steph, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Im sorry to hear about ur relationship ending bdly.. i wplit up with my ex in january this year after 3 n half years together and we have a 15month old daughter together... things between me and my ex were really bad near the end and we were always arguin and throughout the relationship i was always being told that he had cheated and on a couple of occasions i found messages on he phone to other girls saying they were going to meet but in the end he always used to be able to make me forgive him... even to this day i stil have a soft spot for him because i loved him and we have a daughter together... its never going to be completely easy with getting over your ex and not having a soft spot for him because he is going to be in your life until your child is 18 but given time you will slowly be able to adjust to the fact that you are no a couple and u will slowly be able to see him as just your childs father... but that is as long as u two do not keep seeing each other or sleeping together as it will confuse you and will confuse your child which isnt fair as your child will not know whats going on... u both just need to focus on your child for the time being and if over a length of time u and ur ex and see that things gd work then thats great... if not then u just both have to accept it and start fresh for yourselfs.

sarah palfreyman, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I know the feeling of getting treated badly by a partner. I had an ex who use to bully me and control me until i was to scared to go out. He use to watch my every move and follow me everywhere. I got pregnant by my ex and im now 8 months pregnant and hes now with a girl who he is 10 years younger then him and i now get abuse off the both of them.But i have managed to ignore them and move away and get a house and iv sorted myself out for the better. I wish everyone good luck with everything.

hannah, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

i feel your pain and hurt i really do ! .. some people can just get over people like a flick of a swtich then their is people like me and you , its horrible to say it but you love him and he doesnt love you or he wouldnt have done it . basically he doesnt want you but doesnt want anyone else to have you . i have been in pretty much they same situation as you just it doesnt involve a child .. and the way i got over him was by dating other guys and telling him and letting him treat me nice and try and win me back but remeber in the back of my mind he only is doing it because he wants you to be on ur own and lonely . and just enjoy the attention ! as you deserve it more than he does and see how it goes with the other guy you never know one of them might lasT . and think you dont have him anyway soo if your dating other people it wont hurt atall get your confidence back and smile dont let him know ur down .. men feed off it ... hope this helps you and cheer up

lisa, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

i think i agree with sophie, get in contact with the new man and explain that you didnt know what to dofor the best and try to work things out with him, i stillt hink about one of my ex's and itsnot good forme so i deleted his number and trying to move on as he left me to go back to his ex so he made his choice since i have herd they have split for good this time butim gone and i always will be you have to be strong and i remind myself that if he felt how i did then he would be here for me now and would never have left.

Gemma, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

me and my ex broke up last year and i still really like him we broke up because of the age gap cause his mates wasnt happy with it but i saw him about a fortnight ago and he told me that he loves me and always have and stuff like that but he wont get with me coz of the age difference do you reckon i shuld even bother wasting my time on him or move on ??

elly, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

ive been through the same with my ex, i left him over a month ago. our relationship was violent and i was really depressed. now that i have left me and my child, whos two are really happy i thought i needed my ex in my life but i dont i always took him back after affairs but i never really loved him, now im so happy and have my life back my ex hasnt contacted me or the child since i left and wont give me any money but im so glad to have him out of my life i dont care life does get better

sophie, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Im 14, and although you proberly think im just a child with no clue about feelings, i do. I had a really bad incident with my ex which has completley changed the girl i am today and i suffer from depression from it, but Im not going to go into my personal life because i really don't feel ready to talk about things yet. Anyway, firstly, if you still have the new mans number, call him. Ask to meet up and explain that its important and that you made a mistake. Explain to him the reasons for your break up. Secondly, think of all the bad things your ex done to you. You didn't deserve it and when you gave him more chances, he took them for granted and he knew you'd take him back. Tell your childs dad that your child is just as much his resposibility that he is yours. Its things you really need to do. if not for yourself, do it for you child. If you think your child's old enough to understand, tell him that daddy was cheating and you had to break up.