Sex problems: 'We don't have sex any more'
My husband and I have stopped regular sex because I just don't feel like it any more. Is there something wrong with me?
Dr Petra says
It's normal for women not to feel like sex sometimes. Common causes include:
- Tiredness
- Not being turned on
- Stress
- Health problems
- Relationship difficulties
- Lack of confidence
- Poor body image
You'll want sex more if you feel desired, sexy and supported. Not only will help with the housework and childcare make a huge difference, but tell your partner how (and when) you'd like them to show how they fancy you.
Try masturbation and fantasies (on your own or with a partner) and be brave and say what you'd like sexually.
If your situation is caused by a psychological or physical health problem speak to your GP, or a therapist for relationship difficulties. Making practical lifestyle changes usually does the trick, but if not help is at hand.
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katy, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]
I have been with my partner for 6 1/2 years, our sex life was great when we were first together, now it hardly ever happens. i work shifts and am always tired. I dont know how to get it back? Also my parter is always negative after sex, saying it wasnt very good - because he thinks it should last longer, thats not a problem to me. i try and tell him this but it doesnt work. Any advice?