out

mandy haynes, about 1 year

hi every1 sorrya bout ur losses i lost my little on on the 14.03.08 my heart is breaking in2 i hurt like hell i bled so much i just knew thats what it was but it dont get any easier i have 4 lovely kiddies but i cant help feeling i have missed out on 5 its so hard and i feel that i have changed as a person i cant trust any1 and i dont let any1 in i feel so selfish cause all i want 2 do is curl up in a ball but with my 4 kiddies i cant im hoping it will get easier in time it just hurts like hell at the minute id like 2 talk 2 some1 about these feelings 2 see if they are ok many thanks mandy x

emma, about 1 year

hi ive just miscarried with my third child ive already got 4 children the first one i lost i was four months the second i was only a week or to now this one im in the middle of losin im about 9 weeks they carnt do out just got to let it take its coures but the first miscarry i did have i had to have a d&c i was scared at first but i had no choice but everyone is bound to be scared goin down the first time all together ive had four d&c once you have one you kno what to expect if it happens again witch hopefully it doesnt its not nice havin it done but its the best thing just to make sure they get everything out or it could cause some problems when i went for a d&c they told me i wouldnt be able to have more till i had some of my overy out cause they said it was to big so they made me an appointment but i couldnt attend cause i found out i was pregnant so after that i had to more children and they are well so if u do need a d&c try not to be scared its not as bad as u might think u will be fine thanks emma

leeann, about 1 year

hi i had a misscarrage on 7th march and was so scared im still taking 1 day at a time but its really hard i hate seeing woman with bumps i get so angry and think to my self whats wrong with me im finding it really hard to deal with and want to have another 1 as so as but scared it happens again

karla, about 1 year

hiya I had a misscariage 24th feb 08 was 8 weeks pregnant, i started bleeding had an internal scan and was told baby stoped growing at 5 weeks, i was devestated as i had a misscariage april 07. Ive now gone back on the pill for a little while because im scared to go through this again, i so want another child, i have 2 daughters, and when ive had a bit of time to accept this then im sure we will try again. karla x

hellen, over 2 years

Hiya Ladies, I posted 21 days ago about my miscarriage, ive read the replies since & I just thought I would offer up the advice that all of us ladies are scared of the D&C operation & we are well within our rights to refuse the op until weve tried to clear our uterus out using a tablet form (much more bearable) THIS IS NOT GUARENTEED to work but it is worth a go if it means we can avoid the D&C dont you think? Obviously if it isnt sucessful I would recommend having the operation because there is more chance of a infection coming from a left sac than a dirty hospital passing the infection to us. I just thought it would be reassuring to know there is an alternative worth trying before doing for the D&C hospitals prefer to go straight to a D&C tho for whatever reason! When I called my EPU they advised i do preg test @ home, if postive after 14 days go 4 a scan, they came back negative & ive never been scanned, I was going to DEMAND a scan to be sure my m/c was complete but my periods have returned as normal up to yet. Im so sorry to have heard about your loses, I still cant see light @ the end of the tunnel over my lose but its been worsen by my sister in law finding out she was pregnant too, i felt so guilty for being jealous :( If you are trying to concieve again Good Luck, heres some baby dust ~*~*~*~*~ All the best Hellen

nat, over 2 years

advice for carmen...you never get over the hurt you just learn to live with it..i went through the same thing 3 months ago...i havent got over the first one and that was 5 years ago..i havent got any children and find it hard every day convinced its something iv done wrong..i dont talk to my friends about it because its easier to keep it to myself..just be patient

kerry, over 2 years

hiya,,i went for my 12week scan yesterday jan 14th 08 i was told my baby had died at 8weeks 5days iv had no bleeding but a feeling in my belly like a period n have had that feeling for bout 4weeks it has felt a lot stronger today,,i didnt want a d & c,,im so scared to have that done,,i have a scan on 28th jan to see what is happening,,is it normal to have lost the baby so many weeks ago n to still not have misscarried or bled,,im so scared and worried,,thinking that im not going to miscarry and that i will have 2 have a d & c,,if you have any answers for me please comment back

