Christine, 13 days [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Megan I have been married for 10 years and my husband had just told me that he is bisexual and likes to dress in my female clothes. While i am at work and the kids are at school he dresses in his female look, but when it time for the kids to come home it is all man again. It may feel and seem weird but you really just need to sit down and talk to him about believe it or not it may just bring the both of you a whole heck of alot closer it has in my relationship. We have our days were we role play to help one anothe out. He doesn't like to spell out to me what he wants so i have actually been trying to find someone who can help me there so i can plan a nice evening for the both of us.

Pete12341234, 29 days [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

This fetish is more popular than you think, just ask any sex worker, such as a professional dominatrix or prostitute (or read a memoire written by one). I am very masculine, but one of my ultimate fantasies, which I am too ashamed to share with my wife, is for her (dressed up as dominatrix) to force me to dress up as a woman - stilletos, stockings, mini-dress, the whole works, as "punishment" for something. She then uses a strap-on to become the male, and treat me as a female. This role-switching idea is so appealing because it is different, extremely kinky and taboo, but it also lets you drop the TOUGH and VIRILE MAN mask for a minute and experience what its like to be female and submissive. (I'm not saying that woman ARE submissive.) I saw an interview of sex workers on TV and they all said that such "effeminization" was among the most popular requests by their clients. Obviously, those men were not gay, because they could have sought gay prostitutes.

Susan, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

My husband does the same thing. I found out a few years back when I discovered underwear and he told me it was his. There have been times when I have come home early from work and not been able to get into the house. Since first finding out; I have come to realise that it is worse than I first thought. My husband says he is not gay however when he is dressed as a woman he looks at images of men dressed as women on the internet. Unfortunately i have started having an affair as I no longer fancy my husband now. We have two children. My husband is my best friend. He doesn't know about the affair but it is my way of trying to keep everything together for the sake of my kids. I have contemplated ending the marriage but I worry that the children will not have everything that they would have in a marriage. My husband and I don't fall out. We are the best of friends. I can't give you any advice as I have no idea what I'm doing or should do either. Good luck

deb, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I just found out about my long time boy friend and everything was going great until he asked me to give him sex in the but area and I did and now I want to know if he is bisexual and what are the sgins.

Samantha, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

First things first. Your husband probably still loves you and is not gay. You need to do some research on this subject to be better informed before you talk with him. It is never easy to find your husband in your clothing, it shatters everything you ever thought you knew about men and women. I will say this though it is all on your terms from here. When you find what you are ok with then talk to him. He will be angry he was caught so you may try to find a good calm way to bring it up. You may want to try getting a few female clothing catalogs and sit down and look at them with him. Ask him what he likes and slowly turn the talk in to treating and talking to him as a girl friend. It wouldn't hurt to dress a bit sexy yourself. In doing that it will relax him. If you want to know the truth about the way he feels you will have to make him comfy. I know you are left feeling betrayed try an make it fun. I know you feel confused and hurt but if you give this some time before talking to him it will go much better. Your husband is the same man you married but now you know his softer side. Many women can not understand that and it is natural to feel the way you do. If you are not ok with him dressing in fem you will have to find a middle of the road on this if you want to remain wiith him. However if you find you are ok with it behind close doors then I would say plan your talk for your benefit. lay out some very sexy clothing on the bed, Plan a great dinner with lots of wine for you both and after dinner both dress up and have the best mind shattering time of your lives. Don't give him the option to not dress up. You will find he will be MUCH more aware of your needs and therefore cause you a mind shattering time. Listen I know this is a very sensitive time for you and you may have mixed feelings, but this is OK. He will have to understand you will sometimes feel like just being with the man you knew and married and sometimes it is just dress up as girl friends. On the having a child issue. He will be a better ,kinder, more understanding father. End of story on that. If you decide to work through this with him or not understand he can not help himself or herself with dressing. It is like an addiction almost. Just imagine yourself what it would be like to be told you can never again dress,act,think or feel as a women. It is no different for him. He will promise to never again dress in your clothing, but it is only a matter of time and he will have to sneek off and fill that need to feel as a women. weather you except this or not be kind and supportive to him.he has to feel so alone and his worst fear has already been realized. SOMEONE found out. It is good it was his loving wife. I know your next questions will be Is he wanting to become a women with a sex change,most likely NO. Will someone find out embarrising you . maby but if you have only now found out he is pretty good at keeping the secret and along with your support know one will ever know. If you become ok with this whole thing you can have the man you love a best friend, great shopping companion, someone to help around the house and he will never complain no matter what you want in the bedroom.

