Aimee, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

6months ago broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and moved back home to my parents home. i was on a night out with my cousin about 2 months ago when i met this really amazing bloke and ended up sleeping with him. at first i wasnt sure that it would go any further but i did. he was really nice and treated me in a way that id never been treated before, i felt on top of the world every time we would meet. but a month later he sent me a text asking if we could just be friends. i tryed really hard at the start not 2 get emotionally attached but after he sent me that text message i couldnt help but hurt. i cant stop thinking about him please some 1 help me before i go mad!!!

Gemma, 2 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I really don't know what to do?My ex n me broke up a month ago now and i do miss him loads, it was my decision. We broke up because i went away for a weekend for some space and time by myself and he didnt understand that i wanted some time on my own and went mad and said mean things that hurt me very much and i honestly could not beleive how much he turned on me. When i got back from my weekend away we broke up. Now a month on i miss him like mad and i love him loads but can i trust him not to turn on me again? Also to add into the situation theres another guy who i have been hanging out with and hes really nice and we just click and he just gets me. I really don't know what to do? do i go back to my ex and give him another chance? or do i continue with this guy and see how its goes? What ever i do im going to hurt someone Please help

rebecca baker, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

My boyfriend dose not want to have sex with me any more and we are always rowing. I love him very much but fill he dont love me. It fills like he has gone of me after i had our son. Can you help me.

Cynthia, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Hi Pam, I am 29 years old and have been married for two years. My husband and I really want kids but secretly I am hesitant to have children yet. I feel like my husband isn't responsible enough to take on the added stress and I fear it will all fall on my shoulders alone and I will grow to resent him as I have done with his inability to pay bills on time, help around the house etc. I just dont feel like he is the mature man I need him to be to have children with but Im going on 30 and cant wait much longer to find out. I love him but he does not give enough support for me in my life as it is and I fear added stress of a child would push us even further apart. Do I risk waiting more years together to see if he becomes more of a man and be in my mid 30s before having our first child. Or even worse realize we will always be this way and have waisted all that time? Or do I have a child now while I am at my ideal childbearing age and risk not being able to raise a child (and a husband) at the same time resulting in a split up? I would not be afraid of raising a child alone but I would want to do what is best for all. I really don't know what to do.

frennan, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I am 44 yr old woman I was introduced to my best friend jeff exactly 1 yr ago he is now 35 & will be 36 soon He is white I am black tonight he said to me you know I never have to ask you things 2x we are always on the same page We never argue & we enjoy all the same things I have to admit that its true I ans. him with I adapt to situations & I enjoy a lot of things The biggest problem with us is that Jeff has a girlfriend They fight all the time but she 7 yrs older than me & he has been with her for 7 yrs and feels guilty that he has feelings for me, mentally & Physically. I was told that I will never fall in love, because I was rapped as a young girl by my brother. This weekend his girlfriend became sick. She lives aprox. 115 miles from him, I'm right around the corner in an apartment he found for me. I missed him so much this wkend. I am with him every night of the wk, besides 2 wkends a month when she gets his booty call. I will not sleep with him again, am I in love, I am the mother of 4 boys all grown now and I can honestly say I was not in love with there fathers. Ive been married 2x and frankly I do not want it to happen again. Jeff is the first person to stand up for me. My brother the one that kept rapping me when I was young, came down to visit me on my birthday this year he lives about 200 miles away and I like it that way, I some times worry because he has 5 daughters. I had to make Jeff stay at his apartment I have never seen him so enraged before. I have really blocked things out up until now. Jeff has been helping me face my shadows so to speak I can tell him anything. When he came back this morning he said he called his girlfriend my name at least 9 times during the weekend, he says I am always on his mind even at work. I actually went out on a date and felt guilty, we are not dating I have slept with him in the past but I have admitted to him it was to get the guy who introduced us to leave me alone. I think Jeff may be my soul mate but he is already taken.

