caro howe, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I was hoping this articel would tell me how long would be needed to get over an affair. My husband had an affair 2 years ago. He wont see relate and he doesnt know why it happened. I fought to get him back because I knew what had happened was totally out of character for him. We had been happily married for 28 years and had 3 children. I still feel dejected and cry most days over it. Small things turn into big arguements because I feel unloved. He couldnt be more caring, he says he loves me. I just need to know if it is normal to feel like this 2 years later and how long will I be like this.

Melanie White, 8 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I FOUND OUT IN THE LAST COUPLE OF DAYS THAT MY PARTNER OF 18 YEARS HAS RECENTLY ENDED AN AFFAIR, AND AFTER A VERY ANGRY EXCHANGE I LEARNT THAT THIS WAS NOT THE FIRST TIME. HE IMPLIED THAT IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND I WAS TO BLAME. I ANGRILY ASKED HIM TO LEAVE AND HE IS NOW STAYING WITH HIS ELDERLY MOTHER, SO THAT WE CAN BOTH TAKE STOCK. READING YOUR ARTICLE WAS LIKE A BREATH OF FRESH AIR, A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL. I'VE PRINTED ALL THE PAGES AND I'M GOING TO TRY DISCUSS THIS WITH MY PARTNER. BEFORE I READ THIS ARTICLE ALL I COULD THINK ABOUT WAS HOW AM I GOING TO COPE!! I WOULD HAVE LIKED TO SEE SOMETHING ABOUT WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN. MY OWN SON IS 6 YEARS OLD AND AS HIS DAD OFTEN HAS TO LOOK AFTER HIS MOTHER, HE HASN'T YET REALISED THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG AND I WANT IT TO REMAIN THAT WAY. ONE THING I WOULD NEVER DO IS ALLOW MY CHILD TO BE PIGGY IN THE MIDDLE AND I WOULD NOT MAKE HIS DAD LOOK BAD AS HE ADORES HIM. THANKS FOR THE INFORMATION AND LET'S HOPE THAT WE CAN NOW DECIDE AS ADULTS, WITH YOUR HELP WANT HAPPENS NEXT.