He's having an affair: Should you go?

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This is a big step and not one to take in the middle of emotional turmoil. If you're still very angry, hurt or confused you are not ready to make this decision .

So ask yourself:

1. Have you given yourself enough time to consider this properly?
2. Are you sure that this relationship is over and there's absolutely nothing you or your partner could do to save it?

Warning: 'Breaking up is not an easy way out,' says Paula Hall. 'You still have to 'get over' what he did. And if it's a long term relationship with children involved, you'd be wise to get professional help before making this decision.'

More help and advice

- Relate offers relationship counselling and support
- Dr Phil's website

- Your relationship problems answered
- Tips to put the spark back into your relationship
- Tell us your secrets or read others' confessions

You could also try reading
- After the Affair (Relate guide) by Julia Cole £6.99
- Relationship Rescue: Repair Your Relationship Today by Dr Phil McGraw, £5.99

By Kate Corr

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Dawn, 11 months

Wow! Spot on advice. I wish I'd of found this site 8 months ago - explains exaclty every emotion and problem I faced after finding out my had been cheating for months with my so called best friend. Hopefully time will be a healer. Some relationships are worth fighting for.

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Helynv, about 1 year

But this aticle makes no mention of what to do if he walks out the door becaue you now know, which is what my husband did, or how you deal with a child who is falling apart becasue her dad won't see her when you are falling apart becasue he won't talk to you either.

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