Alicia001, over 2 years

on the 25th oct 07, at 19 weeks my waters broke and i had to deliver my baby boy, who died, i also had to have my placenta surgicially removed bcoz it would not come nautarelly, i also lost so much blood that i had two blood tranfusion, i had normal bleeding after the birth and have two normal periods afterwards, i really want to try again, but m very scared to do so, i have had one misscarriage 7 years ago which was very early 4-5 weeks, can you please please help me , as the lost of my preious little angel LEVELLE MASON could never replaced by anyone or thing, i do belive me having a new baby will help me move on, i have a 12 year old daughter and a 11 year old son alredy. is there any thing i could do or take to better my chances of a full term pregnacy, please help im deserpete.

carmen, over 2 years

i found out i had a misscarrage on monday 7 jamuary and i was really happy to be pregnant to some one i really loved and i new something was goin on so i took myself to the doctors and they checked me out and had told me that i have had a misscaraage i was devastated and i keep thinking that i am goin to loose evry baby. if anyone has been through this please could you gib=ve me some advise on how to cope thankyou.

stacetann, over 2 years

hi i had micarrige on friday 4th january i was 17 weeks pregnant and over the moon but because i move in with my boyfriend i had i lot of stress then we had a scan and they turn around and said the baby was only 8 weeks showing on the scan and had no heartbeat but we got 3 boys already i hope i can cope it hurts me wen i go out see the babys and my boyfriend blames himself for puting the baby there what shall i do

tanya, over 2 years

hi I have a miscarriage I was 8 weeks pregnant and started spotting, felt a weird feeling in my tummy the night before, went for an internal scan they told me the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks, I did not want to believe them as someone I knew went to get a d and c the week before and couldn't get it because she was so distrat got scanned a week later and there was nothing wrong with her baby, so I was very confused, but I was getting more pains and clots, I had 4 scans to reassure me, but unforutity it did not work out so they wanted me to get d & c but I refused and let it happen naturally, they baby came out on 23rd dec, I went and had to get pregnancy test done to make sure I was cleared out no placenta left, and the test was positive so I don't know what is going to happen next and am so afraid I will get an infection which will stop me from ever having babies again has any one else had this experience thanks for reading and can anyone help I want to name my baby with a name meaning guardian angel unisex and can't find on 1

Carolann, over 2 years

Hi. I found out I was pregnant Nov 16th and was over the moon. I didn't experience any nausea but was told this was perfectly normal. Myself and my partner went for the 12 week scan only to be told that the sack which they could see on the ultrasound was only the size it should be at 6-7 weeks. I asked the midwife if I had miscarried but she wouldn't confirm this, said I should give it another 10 days to see whether it grows as it is possible my dates could be out. Surely my dates couldn't be 6 weeks out?!? Has anyone else had this? I don't understand why the midwife is having me hold out false hope. Please help. Many thanks.

Emma, over 2 years

Hi Leanne, I had a miscarriage in August 2004 and waited a while before trying to conceive again. I found I was pregnant in March 2005 and in December 2005 gave birth to a perfectly healthy little girl. The pregnancy went by without a hitch, however I was worried for the whole 40 weeks. All was fine though, I understand your worries totally, but try to enjoy the pregnancy.

catherine, over 2 years

1 minute catherineHi i miscarried a few week ago. I went for routine 12 week scan and had slight spotting no pain. The feotus had died 6 week before and i had not shown any signs of miscarriage. I tried to miscarry naturally and had two days of intense bleeding, pain, clots which i didnt prepare myself for. I went back for a scan to find i had still got the sac inside left. i chose to have surgery that day and was awake within the hour felling great . I had slight bleeding, slight pain for a couple of days and my body getting back to normal. I wish id have had that done two weeks ago and not gone through what i did. i would recommend the surgery to anyone and it help set your body and uterus up for conceiving again. Hope this is of some help as i wish id have had more insight into the choices given. Take care Catherine

