'I'm seeing two men at the same time'
'I've never been the sort of woman who does naughty things, but recently I've attracted the attention of two men and have started seeing them both.
My husband died of cancer five years ago and it took me a long time to get back into the world of dating.
Eventually, my daughter suggested I try out online dating and she helped me create a profile and soon the requests from men came flooding in.
A couple of the men really stood out and I arranged to see them separately a week apart.
They were both so kind and funny that I couldn't bear to let either of them down, so I've begun seeing them both regularly and neither of them knows about the other.
I suppose I should make up my mind which one to choose, but I'm having so much fun that I just can't at the moment...'
J, 55, Lancashire
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nyley, 9 months
cally, i also have that problem in reverse. i have been with my bf for years nmow and the relationship have died. so i took ujp with a co worker. It is a amazing. i want to be with the co worker but it is proving difficult because he is a womanizer and a player. so i cant leave . i am trap.
Report this commentcally, about 1 year
i am in the same situation, it is not fun for me at all, if anything its hell, whilst on a break with my BF, a man i met in work took me out, i really liked him because he gave me everything i wanted from my boyfriend i never seemed to get, i am truly in love with my long term boyfriend but im scared to leave the man from work as my daily work life would be made hell (as hes a very popular guy). Its through no fault but my own. The man from work has spent so much on me and gives me all the attention im craving. I have made my choice i just dont know how to go about finishing the man from work..
Report this commentCharmne, about 1 year
im happy for you that you are happy but these men soon won't be happy if they find out! So decide soon because it will just end up being worse. Put yourself in their shoes, would you like to fall for a guy and then find out they have another woman on the side ? Im Hoping Not. So The sooner the better. Good Luck, Hope You pick the right lad x
Report this commentDani, about 1 year
First of all you need to make up your mind really soon it's not fair on either of these men. You may not be ready to deciede but that isnt an option. It will be easier for the man you do not choose to find out that you dont want him now rather than later. If you dont decide before these men fall in to deep with you, you could end up losing both. These men think you are genuine, nothing stays a secret forever and you will end up on your own without either so decide while there is still hope for one of the men. good luck x x x
Report this commentNicky, about 1 year
well i know it may just seem like fun but it isnt fair on these men. so u shud hurry up and decide
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Emily, 7 months
J, That is a tricky situation to be in. You need to sit back and decide what you want to do with your life and who you are attracted to more. I dated 2 guys at the same time for 3 months. In the end, I ended up losing them both. Emily x
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