Bunni, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Hi, I'm 16 and I have been with my fiance, 19, for a year and 5 months, for 5 of those months we've been living together in his parents house. Within two months into the relationship my father disowned me at aged 15, he also dissowned my at the time 8 month pregnant sister, my mother took me in and got my sister a flat nearby where I used to live. She lives in Hartlepool and my fiance lived in Newcastle, so there was distance from last September whilst I attended school. My fiance sticked with me despite all the bother my family put him through thus far, and I thought it a miracle as he the relationship had begun as a rebound on my behalf. Within five months he propossed in an incredibly romantic way and I accepted. We were quite love struck and our sex lives was fantastic. We couldn't get enough of each other. By Christmas my mother began to dislike my fiance as I kept mentioning how I was moving back to Newcastle for college. She came up with plenty of excuses but never really told me why she disliked him so much. I now had to spend loads of money to visit every weekend/school holiday and he had to cope with my mother and my family giving him grief yet again. This lasted until April where my mother kicked me out over the phone. She has issues with her mothering due to personal problems and when I argued with her over her lack of support and attention she basicly told me to go away. My fiance and his family took me in, his mother has always liked me like her own daughter. I struggled with exams and was incredibly stressed out and moody, I was in self loathing and had depression nearly every day. I have put on a lot of weight since the beginning of the relationship, and the sex had now wore off. We argued almost constantly during this time, it was like he was trying to break free of the relationship, but after a two week breakup in March we knew we could not be alone ever again. We feel like the other is our soulmate, and everyone we know or meet always make comments like 'you can tell you're getting married'. At first I thought this was cute, but now I feel like it's insinuating that our relationship is boaring, dull, and without romance. My fiance seems to have lost complete interest in me, and only speaks to me mostly when he wants a sandwhich or a drink, he does do funny things to cheer me up, but I feel like we're a 60 year old couple. He sticks constantly to his video games, and offers no alone time at all. All my romantic gestures go ignored, and he seems completly unattracted by the site of me naked. I try things such as roleplay, but I think he's grown bored. I know he's been put through so much hassle and pain because of me and I dont know if he is secretly got a grudge against me. Is it worth trying, or should I just give up and accept it?

Beverly G., 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I have been seeing an acupuncturist for a while now and on my first appointment I wasn't really use to him because his friend was my acupuncturist first. She went away to teach overseas. I have really grown to like him. I guess you could say I have really deep feelings for him, maybe even love. I think he is attracted to me. One time when he was taking my pulse he slipped his hand into my hand and I closed my hand over his, and he squeezed my hand and he squeezed mine. The first thing I gave him was a bookmark telling him how wonderful and amazing he is as an acupuncturist. Then I got him a little plaque for his birthday and he loved it! I also have written several poems and he said he was really impressed. He is so soft spoken and gorgeous. He doesn't talk about his personal life much but I think he is living with someone. I told him recently that I have feelings for him. He said his job is to make me feel good, and that we have a professional relationship. There are certain boundaries which I understand. I really respect him but I wish I could get to know him better and possibly date him. I have never felt like this about anyone. We have this connection I just can't explain. I also told him I just got a new apartment so it was sort of an address change to put in the computer. He asked me like three or four times about it and if I was living alone. I don't know what to do. I am so attracted to him. I feel like he is my soulmate. Please help.

