Dr Pam says:It's so true that the daily grind and routine of most relationships can become "Ho hum" to the point it puts the relationship to sleep! But it is possible to do something about it. You can shake things awake by doing the following:
1. Kick-start a new phase in your relationshipSuggest to your husband that you take up a fun, new hobby together. Something like dancing that is sexy too - with the popularity of Strictly Come Dancing you can find dance classes in most areas.
- Find out more about dancing and other fun exercises
2. Ban talkingI don't mean all chat, but specifically any conversations about your children (if you have any) or problems, at least two evenings a week. When children arrive couples forget to talk about things besides baby-talk.
Couples also go round and round discussing certain basic issues, so their time together can seem so dull. You're entitled to some nights off of these topics - replace them with chatting about films, what you've seen on the TV, or something that's interesting and pleasurable to you.
3. Make a wish listHave a think about things you want to do or places you want to visit and then write them down. Obviously these are things you need to plan for like a special holiday.
4. Go somewhere newMake a pact to try some new restaurants, pubs, etc. to broaden your horizons. New venues give you new things to talk about.
5. Visit your pastTake a few strolls down memory lane - relationship research shows this brightens up the gloomy times. Revisit the place you first met, occasionally look through photo albums, and regularly remind yourselves of lovely times you've shared.
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