Anna, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

My husband of 21 years does the same thing and I hate it. He likes the fish net stockings and panties and hose. Anything really sexy. It is such a turn off to a woman to see her husband dressed like that! It just looks weird and it takes away their masculinity, in my eyes. I can't picture him in an attractive way anymore. I only see him dressed in my things. It makes my gut sick! I always dressed like that and when my stuff started to come up missing, I just quit and threw it all away. He would hide stuff all over and then I would find it. It causes distrust and lies and then you can't trust your partner anymore. Why stay together? I do for the happiness of my children and pray they never find out his sickening secret. I have boys and how would they understand this? Get out now and don't look back and for God's sake don't have his children. He will never change and all of his promises to do so will be lies. It's like someone addicted to cigarettes. He'll make you hate him if you stay and you'll end up like me, lonely and wanting a real man to make me feel good about the way I look in those clothes! Don't get stuck!

laura, about 1 month [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Ok, here we go. It is up to you to work out if you can accept this or not. I have had the same experience but at a very early stage of my relationship, I have been with my partner for 6 years now. I never got over this and it actually discusts me.I can not get sexually turned on by my partner any longer. I feel love for him but this has totally ruined our relationship. I am in the process of breaking up as freindship may still be an option. The best advice I can give you is do what does not cause anger or upset as this will harm both of you. Best of luck with everythung.

Mags, 2 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

No his not gay. You should talk to your husband maybe he wanted to tell you ages ago but was worried about your reaction? Some men feel the need to wear womans clothes as it makes them feel good (so iv heard) and it doesnt mean his gay. His probably feeling really guilty about keeping this secret from you! If you love him as much as you say you do..why not talk to him? & accept the fact his into dressing up. I hope it all goes well and good luck.

joe, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Megan, I'm sorry you found out like that. That had to be the most shameful feeling ever. I am a man who also likes to wear womens clothing. I don't want to be a woman....or gay! I recently (within the last 6 months) had begun wearing womens clothing. However, my wife (of 18 years) had no idea i liked this. I began dropping hints that i wanted to try wearing this or that. She laughed...I laughed...and it took some time to truly get the point across to my wife that i wasn't kidding. She asked me if I was gay or wanted to be a woman. I said no.. I just liked the softness of the clothes. I do have a job in which I am the boss in a very stressful enviroment. It does help to let loose and give in to my urge to dress up. My wife is excepting of this and supports me. She even shops for clothes for me. I love her very much. Sometimes I feel like I don't desserve her, or that maybe she doesn't want to be with someone like me. But we talk about it when I feel like this and she still wants me to feel comfortable in dressing up. Anyway, I could go on and on...just talk to him. Dressing up is not the end of the world...it doesn't mean he doesn't love you...and it would almost positively make your relationship stronger. Besides you could come out ahead...tell him he could buy some clothes but the deal is one for him one for you!

DC, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

What's your problem Megan ? Every man likes to feel the silkiness of his wifes clothes next to his body...What better way than wearing her clothes ?

issy, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I read your story and I understand the way you feel as I had a similar experience few years back with my husband. I felt betrayed and confused . It took me almost a year to discuss it with him. When I did he admitted that he is sexually attracted to men . He also said that he adores me and to loose me it would be the worst thing happening to him. I know that he meant it. We are still together. He is the person who can 'read' my mind and cares about me. I care about him too. I don't know if your husband is gay or not. What is important to ask yourself is do you love him as a person and do you want to be with him even if he is?

gemma, 3 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I understand your shock but you do need to talk your husband to get any answers, he is the only one who can answer your questions and tell you how he feels. It maybe the fact that its a fetish or curiousity, but you need answers to make you understand. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you and he may be relieved that you have seen him for yourself. Opening up to him and telling him what you saw and how you feel about it will give you both the opportunity to talk and sort this out. Good luck