Somebody cute, 4 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I've been wiv my boyfriend for 3 years now we've had sex on several accasions now. But when i have sex the penis goes hard but does not go fully into the vagina my vagina is moasst. pls help

anon, 4 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I have been with my fiance just over 4 years and we've been engaged for 3 1/2 of them. There is nearly 9 year age gap with me in my 30's and him in his 20's. We do get on well and have a laugh but we do have different attitudes when it comes to home life - i like chores to be done and things to be clean & tidy but he never does any of these things unless i make a point about it. i know he works hard but evenings and weekends he just lies on sofa watching tv all the time, is this normal for a man in his 20's? It's driving me to the point where i'm not sure if should stay together let alone get married. I know I love and care about him but how do you know if still in love? You might say just talk to him about it but i find it difficult to bring up and if i've done before he gets defensive and says i do chores before he gets a chance. I'm very confused about our future - if we should have one? I feel it is not a partnership? He always drives me where i need to go but that's all. Please advise

zoe, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

hi pam its zoe im 18yrs old and i was with my boyfriend a year and a half it was great at first i really trusted him as in the past i have had trouble with ex partens but after we got engaged he start to saying i was cheating and it got a lil heated i tryed to tell him it was in his head but he wouldnt listen to me it went on for about 8 mnths and i couldnt do it no more but i didnt want to leave him as i loved him but two mnths agao it got heated againg but it wasnt on me this time it was on my cousin who is having a baby he was still saying i was cheating so i ended it with him but only a day after we ended it he was with someother girl do you think it was him that was cheating on me thanks for listening

jane, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

hi pam my name is jane iam 57rys old and my partner is 45rys old my problem is he doest seem to be much intrested in sex and when he does it is alwasys the same way he doest seem to do any fourplay he say he doest no how to he said it was all down to his ex wife when he was having sex she would tell him to hurry and diffrent thing that happened in the marriage and i think there was a lot of mental crulty with here the way he treated him we have been together 12yrs and love each other very much but i need more from this relationship we gor in engaged on xmas last year but i cant go into marriage with this problem i have got to the stage i dont even try any more i love him so much we have been through a lot with our marriages and i just want this to work can you give me any advice please jane thank you

val, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

i am having trouble with my sexuality i have done for more than 10 years i was abused many times by differen people in my life i feel as though i deserve to be punished by men becouse that is what i am used to. i self harm i can not masterbate or come to climax. there is a lot more to this i would like to talk to you through email contact becouse i am deaf and have no phone i am asking for your help please please help please reply to my email soon thank you very much Val

D, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

last year september my partner and I split up, during which she met her ex-boyfriend and gave him oral sex. I know prior to this she was in contact with him by phone and text. when I confronted her about being in contact with him the response was basically "deal with it" The very night she gave him oral sex. We had sex after. I found out about this a few weeks after it had happened. when I confronted her she said that she was and she wasn't sorry as we were not together. I argued that if that was what she wanted then she should have never come back to me especially on the same night. we are back together but I cannot get the image of her giving him oral sex out of my mind. especially after I read the emails boasting of the night to her friends. I am thinking about sleeping with one of her friends just so I don't feel like such an idiot for taking her back and so she knows how humiliating it is.

charlotte, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Hi Pam, I just found out my long term partner has been on sex text lines, as he left his phone, and I answered a message for him. He has been doing it for 4 months, which in that time I had just had a baby, and we were experiencing financial difficulties. He said he was stressed, and did it at work whilst on nights, to get away from the real world. I am heartbroken as I cannot get some of the images and language of the texts out of my mind! I am a rational woman, and very open-minded when it comes to sex, but this has really hurt me, especially as I has just had a baby. He says he loves me, and that he wants no one else, but cannot trust him. We have signed up to Relate to try and sort out our problems, but will I overcome this and trust again. At the moment I do not feel sexy as I am still breastfeeding. By the way he stopped the texting a week before I found out, and has not done it since. Thanks

XXXXXXXXXXX, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

me and my boyfriend have problem we seem to be arguing a lot more and it driving me mad i just want us to be the same again u know and i dont know what to do can you help me what shall i do to outcome this problem that inflicting on our relationship thankz hope to hear from you soon. we been together for nearlly eleven months now and it got bad the last couple of months. you sincery

caz, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

i have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but we have a big problem he finds it difficult to get an erection and when he does i find it hard to orgasm without using other methods please can you help as we are both concerned