Sex style quiz - You're Ms Balanced

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Judi James, sex and relationships expert, on a pink background
Judi says:

You've either not been together that long, or you've found your sex soul mate because your sex life seems perfectly balanced.

It's a fact of life that relationships do tend to go through a period of lots of sex early on; when you both lack inhibitions and sex with each other is the number one priority in both of your lives.

This is nature making us good breeding stock but unfortunately this period of intense action and prioritisation does tend to run out of steam after what could be enough time to produce two kids, i.e. about two years. After this the desire and love can feel as strong or even stronger but the heavy and intense passion can tone down a notch or two.

There's no reason why this should cause problems in your relationship - in fact it's entirely natural - but it's important to expect some sexual 'cooling off' and make plans to both live with it and deal with it rather than silently mourning it.

Make sure you're compatible in other ways so that your love is based on more than just lust and be prepared to inject some variety into your love life rather than just allowing it to fade with age.

Experimentation can help as it create a feeling of change or newness into your relationship.

Judi James is a sex, relationships and body language expert and author of The Body Language Bible, available from June.

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i have been with my partner 5yrs soon thought its suppose to dye out or so the quiz says, either thhe quiz is wrong or im just very lucky to have found the perfect guy romanticlly, sexually and everyday life :)


i've been with my partner for 6 years and we stil love tryin new things with sex every day we have one child together too and plan to have more we both have the same views and needs when it comes to sex we've been the same since we first started sleeping together i always feels its about making it exciting and to just sometimes dress up when he comes home from work. we also love each other very much and feel its only natural to want to continue our sex life as same as we first started fun, exciting something to get the blood running

Morgan Wakefield

-For the most part i would have to agree with how whats writtin above, but one small thing about its a major priorty on both our parts in our relationship. Its not so much for me, being the female i dont make it more of a necessity as i do an addiction. How much of a difference would that make to the both of us?

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