Orgasms - Everything you ever wanted to know

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Sexpert Sarah Hedley reveals everything you ever wanted to know about orgasms but were too afraid to ask

How do we have orgasms?

For many women an orgasm is something they can only dream of, while for others it's something that rarely happens when they're with their partner.

If you fall into either of these categories, then don't worry, you're not alone. Research has shown that
  • 1 in 10 women never orgasm at all
  • 4 out of 10 women reach their first orgasm through masturbation.
  • Climaxing with a partner during penetrative sex is actually more difficult than TV, films and many books would have you believe and it requires techniques that often need to be learned.

But never fear, goodtoknow is here to help. Read on for expert advice and tips on how to put the 'ooooh' into your orgasm...

Psst! Just a quick warning that some of the following content might be a little rude for your kids, so be careful!

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Kaleb Greenwood

You took an oath & have been faithful with it till the age of 65. Why would you throw away 65 years of faithfulness, & possibly your eternal light for a single experience?? Foolish. The years of your best potential sexual experiences have long past you anyways sister. You wouldn't be biting into an enhanced chocolate bar. You'd be biting into a seemingly delicious piece of fruit, only to chew a mouthful of worms & rotten fruit. That's why Christ said to never take an oath. Because you will forever be bound to something you may find that you do not agree with. Next time, let your yes be yes. And let your no be no. Otherwise you risk becoming foolish.


im 24.....the problem is i had sex since i had 19 years old but not once time i come or havind an orgasm when having sex i have a boyfriend since 2 years we are trying to see what happened no results. but when he tres to suck me after 10 mns or over i come and i had an orgasm. why? iI'd like to know why i cannot come during the sex?

Mothusi Aubrey Rankgomo

I want to get back with my girlfriend but i am not sure that she will take me back since the end of our relationship i have been in a lot of pain and confusion as i did not know what went wrong in the relationship. i wish to know but there are sometimes that i do not what to ask her becaus she says is no longer that important anymore. my mkistakes in this relationship is that we did not communicate that much about our own feeling rather we just hid them and kept them inside and i had a crush on her friend which was not a good thing to tell her at the moment. my reaction on telling her was that i felt insecure and also anxious so i did tell her but now i want her back even though she also drove me away from her by her seemingly not to funny jokes besides that i stil do love her what should i do to show her that i still love her and i want her back in my life


Hi, I'm 18 and still live with my dad. My boyfriend moved in a few months ago and we are very sexually active but we have a problem. I can't seem to orgasm. we have tried just about everything and is now getting very frustrating. He says it might because i'm still here in the house that i grew up in and that my dad is only a few feet away so im constantly thinking about if he can hear me. We've tried foreplay and oral and with toys but still nothing. please can you help?


Here's a video on Sexperience that gives you the lowdown about an orgasm It explains what an orgasm feels like and gives more information about that mysterious G-spot.

David Shade

The statistics you show are sad because ALL healthy women can have orgasms during sex. The problem is with the men. I know because I was once one of those men, and my wife left me for a 'bad-boy'. That set me on my own path of research, and now 15 years later I teach men and couples all over the world how to have mind-blowing orgasms. It has to come from the place of respect, love, and admiration for women, and from the mindset that 'her pleasure is my pleasure'. It's what I call the beliefs of a Masterful Lover. And it's important to let women know that what the doctors are telling them... that it's their fault... is a bunch of crap! It's just a ploy to sell unnecessary medical procedures. Sincerely, David Shade

Sticky vicky

I have never had sex in my life and i was just wonderng what it felt like i truley think i will never discover what sex is like for i am a 65 yer old nun and a virgin its hard to say but yes i am a virgin, Is having an orgasm like eating a bar of cochlotae u dont no what its like until u have tasted it. u get tempeted but when u get it it is better than u thought please i want to know before i die which is sometime sooon and dont tell father mc gly=nn but hes great i think he gave me an orgasm one it was tingly

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