hi pam its zoe im 18yrs old and i was with my boyfriend a year and a half it was great at first i really trusted him as in the past i have had trouble with ex partens but after we got engaged he start to saying i was cheating and it got a lil heated i tryed to tell him it was in his head but he wouldnt listen to me it went on for about 8 mnths and i couldnt do it no more but i didnt want to leave him as i loved him but two mnths agao it got heated againg but it wasnt on me this time it was on my cousin who is having a baby he was still saying i was cheating so i ended it with him but only a day after we ended it he was with someother girl do you think it was him that was cheating on me thanks for listening

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hi pam my name is jane iam 57rys old and my partner is 45rys old my problem is he doest seem to be much intrested in sex and when he does it is alwasys the same way he doest seem to do any fourplay he say he doest no how to he said it was all down to his ex wife when he was having sex she would tell him to hurry and diffrent thing that happened in the marriage and i think there was a lot of mental crulty with here the way he treated him we have been together 12yrs and love each other very much but i need more from this relationship we gor in engaged on xmas last year but i cant go into marriage with this problem i have got to the stage i dont even try any more i love him so much we have been through a lot with our marriages and i just want this to work can you give me any advice please jane thank you

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i am having trouble with my sexuality i have done for more than 10 years i was abused many times by differen people in my life i feel as though i deserve to be punished by men becouse that is what i am used to. i self harm i can not masterbate or come to climax. there is a lot more to this i would like to talk to you through email contact becouse i am deaf and have no phone i am asking for your help please please help please reply to my email soon thank you very much Val

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last year september my partner and I split up, during which she met her ex-boyfriend and gave him oral sex. I know prior to this she was in contact with him by phone and text. when I confronted her about being in contact with him the response was basically "deal with it" The very night she gave him oral sex. We had sex after. I found out about this a few weeks after it had happened. when I confronted her she said that she was and she wasn't sorry as we were not together. I argued that if that was what she wanted then she should have never come back to me especially on the same night. we are back together but I cannot get the image of her giving him oral sex out of my mind. especially after I read the emails boasting of the night to her friends. I am thinking about sleeping with one of her friends just so I don't feel like such an idiot for taking her back and so she knows how humiliating it is.

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Hi Pam, I just found out my long term partner has been on sex text lines, as he left his phone, and I answered a message for him. He has been doing it for 4 months, which in that time I had just had a baby, and we were experiencing financial difficulties. He said he was stressed, and did it at work whilst on nights, to get away from the real world. I am heartbroken as I cannot get some of the images and language of the texts out of my mind! I am a rational woman, and very open-minded when it comes to sex, but this has really hurt me, especially as I has just had a baby. He says he loves me, and that he wants no one else, but cannot trust him. We have signed up to Relate to try and sort out our problems, but will I overcome this and trust again. At the moment I do not feel sexy as I am still breastfeeding. By the way he stopped the texting a week before I found out, and has not done it since. Thanks

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me and my boyfriend have problem we seem to be arguing a lot more and it driving me mad i just want us to be the same again u know and i dont know what to do can you help me what shall i do to outcome this problem that inflicting on our relationship thankz hope to hear from you soon. we been together for nearlly eleven months now and it got bad the last couple of months. you sincery

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i have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but we have a big problem he finds it difficult to get an erection and when he does i find it hard to orgasm without using other methods please can you help as we are both concerned

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