Dawn Stoker, over 2 years

Hi Hellen, i've just been through this same problem i was eight weeks pregnant and had been bleeding for 2 weeks i had a early scan which showed the baby hadnt grown and had no heart beat but was still there. I asumed when you miscarriage the baby would automatically come out bit this is not the case. I spent 8 hours in hospital taking various tablets which cleans your uterus out. Like you i really didnt want surgery ti scared the life out of me. I have a scan in 12 days which hopefully will show everything is back to normal again. Hope this helps please feel free to ask anything else. Take Care

hellen, over 2 years

TO GILL, IM NO PROFESSIONAL BUT MY ADVICE TO YOU WOULD BE TO GO BACK TO THE DOCTOR AND DEMAND SOME MORE ANSWERS, IF YOU STILL FEEL PREGNANT & THE MISCARRIAGE THEY SAID YOU WOULD HAVE NEVER APPEARED THEN I THINK YOU DESERVE A SCAN. I DONT BELIEVE A BABY WILL WAIT TILL YOUR NEXT PERIOD TO LEAVE YOUR BODY, IF YOUR PREGNANCY HAS FAILED IT WOULD COME OUT ASAP, IF NOT THE BABY,I THINK YOU WOULD AT LEAST SEE SOME BLOOD. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL OVER THIS FESTIVE SEASON, IVE GONE THROUGH A NIGHTMARE THIS CHRISTMAS TOO, MY HUSBAND CRIED WITH ME & MY FAMILY HAVE BEEN SO SUPPORTIVE BUT I STILL FEEL ALONE & CRAVE THE HAPPINESS I FELT WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT ON THE 17TH DEC ONLY FOR IT ALL TO GO WRONG ON THE 22ND. IF YOU NEED A CHAT THEN PLEASE FEEL FREE TO GET IN TOUCH WITH ME ON HEL.SY.DEL@HOTMAIL.COM I KNOW MY WORDS ARENT MUCH COMFORT BUT IT MIGHT HELP TO KNOW YOU ARENT ALONE IN WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. TAKE CARE. HELLEN

hellen, over 2 years

Hiya, I recently found i was pregnant, after a week i got cramps & spotting so had a scan which showed a 4 week sac that had bled, i couldnt have a evacuation has the sac was still attached & wasnt guarntee'd to fail. I was told if the pregnancy was going to fail i would miscarry naturally. Over the christamas period I lost loads of blood & some very big clots, i assumed the pregnancy had failed & the bleeding has now slowed to little more than spotting. Im due for a rescan on the 7th jan when the early pregnancy unit reopens. Ive still felt pregnant, nausea, tired etc but i thought it was all in my imagination so i did a 3rd pregnancy test today which is a very clear positive so now im totally confused! Is it possible the baby has died but hasnt come away with the clots & blood ive lost? If so will i need to have an evacuation because this is my worst nightmare come true, isnt there any other way to clear my uterus without an operation? My feelings are all over now because i was grieving for a lost baby & now im not sure if its even gone. Any info would be much appreciated. Hellen

gill, over 2 years

I wonder if anyone can advise what is going on with me - My husband and I decided to try for another baby and decided to have my coil removed at the end of my last period. The first day of my last period was 3rd November. I found out two weeks after my next period was due that I was pregnant. However, a week later, I started spotting basically whenever I went to the toilet there would be a slight spot of blood on the toilet paper this only lasted a day. I went to my doctor to get checked out - they did a pregnancy test which came out negative as well as a blood test which showed my hcg level was very low, below 5. I was told that I should expect bleeding to get heavier as I have miscarried. However, nothing has happened. My body seems to think it is still pregnant as I feel sick all the time and more tired than usual. When should I expect to bleed? Will it be in my next period, but I don't know when that will be. This is really heartbreaking for me because it took 2 weeks after my period was due to find out if I was pregnant and then told I have miscarried a week later. Now 2 weeks on, I am still in this dilemma as I have not had any cramps or further bleeding so I cannot move on from this emotionally painful experience. I was hoping I am still pregnant, but have been told that this is impossible. Can anybody advise me what my body is doing? This has happened during the festive season and as you can imagine has left me despondent, especially as it seems that my body is playing tricks on me. I want to move on, but I don't know when I will next ovulate. Your tips and support is most welcome as I feel so alone...........

Jayne, over 2 years

hiya im not sure if i have had a miscarriage or not. ive been having my periods like ive always had, light and for about 4/5 days tops. last month i lasted 2 weeks and this month i am extremely heavy and to add, as i went to the toilet this morning, it sounded as if a lump had just fallen from me, (wasnt a poo!) i did try to have a look but all i could see was blood. ive been on the pilll for just over 6 months, ive been having sex with my partner with out a condom for a few months now, please help thanks in advance Jayne

leanne, over 2 years

hi i had a misscarage aboot 6 months ago and i am pregnant again and i am so scared of it happenin again what are my chances