Whilst many adults know when they're depressed, children don't often have the emotional maturity to recognize what's wrong, so it's up to you to spot the signs. The main symptoms are similar to those an adult would experience. They include being tearful, irritable and sad, taking no interest in hobbies, being listless and withdrawn, restless or unable to concentrate. Minor health ailments such as headaches and tummy aches sometimes happen.

They may go off their food and lose weight or eat too much and gain weight. They may be unable to sleep or sleep excessively. Depression can show itself in other ways too. Your child may self harm, take drugs, or drink alcohol. Some children don't display obvious signs of unhappiness. Instead they may start behaving very badly, may seem 'hyperactive' or become bullies. So watch out for anything that seems out of character.

How can you help them?

There are lots of things we don't really understand about depression, particularly why it happens to some people and not others. But we do know what can help. The first thing you can do is talk to your child, find out how she's feeling and if anything is worrying or upsetting her. Sometimes the cause is obvious, such as exam stress or a friendship problems. But often a child will bottle up a problem and only reveal it when gently coaxed. Have a confidential chat with your child's teacher and find out how she appears in class. Has her schoolwork suffered? Is she being picked on by other children? Does she pay attention or seem distracted?

If you're still concerned and your child's depression seems to be dragging on, don't be afraid to see your GP. He will be able to refer you and your child to an appropriate specialist. Some practices have counselors on their staff. Depending on your child's age, anything from play therapy to family therapy, cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) or psychotherapy could be offered. Keep an open mind. These sorts of talking therapies can be extremely effective and help your child work out ways to cope, which will be beneficial throughout their lives. Don't see expert involvement as a sign you have failed. Many children who are depressed really benefit from exploring their feelings with a caring professional.
- If your child ever talks about killing themselves seek help immediately

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