Laura, 4 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Well I dress as a woman everyday, I mean silky sheer panties, a lacy bra and silicone breast inserts, s full slip, thigh high stockings and high heels with usually a silky flowing polyester dress and fix my long hair like a woman. I wear full makeup lipstick, eyeliner and shadow everything. I have long nails keep them painted and have both ears pierced and wear long dangling earrings. I wear perfume and look, smell, act and live as a woman full time 24/7 and wear silky nighties to bed. I use the ladies restroom and try on lingerie in womens lingerie stores or department stores. I basically am saying I live as a woman and society accepts me as a woman. I am 5'6" tall and 110 lbs and have recently started hormones. I shave my legs underarms and have little to no body hair. Now with this said I am happy married and my wife loves me like this. She says I am better than a masculine husband could ever be and since we wear the same size we share dresses and sometimes bras, no panties however. So now what is your problem?

Jeff, 4 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I am sure it was a shock, but it happens a lot, more than you realize. Diffrerent women react differently to it. I have a wonderfully understanding wife who actually likes me wearing skirts because, as she says, it gives her easy access... It is a fetish and a very intoxicating one, he has probably been doing this for many years, and it is unlikely that he will ever stop. So please talk about it and try and understand it. It is a complex issue, and there are many things going on - the sensual feel of the material, the thril of doing something forbidden, railing at society for not allowing men to wear skirts when women can so easily wear trousers - Yes you crossdress too by wearing trousers, have you thougt of that! Why not buy him a sarong, which is skirt like garment which can be worn by men and let him be open about it around the house - they are so comfortable. This will lessen the desire to do it all in secret which is probably what has hurt you the most. Be honest with each other and talk it through - a strong marriage can withstand this - I know. Good luck.

x-man, 4 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I've been married for 20 yrs and have been cross dressing since I was 8 that 34 yrs I'm not interested in men at all it just makes me feel good to wear those sexy womens clothes. My wife is very under standing and she actually joins in by dressing me up. I suggest you talk to your man and tell him if it makes him feel good then it make you feel good if you can't get past the fact that your man is cross dressing then there is no hope for the 2 of you.

Sally, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

My Fiance does the same thing, and he is also the manliest of men... It's a fetish, that's all... But he never forgets who the woman is when I stand next to him... Don't worry, he is still the man you love

Tez, 5 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Have you tried talking to him??? Obvious I know, but he may not know how to tell you about this secret of his (because of shame/embarrisment), someone has to take the bull by the horns to sort this problem out. You may be surprised by his reasonning, he may not even know why he does it. But this doesn't mean he is gay, you won't know unless you talk to him, he may be just has confused has you. Please talk to him for the sake of yor marriage, don't become another statistic, by running from the first bump on your marriage road (and believe me, it can get bumpy), take the bump head-on and get over it together. Good Luck

Jenni, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Don't worry about it, I'm the most manly man there is, but get turned on by doing the same thing. People are ignorant to think it has anything to do with being gay. Gay is a man who likes a man. Getting turned on by womens things, is a fetish, such as oral sex, bondage, etc. I hate when people lump fethishs with gays.

sarah burns, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Talk to him about it and just accept it as a creative outlet and a normal form of self expression and dressing up. it is strange at first, but you just get used to it in time. It is not a reason to affect your relationship. Crossdressers tend to make amazingly supportive and wonderful fathers.

sarah burns, 6 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

Lots of heterosexual men cross dress, Particularly men who have a high level of power and responsibility in their jobs. It is NORMAL in high status men. They are not gay or strange or perverted. They use it to express their gentler side and to escape for a night from their high pressured, eextremely testosterone driven day jobs. Remember, its only been the last century that heterosexual men have dressed drabbly, look at the way men dressed pre C19. HTH

Chooi, 7 months [Offensive? Unsuitable? Report this comment.]

I think at times man just fancy of women's apparel. Psychologically we called this fetism. Its not something really serious as compare hardcore murder or kidnap. My best guess could be he loves you so much that he wanted to feel how you feel esp when you dressed in his favourite apparel! My suggestion - wear those apparel that you saw him wearing, at a nite and ask him how he feel. If he really excited and eager then its a good sign that you have nothing to worry about as I had said earlier. Worst is if he behave negatively then you have something to worry. Just my two cents opinion